I've always wondered about the phenomenon of what I would term "getting serviced". By that I mean a guy just sitting back and getting his dick sucked or getting a hand job.
I'm curious how others can relate the mental aspect of this to me. Is it a power/control thing?
Like most phenomena, there is no single explanation, but here are two of the most salient IMO --
1) As Joy of Gay Sex points out, with 69 there can be an embarrassment of riches. You have a split focus -- sucking him while he is sucking you. But if you're servicing him you can focus on his cock and balls and his reactions to your warm mouth, your lips, and your tongue. (Hard yet? I am.) Or if you're getting serviced you're focusing on the sensations he's giving you. Also nice. You might trade places, in which case I don't see how it's selfish. Some guys trade places within the session, which is not my preference -- I'd rather be the sucker or the suckee at any one encounter, not keep switching back and forth that session. If he wants to alternate, I'd rather suck him one session and have him suck me the other session. Despite the name of this group, the brain truly is the most important sex organ. I find it distracting to bounce back and forth between the headspace of sucker and headspace of suckee. I'd rather get totally into one mood or the other at any one time.
2) Power/control thing does come into play for some people. But
not all role play is about power/control. Cock worship might be a power thing sort of, but definitely isn't a control thing per se. What role play is about is -- once again -- head space. Separate and apart from the physicality, is the stimulation going on in your head. Cock worship pretty much requires one guy getting serviced. It's just really nice to have a huge dick right in front of your face where you can fully appreciate (and take your time), or to have a guy down on his knees begging for your cock. Both roles get me off. I guess that makes me bisexual. LOL
Hope that helps. However, there
are some things that some people just don't get. If you don't have sensitive nipples, you're not going to get how much pleasure there is for guys with wired nips. If your brain can't detect pheremones, the intoxicating smell of testosterone wafting up from a sweaty bodybuilder at the gym, or the musky smell of his balls and jockstrap might be something you won't be able to understand. It's the same with headspace in general or specific spaces. If you experience it you get it, but if not you will either sort of understand when someone explains it to you, or you won't. And in that case there's just nothing to do but accept that it's something you don't get. Hope THAT helps.