Getting used to anal

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With the help of these fora, I've opened my horizons and started letting my curiosity run wild. I'm still a newbie of taking cock in my ass.

I do what every says to do but I still can't get used to actually being fucked.

I find having a hard dick in my ass pleasurable, but more just in there, not moving around. It's just very uncomfortable no matter how much lube is involved. We tend to grind and he can come but actual fucking is really rough for me.

Yes, his penis is large but I don't think that's the issue so much.

Is this a matter of practice or am I just not cut out for this?

It's pleasurable and erotic to take a large penis and to have it fill me up but the pumping's no good.

He likes it when I fuck him but I just like it stable inside me.

Is this natural for a beginner?
 

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The best part is just getting it in, which is a challenge nonetheless.

Same way with dildos--just getting the big head in causes me to go weak.

Keep in mind this guy is very thick. First 3 times we tried it didn't work and I literally almost in tears twice.

But once we established the timing and pace, it's been amazing.
 

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when i first started it wasn't easy. but time moved on and i fell heavily in lust/love and i fucken just had to have it. then all bets were off. my life changed....take your time and go easy.
 

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Don't have any expectations. Do what you feel like doing. Stop when you're in pain. I think you'll find you like a little more movement over time. Remember that sex is intimate physical pleasure between two people. Beyond that there are no ground rules. Its good that you have a regular guy, so that you can learn each other's bodies and preferences over time.

Also, as a suggestion, I would recommend more anal foreplay for you. Having him finger or rim you, or use smaller dildos. You might get into enjoying them, and then you can learn to appreciate physical motion down there.

But don't worry about things. Do what you enjoy, and enjoy what you do.
 

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As with many things in life, it is not the same for everyone. However, as a newbie you do have a lot to learn about taking dick. I'd say that if it is what you want and you like the full feeling, you are well on your way to being able to giving up some good ass.

No one told me when I started about the benefits of being cleaned/cleared out. That is a game changer for sure. If you are not making sure your rectum and lower colon are clear that might be the source of your discomfort. If you are cleaning out then it may just be a learning curve thing.

My two cents - Experiment with your new found fun-time activity:
Have him enter you in a position where you can easily jerk yourself off and cum like that with him moving as little as possible or not at all if that is possible.
Or, sit on his dick and ride him going at the speed that works best for you. Or the same thing in another position.
If having him stroke when you are fully penerated is uncomfortable, try having him stroke/fuck with partial penetration (head, one-quarter of length, etc.).
Also, try having him finger you, alot, using lots of lube and as many fingers possible; once two or more fingers can easily slide in and out of you, his penis may feel more comfortable stroking your butt.
Sometimes taking breaks works and sometimes taking dick and pushing through the pain is even better.
Speaking of pushing through, when he is hitting those walls, push out like you are empting your bowels; and remember to breathe (exhaling especially).

And despite the porn vids/stories, getting it in going ram-rod is not always that great. Working it in slowly, leaving it in being still and passionate, grinding together, and building up to a "fuck me, please, fuck me!!..." frenzy is the sweetest, hottest, best fucking sex, IMHO!

Hope this helps and that you have many good fucking memories becoming a great bottom man!
 

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My bf is huge & after 2.5yrs im finally able to take it like a champ. Before it hurt so much that id litterally pull away from him and had to walk it off and sometimes cried lol. He still has to start slow but now I have about 80% pleasure and 20% discomfort but it feels so damn good when he thrust every inch deep inside of me. i found riding him was a good way of easing into things and patience.
 

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Honestly, I think there's no "getting used to anal" b/c every time feels like the first time. It hurts like hell while it's happening. The thing that gets better is, The more you do it, the less time it takes to recover.

I hate it and I can definitely do without it.
 

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Honestly, I think there's no "getting used to anal" b/c every time feels like the first time. It hurts like hell while it's happening. The thing that gets better is, The more you do it, the less time it takes to recover.

I hate it and I can definitely do without it.

Lol, I never really felt sore or anything afterward. No real recovery time, just wanna keep doing it.

What's the most painful for me is the initial insertion. God, I HATE that feeling! But once it's in, I'm all game. Go as rough/hard as you want/can.
 

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Coming from the other side, I found that I wasn't so much a fan with giving it - it felt like I was sticking my dick through an o ring and then it wasn't overly pleasurable beyond that -- like a condom that was really tight in one place. She wasn't too happy, either.
 

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my buddy told me that an uncut cock is better to have anal with because the head is covered and you dont feel the head enter too much like a cut cock..he also said when a cut cock enters it hurts especially if its a large size head and it jabs inside as it enters
 

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Relax. Set your mind correctly. U want it sensual? Or hardcore and forceful?
Also, buy a dildo (smaller than the current dick u r trying to take) and work yourself in. Back when I did a lot of dildo play, I didn't go straight to the monster sized things right away. Work up to it.