Getting revenge on an ex
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HiddenLacey
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You know what that's exactly how I felt too. Like I was just a better person all around. It's very empowering!
i've never once regretted holding my head high and being infuriatingly reasonable.
no matter how much you resent their past behaviour, they aren't strong enough to turn you into an arsehole.
they just aren't that important.
empowering is exactly the right word.
ok so me admitting i felt like crap makes me low and a toddler huh at least when im wrong i can admit it atleast im not sitting here being an ass to some1 that made a mistake when they were younger! at least im adult enough not to put ppl down just cuz i dont like what they did yrs ago!!
no, doing it in the first place was lashing out like a toddler.
you posted it as a ''haha! it was so funny!'', not as an ''i regretted exacting revenge''. that's today's attitude, which i choose to judge.
you can judge all you want everyone makes mistakes and i dont need some stupid judgement slut telling me she can judge me cuz my additude today is i can laugh about it now but regretted it then you can take ur high and mighty additude and shove it up ur ass
*sigh*
judgemental
attitude
i would also query the use of ''slut'' as an insult.
it's tediously cliché and unimaginative and, considering how famously frigid i am, too far off the mark to be anything other than silly and misogynistic.
F- must try harder.
I would imagine if more people engaged in revenge, more people would behave themselves. A friend of mine told me that the husband of one of her colleagues came to work one evening to find his wife's lover and kicked his ass in the parking lot. She said that guy got demoted.
That story should put the fire of fear in everyone's heart.
I suppose the problem is that there is no due process and therefore the possibility of no fitting revenge to fit the nastiness that was dished out.
Generally my revenge is to cut all ties with that person and whenever possible to avoid that person. And when not possible, to maintain a distant politeness when I encounter them. But I have found that even this form of "revenge" is considered petty by a few people as well.
That story should put the fire of fear in everyone's heart.
I suppose the problem is that there is no due process and therefore the possibility of no fitting revenge to fit the nastiness that was dished out.
Generally my revenge is to cut all ties with that person and whenever possible to avoid that person. And when not possible, to maintain a distant politeness when I encounter them. But I have found that even this form of "revenge" is considered petty by a few people as well.
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what about pakistan?
there's a culture where dishing out your own personal revenge is socially acceptable.
acid attacks are good if a girl turns you down.
''death by stove'' is one of the most common causes of death for women...angry husbands set them on fire and blame faulty cookers.
honour killings are a lovely tradition that has started to spread around the world.
revenge has a way of escalating.
there's a culture where dishing out your own personal revenge is socially acceptable.
acid attacks are good if a girl turns you down.
''death by stove'' is one of the most common causes of death for women...angry husbands set them on fire and blame faulty cookers.
honour killings are a lovely tradition that has started to spread around the world.
revenge has a way of escalating.
...maybe it is one thing to have an innocent laugh over something at the ex's expense, it is another to border on criminal conduct to get revenge, but I also tend to agree that revenge is silly in the end. I mean, the best revenge in most cases is being a successful person, moving on, doing better then the ex, etc.
HiddenLacey
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I agree with you Dolfette,
I have to admit some friends of mine did some revenge on him. But I had nothing to do with it and I didn't even know about it until weeks afterward. At which point I was upset (not angry) just upset with them because they could have gotten into trouble. Thankfully no charges were pressed and life went on. Revenge thankfully did not hurt anyone I loved. There's no reason for it, you don't get back whatever you feel like you lost, and it doesn't heal any feelings inside. If anything it would give me a horrible sense of self guilt.
Well, depending on what he did to deserve it, it seems a very creative and relatively benign act of revenge. Especially as it was ongoing, unpredictable and the imagery is hilarious. Certainly better than beating the crap out of somebody.
"Living well is the best revenge." I still have that T-shirt from the eighties. :smile:
Dolfette, those actions are not seen as revenge. They are seen as maintaining family values. Whereas we westerners see family values in repsecting the individual, the family unit in the East is seen as a corporate entity and everyone is dispensable to maintaining the family value.
acid attacks are good if a girl turns you down. the guy was hoping to score above his league to bring honor to his family.
''death by stove'' is one of the most common causes of death for women...angry husbands set them on fire and blame faulty cookers. I've seen this also referred to as bride burning. Usually because the dowry that the bride was due to bring over wasn't big enough. Sadly, the MIL can be in on this as much as the hsuband. And the bride's family doesn't want her back to the due shame to the family.
honour killings are a lovely tradition that has started to spread around the world. usually only done to the daughter because she has brought to the shame to the family by dating or sometimes even only being friendly to men that the parents don't approve of. I read not long ago that a Muslim father in Turkey buried his 15 yo daughter alive for this reason. Investigation into the case brought out that several family members helped the father. And becuase there was much dirt inside the victim's body, it seems pretty certain she was alive when she was buried.
But as I said, those perpetrators of these acts do not see as revenge but simply as business as usual. From what I read, any effort to help these women and to try to eliminate these practices comes from charities not from the respective governments. Funny how with Pakistan having had a female Prime Minister of many years, and what we deem as women's issues like these were not her agenda.
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wow u guys are assholes he was just tring to share an old story fuck u we are outta here
Sound like the child that took a tantrum and hid in his mother's closet. She heard something going on for about 15 minutes, then nothing. she opened the door and said 'what are you doing. Response: 'I spitty on your shoes, I spitty on your dresses, and now I waiting for some more spitty.'
no its called zero Patience drama queens that think they are all that when in fact they are just piece of shits you need to grow the fuck up and stop picking on ppl cuz you hate ur self now good bye lpsg.org
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