Getting older in gay society: becoming a 'daddy'

[Exbiker]

I'm 51.

Though apparently I don't really look it to most people...

I used to find the "daddy" thing a bit creepy, but I guess it's ok...

I'd prefer to stick to 'Sir'.

 

[poibear]

I've experienced the same thing over the last 18 months too. more lads of grindr in particular wanting to hook up and I've managed to get a bit more fun.I had some daddy buds when i was younger but didnt really think about it much at the time. a couple always wanted me to be top and were crazy about it. I've been mostly top all my life but now I've got an urge to be bottom a lot more and there is something really hot about a young guys dick pounding you. Perhaps thats what my dad buds liked.

i noticed this morning that more of my chest and now my beard, shoulders and back hair is going grey and starting to look quite cool now. I hope to god that my pubes wont go grey!

 

[Chrysippus]

I've experienced the same thing over the last 18 months too. more lads of grindr in particular wanting to hook up and I've managed to get a bit more fun.I had some daddy buds when i was younger but didnt really think about it much at the time. a couple always wanted me to be top and were crazy about it. I've been mostly top all my life but now I've got an urge to be bottom a lot more and there is something really hot about a young guys dick pounding you. Perhaps thats what my dad buds liked.

i noticed this morning that more of my chest and now my beard, shoulders and back hair is going grey and starting to look quite cool now. I hope to god that my pubes wont go grey!

Re pubes, consider
1.) Just for Men, or
2.) shaving and a merkin!

 

[evolution]

i noticed this morning that more of my chest and now my beard, shoulders and back hair is going grey and starting to look quite cool now. I hope to god that my pubes wont go grey!

Yep, them too. Fortunately as you get older you get near sighted, so you won't be able to see they're grey.

 

[EquusAZ]

Yep, them too. Fortunately as you get older you get near sighted, so you won't be able to see they're grey.

LOL!!!!

My eyesight has been 'going' for years!

Anyway - I think the comments on attitude changes are a key part. I dunno why - BDSM is becoming a 'thing' for me. Well...I KNOW why....but nuff said. You want specifics msg me. But I dont FLAUNT it.

That and a new "fuck it" attitude has come to me since my divorce. And since I started that, well....I think that may have been the big part.

I think it may be a lot of subtle signals I'm giving off maybe....

 

[chrisrobin]

I've experienced the same thing over the last 18 months too. more lads of grindr in particular wanting to hook up and I've managed to get a bit more fun.I had some daddy buds when i was younger but didnt really think about it much at the time. a couple always wanted me to be top and were crazy about it. I've been mostly top all my life but now I've got an urge to be bottom a lot more and there is something really hot about a young guys dick pounding you. Perhaps thats what my dad buds liked.

i noticed this morning that more of my chest and now my beard, shoulders and back hair is going grey and starting to look quite cool now. I hope to god that my pubes wont go grey!

can always try dying your pubes if they do..... awesome experience and very horny

 

[chrisrobin]

I'm 51.

Though apparently I don't really look it to most people...

I used to find the "daddy" thing a bit creepy, but I guess it's ok...

I'd prefer to stick to 'Sir'.

quite happy to call you "sir" especially if you wear a jock as long as you call me dad!

 

[poibear]

can always try dying your pubes if they do..... awesome experience and very horny

Lol.i did that once when my flatmate died his hair electric blue. I just ended up with a smurf dick as the dye went everywhere

 

[chrisrobin]

Lol.i did that once when my flatmate died his hair electric blue. I just ended up with a smurf dick as the dye went everywhere

I ended up with really black black pubes - corrected it later with a brown dye, however got rid of the grey and gave me a very obvious sexual triangle

 

[EquusAZ]

Lol.i did that once when my flatmate died his hair electric blue. I just ended up with a smurf dick as the dye went everywhere

lol

 

[evolution]

I suspect colouring your pubes would be much more enjoyable if you have a helper do the painting, or at least holding any anatomical 'stuff' out of the way while you paint.....

