Getting Girlfriend To Try BBC

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Eldino9, May 26, 2013.

  1. Mercurygirl

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    Being that I'm in the neighborhood of her age group I can tell you that there's a high probability that she wouldn't be interested (at all) in that. I'm sure there are women her age who are that adventurous but they are few and far between. I don't know any college female friends who'd want to have sex with another guy, a stranger, regardless of race, in front of their boyfriend. If she wanted that I doubt it be too difficult for her to go out and get it.

    I think you're watching waaay too much porn and need to be thankful for what you've got. It's not as if you've been married for 15 years, sex has become boring, and you want to spice things up. She fucking 19 for christ's sake. The best you can hope for is what someone already suggested, that being, toys. It's a lot safer bet and she unlikely to dump your ass upon the suggestion.
     
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    These words would probably make a good reply to 50% of all the posts on this forum ... and 75% of all craigslist personals!
     
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    On the flip side of this, my ex-wife and i (before we got married) did an MFM with a guy who was slightly larger than myself. It was awesome, and we had a lot of fun, and it never caused even the smallest problem during our marriage.

    Her meddling mother and addiction to prescription pain medication, however, I can't say the same for...... but i digress. lol

    I brought it up with my most recent ex-gf, and she was down for it, but it just never materialized (never found the right guy for the job). I even asked around on here about it. The fact I brought up an MFM with her never really caused any real friction between us.

    In closing, I guess I'd say you have to carefully gauge what kind of girl you're dealing with here. What is your gut telling you and what have her past actions indicated?

    If you really want to open up that can of worms, your best bet is admitting to her you have a bit of a voyeuristic side and start by inquiring about past sexual exploits. If she's receptive to that concept then maybe, just maybe, you might be able to move forward from there.

    Before you do any of those things, though, you should be honest with yourself and ask yourself if YOU are ready for something like this. If so, then game on. :)
     
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    I'm Mexican & my girl is also & only does big white men. So it's the opposite of your fetish. I'd like a black guy for her eventually as well
     
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    I've always felt the same way about the whole cuckolding thing....:confused:
     
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    The male cuckold is leveraging a biological reaction to become aroused. I doubt he cares what his wife thinks since he's no longer aroused be her, unfortuneatly the wife is doing it because she wants to arouse her husband.

    The whole thing sucks IMHO.
     
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    I love how he says "try a BBC" like it's some kind of foi-gras patte'. You do realize you're talking about a person right?
     
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    Once again we get the same range of pile-on comments -- snide to just ignorant -- when some guy asks for advice about seeing his wife with another man. He doesn't ask for your personal negative opinion about it. He doesn't ask for your analysis of his fantasy. Nor does he ask to be reminded that the guy who is cuckolding him is a person. Give it a break. If you can't conceive of desiring such a thing, click on to the next thread. Why try to make him feel weird?

    The fact is, he is not weird. Many many men in couples feel the way that he does. Fewer, but still a large number of their female partners want the same thing. If that were not true, a great percentage of my very active sex life with couples, since I was a teenager, would not have taken place.

    Even though he raises the question in a short-hand and not very thoughtful way (bbc) I'm going to deal with it seriously. My advice to a guy in his position is do two things: 1) knowing your partner, raise the idea with her in the best way for her to imagine it (for one woman, it could be well-done porn; for another, it could be telling her about someone's experience that you "heard" about). Don't try to get her seduced by a stranger. Talk about it. Do it in a way that she can know that your feelings will not be badly hurt if she does want it... which leads to... 2) Play it through carefully in your own head. Really imagine your wife fucking another man. Imagine that she really does not care about you at all during the act. Imagine that she is really really orgasmic with him. Women love to be overcome in having sex. If you want her to fully enjoy it, it may mean that you just watch, without her "taking of you" or your feelings. Can you deal with that?

    Of course you will feel jealous, hurt, even humiliated. Can you control it? For the hubs who really like to watch their wives, these feelings can be part of what attracts them. They also say that watching it is hugely exciting, one of the hottest experiences of their lives. If your wife is truly interested, find a guy who has done it before several times, who is not going to get emotionally involved. Find him on line at one of a dozen swinging or cuckolding sites. Talk to him in person first, perhaps a few times, before inviting him home. If the first time is uncomfortable, have the courage to try again with another guy. Good luck!
     
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    Call it what you will but I guarantee that the last thing this woman desires is to get rammed by a stranger while her boyfriend beats off in the corner.

    Most likely a year into the relationship she's starting to think long term, marriage, kids, etc...

    And like it or not in most cases the woman is getting used, both by her boyfriend/husband and the "bull".
     
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    The authority of limited experience.
    The world is bigger than your imagination... surprise!
     
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    keep it a fantasy.
     
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    some girls like black guys for whatever reason. I like Asian girls, she likes black guys. luckily for us, its not terribly hard to find what the other wants. but im sure not beating off in the corner while shes getting fucked.
     
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    I wouldn't bring another guy into a relationship with a woman if I wanted the relationship to last. Then again, there's no reason to think this should apply to your relationship with it's unique set of circumstances.
     
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