Getting serviced... I just don't get it.

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  1. QuiteOne

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    I've always wondered about the phenomenon of what I would term "getting serviced". By that I mean a guy just sitting back and getting his dick sucked or getting a hand job. Personally it doesn't do a thing for me. I prefer constant interaction and physicality. Just laying there and having someone else do all the work just seems downright lazy. I'm curious how others can relate the mental aspect of this to me. Is it a power/control thing? For some reason it I interpret it as selfishness.

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    same here
     
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    It's a little like a massage or a pedicure; you get to kick back and relax and somebody does something really nice for you to make you feel better. I don't help the person who's cutting my hair, y'know...
     
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    getting serviced is a give and take at my house...love it...giving commands to get the job done correctly is part of the alure...if you having a giving partner that is willing to invest in an hour long session and then return the favor, this is possibly the best sex ever...now saying that as a mature man...a younger man/woman may have a different approach...sex changes as the body changes...and does get better as time and life change
     
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    Exactly!
     
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    I usually prefer interaction but have met a couple of guys who get off on giving me service, and they are excellent cocksuckers! So I just sit down and they suck me off until I cum! Its great, no sweating at all. :biggrin1:
     
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    I like giving b/j i dont know i love seeing the pleausre i give someone from the good job i do, love seeing the eyes roll back in the guys head just gets me going lol
     
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    I have been "serviced" before, but I am not the kind to just let someone go down on me or ride it without giving something back to them. I found that one usually hangs on better to women doing that. Just a tip.
     
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    i personally love getting serviced, and there is a TON of interaction between my GF and i when she is getting me off. she looks into my eyes with desire, we kiss passionately while she strokes me off.......which is a huge turn on. she builds me up and backs me off over and over. she totally takes control of me and my pleasure through my pulsing rod. it's awesome, honestly, and she gets off just as much by what she's doing to me as i am feeling it.

    i likewise enjoy doing the same to her. taking control of her pleasure and watching her react and surrender to the sensations coursing through her body.
     
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    I have to agree with the above post I love to be serviced too, there is plenty of interaction I tell my guy whether he should go fast or slow, where to lick or suck or probe. He loves to service too and can remain rock hard throughout, he gets his pleasure from pleasing me. His aim is always to get me off as much as he can until my body physically can't take anymore.

    For me it is completely a control thing, but then thats just who I am :wink: sometimes I demand it but most of the time he offers it.
     
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    agree with you there; I've got two buddies; both consider themselves str8. hear from them about every 4-6 weeks. want to come ove and 'hang out'. meaning: str8 porn in the DVD and I blow them. I used to feel it was too submissive to be the blower but now have cum to realize that its my mouth, my teeth, and my hands on their most private of privates...so who's really in control!?! I control when and how they cum; they are controled by me....so who's really the dominant one now!?! lol
     
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    Ditto!
     
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    Like most phenomena, there is no single explanation, but here are two of the most salient IMO --

    1) As Joy of Gay Sex points out, with 69 there can be an embarrassment of riches. You have a split focus -- sucking him while he is sucking you. But if you're servicing him you can focus on his cock and balls and his reactions to your warm mouth, your lips, and your tongue. (Hard yet? I am.) Or if you're getting serviced you're focusing on the sensations he's giving you. Also nice. You might trade places, in which case I don't see how it's selfish. Some guys trade places within the session, which is not my preference -- I'd rather be the sucker or the suckee at any one encounter, not keep switching back and forth that session. If he wants to alternate, I'd rather suck him one session and have him suck me the other session. Despite the name of this group, the brain truly is the most important sex organ. I find it distracting to bounce back and forth between the headspace of sucker and headspace of suckee. I'd rather get totally into one mood or the other at any one time.

