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  1. alx

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    Well we havent been together all that long but we are very open with each other. Whilst talking about things we like, what turns us on and what we would like to try she let on about wanting to watch lesbian porn together whilst I pleasure her. (This is one of the many things we have discussed)

    She was very specific about what the porn needed to have. She was a virgin when we met and has only watch porn 3 times ever( all girl on girl).

    -The movie needs to have a natural flow/ feel.

    -The women must be pretty (not heavily made up)

    -The opening scene must be a social situation where it's two friends or Co worker etc.

    -The women must be clothed and have a substantial undressing scene followed by touching and making out.

    -The women are preferred to be smaller breasted( A-C) and must be natural.

    -The sex cannot be over the top/ fake/ extreme.

    So basically she's asked me if I could find such a movie for her that we could watch together.

    She knows I won't judge her on anything and I've reassured her that I think it's healthy for her to explore herself sexually and that it's normal for her to get turned on by girl on girl situations.
    The thing that most turns her on in porn is the build up and the undressing. Is this typical?

    She has told me that if a threesome was on the table it would have to be with a girl. She's told me she would have liked to try to have sex with another women (not now as she only wants and desires me) but would never have a relationship with one and doesn't understand lesbian relationships one bit.

    Now I'm not worried in the slightest, I think it's just her exploring herself sexually and I think she gets turned on by the whole situation rather than the fact it's just fancying women. She says She only ever wants to be with me and she only let me know this because She knows I would understand her completely.

    So firstly I ask the LPSG women (and men) do you think this is normal and healthy?

    Do you enjoy lesbian porn?

    Am I going about this in the right way?

    .... Didn't know if this was a women's issue or a relationship issue? Move if appropriate. Thanks.
     
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  2. The Dragon

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    I enjoy lesbian porn and these days it's the bulk of what I watch.

    If you want to encourage her to get explore this side of her sexuality I'd take her to a gay/lesbian night club just so she can get the vibe with the comfort of you being there to support her.
    You can talk about the women who catch her eye with no pressure to act upon it.
    And I thinks that's the thing.
    Support without pressure.

    For the type of movie she's after that would fit the bill I can't recommend Stella's "Butterfly" enough.
    It's one of my favs.
     
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    I love watching Lesbian porn as well. My honey and I watch it together all the time (or I watch while he gives me orgasms). And I agree with Dragon, Stella's "Butterfly" is truely amazing. It is produced by Viv Thomas. You can go to their webiste www.vivthomas.com and watch trailers of most of their movies, buy and download them even. However, I ususally find the one that I like and see if I can find it cheaper somewhere else. But their movies are very high quality. Good Luck!

    *edit* check out Nell from Viv Thomas as well...very nice body and natural and she is great at what she does.
     
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  4. D_Olga Steponyatova

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    I agree with all the above :smile:

    The only meaningful thing I have to add beyond that is how I truly enjoy the sapphic type of lesbian pornography, but despise the ersatz stuff as it's just shenanigans for dewdz.
     
  5. ManlyBanisters

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    Yeah - pretty much. Bi-curiosity in women is something that is presented to us in popular media as sexy and kinda cool (I wish it were the same for men, but that's another topic) so not only is it completely natural for her to be thinking that way but it's also understandable and even expected. Some women leave it at fantasy, some explore it - the main thing is that it is HER thing, not yours - as said above, support without pressure. This doesn't appear to be something she's thinking about doing to turn you on or to put on a show for you, you seem to be aware of that - try to keep it that way.

    She may also find that she doesn't want to take it outside the realm of fantasy - I thought for years (more than a decade) that I wanted a MFM threesome at least once. I've never been in a situation where that was a possibility and now I'm kind of glad because I've come to realise, reading about real MFM experiences here (not erotica or porn, but real actual events, both good and bad) that it isn't for me and I wouldn't enjoy the reality of it. It's a fantasy that I still have sometimes, but I know that, for me, fantasy is where it belongs.

    You ask 'is it healthy?' and yes, I believe it is - but I have one tiny concern from your post:

    Well, two tiny concerns... you say she was a virgin and now suddenly talk of threesomes comes up. Slow down. There is plenty of time for experimental sex involving other people - It sounds to me like you guys are a fairly recent couple, don't rush into bringing a third person into your bed. I'm not saying it shouldn't happen, it's wrong - I'm just suggesting you throttle back and make sure you are both properly comfortable with each other before 3some is talked about as anything other than pure fantasy.