Could be fun to color them in crazy colors. Electric Green this month, Smurf Blue next month.... Good photo opps too.

 

[bravesoldier]

To me a hot, handsome, mature and distinguished Daddy can be hotter than the hottest young college guy. In actuality they're both hot but there is MUCH to be said about a smoking hot Daddy with beautiful salt and pepper hair and distinguished character lines on his face that speak of nothing more than time, experience and authority. A gray hairy chest, thick beard and of course a heavy, seasoned (uncut a bonus) cock makes

it all the better. I have seen untold young guys and girls that fawn over hot older men.

 

[Hudsonwhite]

I would totally agree! Good for the silver hair!

 

[chrisrobin]

as we all age, and yes we do all age even in this period of botox and beauty creams, body tanning and skin tightening and working out to get the body beautiful, suddenly you'll find that the age of youth has passed you, suddenly you are members of the pariah group of "old men" who dribble over youth and get scorned by them.
So thank heavens for older guys like those above, perfectly aged like a fine wine, good to look at and even better in bed - with age comes experience and the know how to use their brains as well as their cocks.
At the speed of light like a train hitting the buffers we all arrive at "that age" though many will lie and pretend otherwise, but looking bad its suddenly a world of the less shallow into deeper thinkers where last weeks fashions are of no interest nor the latest tweet from the lovely Brittany (don't you all wish you were just like her?).
More to the point life is for living and in this day and age of instant communication where the young feel they run the roost, and if they are not young are mutton dressed as lamb, its the older folks who'll get you by.
So for satisfaction go for the grey and sliver headed, your erogenous zones will have never been so tantalised

 

[bi_todd]

For the past couple of years I have started attracting younger guys. A couple of them (both in their 20s) have become regulars. At first it was unsettling to hear the word daddy called out during sex, but I'm now getting used to it as a term of endearment. I accept that it is meant as a sign of affection even if I'm not always comfortable hearing it.

The whole daddy thing seems to be a rising trend in gay culture. Even though I'm in the middle of a couple of these relationships myself, I can't say that I completely get it. I queried one of my boys to help me understand things better.

He avoids guys his own age because he views them as directionless and full of drama. He also enjoys an experienced man taking care of his sexual needs (he openly admits that sex is way better with me). He is a 24 year old twink but shuns Grindr in favor of Growlr and Scruff for his cruising (we met at a lunchtime sex party, however).

In addition to sex, we also go out on occasional dates (dinner, concert, hikes, etc). He would like to turn me into his sugar daddy, but I resist buying him stuff. I find that daddies also sometimes act like real fathers in giving advice about life and relationships. I've even helped him write his college entrance papers for grad school.

My ego is certainly flattered by the attention of these young handsome guys. On the plus side, there is a lot of spontaneity and it is fun to live the life of a young person again (blowjobs in cars, late night fucking in city parks, etc). On the negative side, the difference in sexual expertise and life experience quickly becomes evident. Some of these young guys are just not that good at sex, and conversations can be rather shallow. For emotional satisfaction and great sex, I still gravitate to other married guys closer to my own age. There's just a lot less explaining.

Finally (and importantly), I consciously try to live by Dan Savage's campsite rule in the older/younger relationships.
( https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Campsite rule&=true )
So far, at least, I think I've done a good job of not making a mess of things.

Even though I don't completely understand it, I'll ride the daddy wave while I can. I try to live life to the fullest when unexpected opportunities like this surface.

 

[chrisrobin]

For the past couple of years I have started attracting younger guys. A couple of them (both in their 20s) have become regulars. At first it was unsettling to hear the word daddy called out during sex, but I'm now getting used to it as a term of endearment. I accept that it is meant as a sign of affection even if I'm not always comfortable hearing it.

