I remember your site, Clint and yep, it was very hot. Living in LA as I do, and knowing a very diverse group of people as I do, here's what I know about the adult industry for men. Straight porn doesn't really pay very well for men and the best way to get into straight porn is to make friends with an actress who can then request you for a scene. It really is the actresses who call the shots in straight porn. As far as your appearance goes, yes, having a big dick is great, but increasingly you also have to be well, maybe not Brad Pitt handsome (though increasingly a lot of porn guys are) but you definitely have to have a good look and a taut body (Ron Jeremy is well-loved in the industry, but he doesn't really do a lot of porn anymore and a lot of the younger actresses aren't interested in working with him.) That old notion that guys could look like roadkill and do okay in porn doesn't hold water anymore - there are too many great-looking guys doing it now. And, you will always be a co-star, never a star in a straight porn production. The guys who are making money in straight porn are not only acting in, but also directing and producing their own lines of videos - that's where the money is for the men. That said, yes, a lot of gay guys, myself included love straight porn for the guys. And, if you could do that and manage to get on the gay personal appearance circuit, you might be able to make it all work (I don't know why more straight porn actors don't do that except that there is still some rampant homophobia among some of the old guard.)
Gay porn is where the guys make the dough. But just jerking off isn't going to work for long if you plan on making money. You will, at the very least, have to top other actors - meaning fuck them and let them blow you. Better still if you can kiss and at least suck back (you ARE an actor, aren't you?) But the film work pays shit. The big money is in the marketing, the personal appearances and for some guys, the escorting. By far though, most of the actors in gay porn are gay guys who do it as a sideline for shits and giggles. (You'd be amazed at the number of architects, graphic designers, lawyers, insurance agents and accountants who pick up some pocket change, have a few laughs, and improve their sex lives by appearing in the occasional porn flick.)
I'm with the guys who are telling you that the internet is the way to go. Good luck, man. I'll definitely be keeping my eye peeled for ya.