    The other concern that paragraph raises in me is from 'not now as she only wants and desires me'. Bullshit, man. She is bullshitting herself if she's telling you that, or you are bullshitting yourself if you believe it. No matter how much in love and in lust you are with each other you both will always find 'other' appealing as well. I'm not preaching from a pedestal here, I've done exactly the same thing, even recently though I'm nearly 40. I went through a period of getting completely bent out of shape when my other half let on even vaguely that he found any other woman at all appealing - I was being a complete arse. Of course he desires and wants other people - it would be bloody weird if he didn't. The bit where he shows his respect, love and desire for me is the bit where he doesn't act on it. I think both of you need to recognise, especially if you are going to experiment with her bi-curiosity, is that you both want and desire a whole load of things and that as couple you want to express and explore those desires together - either in the realm of fantasy or with other people.

    Yes, sometimes - if I'm in the mood for it. I've gone off most porn completely and really only watch animated stuff or true amateur stuff - or read erotica. I seem to go through phases. At the moment lesbian scenes don't do much for me - at other times they do.

    I don't think there is a 'right way'. So no, you're not. I also don't think there is a wrong way either - all you can do is play it by ear. Like I said above, this isn't a show to turn you on but also it should not be just to turn her on, by which I mean don't forget to look out for yourself - if you find yourself uncomfortable or unhappy with the way things are going then say so. There is no set rule for how you feel about this stuff - don't be in the 'I am a guy, I must be turned on by watching women have sex with each other' mindset - that may not be the case for you.

    But mainly, to reiterate, take your time, both of you. Talking about it and watching porn maybe sexy as all hell for both of you but fantasy and reality are two very different animals. That's worth remembering.
     
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    I like gay male porn....analyze that.
     
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    I used to love lesbian porn...I think it's the fantasy that for girls sex is more about passion and emotion (not just a fuck). And that a girl ultimately know what a girl wants...so we think that they would be amazing in bed.

    I've personally never been with a girl....but I own quite a few lesbian porn dvds...this is all I used to watch at one stage. Not so much into it now (think cos i used to watch too much haha) but I think it's pretty normal. Most girls are bicurious - a lot are just to embarrassed to talk about it unfortunately.
     
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    Check out some of the burning Angel series of leaving porn. Has a heavy metal/punk edge to it, but it is made/directed by a female and is oriented towards both men and lesbians. I think it sort of works as they are pretty hot and look less fake than most lesbians porn.
     
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    Lesbian porn has never done much for me but I'm certainly with Rouge when it comes to Guy on Guy stuff.
     
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    Thanks for the responses. I went for 'butterfly' and will probably look into other Viv Thomas titles.
    Hopfully it will be an enjoyable night.

    This is the one thing she's really looking forward to!
     
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    simple: for similar reasons as to why guys like lesbian porn.
     
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    What are the reasons (in your estimation) that guys like lesbian porn?

    Just curious.

    I like gay male porn because the men are typically much better-looking than the men in straight porn.

    I also like to see a great BJ, and the men in gay male porn giving blowjobs are often very enthusiastic....which is less often seen in straight porn BJ scenes. At least, it seems harder to find in straight non-amateur stuff. There's nothing hot about a girl who looks totally disinterested in sucking cock, or like she's going about it as if it's some chore to be gotten over with before the main event. Enthusiasm = HAWT! :32:

    I don't know if one could flip this around and say that these reasons would be similar reasons for guys & their love for lesbian stuff. Better-looking women in lesbian porn? I don't know, perhaps. More enthusiasm? Maybe, maybe not. In the lesbian stuff that caters to men's interests, I often see a lot less true enthusiasm.

    Maybe MR will chime in with the reasons why she likes gay guy porn! :smile: My reasons are certainly not universal ones. Maybe hers will be different and more applicable to male interest in lesbian porn.

    To the OP: I can't really add any to the suggestions, because the others gave much better selections geared to your interests than I probably could. I like lesbian porn, but the stuff I tend to favor is butchgirl stuff/bondage play/spanking...not the soft kind of scenes your girl likes. Anyhoo, I hope you guys have a great time!
     
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    i likes dyke porn. with dykie girls/boys/Daddies/butches/high-femme/alt-folk.

    mostly.. i gets me perv-swerve going with gay porn.
    cuz why?

     
  15. D_Judith K Rantz

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    I like gay male porn and lesbian porn. Especially tribbing:biggrin1: Basically it all depends on my mood.

    Haha analyze that! :tongue:

    I love lesbian porn if it seems real and sincere. If it's the fake girls with no real passion it does nothing for me.
     
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