The key to getting over someone isn't to try to forget them and beat yourself up over not being over them, it's to accept that you're not over them.
Just accept that you're missing them and find peace with the fact that it'll hurt for a while and there's nothing wrong with that.
I've never felt more pathetic than when I lost someone I love, who hurt me a lot and treated me like shit pretty often and broke all contact with me and I missed her so much for a year and I hated myself for it. 'Why can't I just get over her? What's wrong with me? Other people get over it so much quickly" But naw, they don't. They just don't beat themselves up over it.
So after a while it isn't about 'missing someone' as much as it is about 'getting over something' and the more value you attach to 'getting over something' the more emotional weight it will carry, in turn making it a bigger deal and much harder to let go.
..know what I mean?
What I'm saying is. Don't worry. You'll at one point get over it and you won't even notice it when it happens. Don't count the days and don't force it. Be glad that you can miss someone that much because you only do because you've loved someone so much and that in itself is something to be happy about.
Just accept that you're missing them and find peace with the fact that it'll hurt for a while and there's nothing wrong with that.
I've never felt more pathetic than when I lost someone I love, who hurt me a lot and treated me like shit pretty often and broke all contact with me and I missed her so much for a year and I hated myself for it. 'Why can't I just get over her? What's wrong with me? Other people get over it so much quickly" But naw, they don't. They just don't beat themselves up over it.
So after a while it isn't about 'missing someone' as much as it is about 'getting over something' and the more value you attach to 'getting over something' the more emotional weight it will carry, in turn making it a bigger deal and much harder to let go.
..know what I mean?
What I'm saying is. Don't worry. You'll at one point get over it and you won't even notice it when it happens. Don't count the days and don't force it. Be glad that you can miss someone that much because you only do because you've loved someone so much and that in itself is something to be happy about.