The whole daddy thing seems to be a rising trend in gay culture. Even though I'm in the middle of a couple of these relationships myself, I can't say that I completely get it. I queried one of my boys to help me understand things better.

He avoids guys his own age because he views them as directionless and full of drama. He also enjoys an experienced man taking care of his sexual needs (he openly admits that sex is way better with me). He is a 24 year old twink but shuns Grindr in favor of Growlr and Scruff for his cruising (we met at a lunchtime sex party, however).

In addition to sex, we also go out on occasional dates (dinner, concert, hikes, etc). He would like to turn me into his sugar daddy, but I resist buying him stuff. I find that daddies also sometimes act like real fathers in giving advice about life and relationships. I've even helped him write his college entrance papers for grad school.

My ego is certainly flattered by the attention of these young handsome guys. On the plus side, there is a lot of spontaneity and it is fun to live the life of a young person again (blowjobs in cars, late night fucking in city parks, etc). On the negative side, the difference in sexual expertise and life experience quickly becomes evident. Some of these young guys are just not that good at sex, and conversations can be rather shallow. For emotional satisfaction and great sex, I still gravitate to other married guys closer to my own age. There's just a lot less explaining.

Finally (and importantly), I consciously try to live by Dan Savage's campsite rule in the older/younger relationships.
( https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Campsite rule&=true )
So far, at least, I think I've done a good job of not making a mess of things.

Even though I don't completely understand it, I'll ride the daddy wave while I can. I try to live life to the fullest when unexpected opportunities like this surface.

I think in some places the younger finding attractions in older guys is prevalent. In my case I was sought out by a couple of guys only just uk legal - because they wanted to experience experience. It was flattering to say the least and we had really great sex sessions but it quite often felt like I was breaking in virgins ( I wasn't). And I was double their combined ages at the time

 

[cspelts]

Where the fuck do I fit in? I think I am getting to the age that I don't give a fuck. I feel "hot" for my age and Peter pan has not left the building yet. I will be 48 this year and I am terrified of "feeling"... Not "being" old..... I like the silver hair coming in. I do not like the isolation of having to conform. WTF! Lost in cincy!

 

[chrisrobin]

Where the fuck do I fit in? I think I am getting to the age that I don't give a fuck. I feel "hot" for my age and Peter pan has not left the building yet. I will be 48 this year and I am terrified of "feeling"... Not "being" old..... I like the silver hair coming in. I do not like the isolation of having to conform. WTF! Lost in cincy!

the answer is to retire to a gated community in Florida where they take all sorts and ages.... but costly...

 

[wappingite]

The daddy thing is all relative and seems to depend on context. Sometimes, it's an issue of age, dominance, stature or appearence. If you browse 'daddy porn', there will be videos listed as 'daddy' with a guy in his early 30's without a grey hair in sight. Being a 'daddy' seems to be a role more than a literal meaning.

I'm 46 and started getting called 'daddy' during encounters within the last few years. I'm at that age where it can go either way. I was at a group sex venue with a wide age range recently. A played with a guy in his late 20s who kept calling me 'daddy' then later I played with a guy not much older than myself who called himself 'daddy'. I'm not very good at role play and tend to spoil it with laughing.

Generationally conflicted!

 

[notthatguy]

53 year old guy here. When i have tired out the girlfriends, both of them, and am stil horny, i put an ad on Craigslist for a blowjob from a guy under the age of 25. I will usually get 5-10 offers within 30 minutes.

Now half are looking for money but half just want to suck a daddy. If i am feeling lazy, i have them come to me. Most do not have cars and will spend 30 minutes getting to my place by bus.

They walk in, drop to their knees and suck. I am completely average at 6 inches so sucking me is easy. After they get my load, they usually keep on sucking after they realize i am not getting soft. After the second cum, i am usually offered their ass, which i sometimes take or just have them continue sucking.

Once done, i call them an Uber and send them home.

There is a serious percentage of guys out there with daddy issues which works out great for us horny daddies.