Message to That Girl -
You are NOT fat. While your full, volutuous figure might not appeal to every man, neither do the Pam Andersons of the world (I find her plastic appearance to be revolting). Much more attractive are the real women of the world, you included. Let me rephrase, especially you included. My wife weighed 145 lbs when we got married and, at 5'8" and 36D, was Playboy/Penthouse hot. I'm not sure how much weight she's gained in our 37 years of marriage and don't care. It's probably as much as 100 lbs. But, she's very attentive to many other aspects of her appearance...how she dresses, her skin care, her choice of fragrances, her manicures, her beautiful haircuts, etc. She is also very secure in who she is and behaves in a sexy, yet conservative way...very appealing. As a result of all this, she's more attractive to me now than when she was, by all objective standards, a "knock-out." You should revel in who you are, your sexy appearance (yes...you look sexy to me), and your sexuality. Don't pay attention to our sick, anorexic society. Celebrate who you are everyday. There are many of us who would applaud that.