    2) Power/control thing does come into play for some people. But not all role play is about power/control. Cock worship might be a power thing sort of, but definitely isn't a control thing per se. What role play is about is -- once again -- head space. Separate and apart from the physicality, is the stimulation going on in your head. Cock worship pretty much requires one guy getting serviced. It's just really nice to have a huge dick right in front of your face where you can fully appreciate (and take your time), or to have a guy down on his knees begging for your cock. Both roles get me off. I guess that makes me bisexual. LOL

    Hope that helps. However, there are some things that some people just don't get. If you don't have sensitive nipples, you're not going to get how much pleasure there is for guys with wired nips. If your brain can't detect pheremones, the intoxicating smell of testosterone wafting up from a sweaty bodybuilder at the gym, or the musky smell of his balls and jockstrap might be something you won't be able to understand. It's the same with headspace in general or specific spaces. If you experience it you get it, but if not you will either sort of understand when someone explains it to you, or you won't. And in that case there's just nothing to do but accept that it's something you don't get. Hope THAT helps.
     
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    The give and take with an active cocksucker happens between the mouth/throat and the guy's cock, the mouth responds to how the cock reacts to each move, even a flick of the tongue under the cockhead can send shivers down his spine, and when it's done right, the guy getting "serviced" has to regain his composure after the orgasm because the experience is so overwhelming... and the sucker has complete control over the guy getting sucked, which is usually a role reversal for tops (and most married guys)... the effect is incredible if the sucker is good, and they will always come back for more!

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    Shit if that pussy is bomb I have no problem with just going down on that beautiful slit, just so happens that my dick gets pulled out ever time though. I'm telling ya, sometimes I'm happy just making her happy.

    I'm tellin the true, I just look at it this way...... what goes around comes around so I ain't ever worried about it
     
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    It works both ways for me. Rather hard for me to turn down someone who's willing to get down on their knees for me. Also, with the right people I like being able to give them a taste of their own medicine. I guess it's a power trip to some level, but at the same time, both people feel dominant at the same time. I mean... if you're willing to put your cock into someone's mouth, you're completely at the servicer's mercy. (S)he can either put you in the best or worst mood of your life with just their lips and tongue. At the same time, to be on the other end of that service really makes your head swell (and yes, I meant the pun). To be able to find someone truly gifted in giving head and watching them work their magic, with the occasional glimpse upward to see what kind of facial expressions I may be making. It all works for me! Sometimes, I'm so into oral that I don't get a chance to get into the anal part of things. Either way, it's all good and all fun.

    All this talk about servicing, getting and giving good head... and nobody to experiment with. Damn!! Now I need to find myself a 3-4 man oral cockfest. :biggrin:
     
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    I love being serviced, but usually I prefer more active interaction.

    That being said, there's a guy I visit from time to time who's the most excellent cocksucker I've ever experienced. He doesn't want me to do anything but stand in front of him and cum after a few minutes.

    As soon as I walk in his door, he's down on his knees. After rubbing and playing with my cock for a bit, he opens my belt, opens my fly and starts sucking my cock through my briefs. A few minutes later, the briefs are around my ankles, and he's really going to town. Pretty soon thereafter, I'm emptying a big load into his mouth.

    I've tried to get some reciprocation going, but he's never agreeable.
     
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    keep that guy as a friend...have heard of friends like that but have not been as fortunate
     
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    Some days when The Squeeze comes home from work and it's obvious life has not been kind to him that day, I forgo our normal routine by pushing him down on the sofa and giving him a long (10 or more minutes) deep-throated blow job. It seems to perk up his spirits. Then again, I also really enjoy sucking cock. Always have.

    At the end of these sessions he has finally learned how to completely let himself go to arrive at a gushing climax without having to furiously work up sweat with his hand to achieve a "happy ending." It took some training, but he now knows it's perfectly OK to throw back his head and fantasize about anything he wants to imagine and leave his tool in my caring hands and mouth.

    By the way Lkng4thick, Beetz and Cheese Whiz! Sir! You are truly a master at what is obviously one of your favorite pass times. I take off my straw beach hat in awe of your incredible ability to deep throat such enormous tools. Nice work.
     
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    I couldn't do that from either the active or passive position. I'd be too afraid of infection to consider it. If I had a permanent and trusted partner, it would be a different matter, but I don't.

    I noticed that in the video clips, no protection was used.
     
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