Watching a woman struggle to handle my girth is a boost to my ego, up until the point that she is experiencing non-pleasurable pain. If my cock is causing a her pussy pain it actually causes me to begin to lose my erection.
I agree. I go real slow so I can just stop completely. I had one gf once that was so tight, it took 10 minutes or more to get all the way in. I started the gentle-est rocking movement ever. and she told me to stop, don't move, she said she felt like she was gonna split open, a few seconds later she asked me to pull out slowly. I did. she was all apologetic, she was sweating, very upset. after that, she would get on top and slowly work me in. since I am widest at my base, the last 2" would result in gasping "OMG"!! took about a month, mostly just on weekend nites before she got comfortable with my size.
but it was worth it, she was a gorgeous woman, not very experienced. I could pop erection after erection looking at her beautiful body, giving her orgasm after orgasm. when you roll off and they are unable to speak and are quivering for 10-15 minutes, you're doing it right. I had more than one woman tell me they never really knew what sex was until they fucked me. you aren't gonna get that if you go too fast.