GF Problems

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by latin_cock, May 30, 2009.

  1. latin_cock

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    Hey guys i need some advice. Me and my gf have been dating for almost 2 years and we have been having sex for a while. We had a huge fight about 2 weeks ago but we ended up getting back together. yesterday we were about to have sex but i was scared of not making her orgasm and i couldnt get it up. Has this ever happened to any of you? Now i am even more scared of having sex with her!
     
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    it happens

    relax -- you emotions weren't where they should have been
     
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    Like Nick444 said, it happens. No big deal :yup: Truth is your probably reading more into it then she cares about it
     
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    Latin, why were you concerned about not giving her an orgasm? Certainly anxiety can lead to temporary erectile problems. Confront what is bothering you...the orgasm thing or whatever you argued about....
     
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    If you are having truble getting started just focus on relaxing and whille you get it together you can give her oral or manual. You can also get her to manualy stimulate you. If you have been together that long I am sure you could talk to her about it. Relationships need to be open and she will most likely love that you love and trust her enough to talk about this with her.
     
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    You aren't telling us someting if you were so worried about this simple issue.
     
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    this happened to me some times with my ex gf in addition with my current gf at the beginning... its just anxiety... i would recommend not worrying about it by being a little selfish... fuck her a couple of time with ur only concern being your pleasure.... after u get used to that u can worry about satisfying her ;)
     
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    Well the fight was about us not seeing each other often enough and i always have complained about not having sex that often, like we do it maybe once a week or twice max but we can go weeks without sex because our schedules conflict. I think i also couldnt get it up because i felt like she wasnt really into it even tho she said she was and we actually took a shower together right before that and i am sure she enjoyed it. I was concerned about not giving her an orgasm because when we have sex she doesnt always orgasm and i think that is the reason why she wont make an effort to have sex wth me more often.

    I did talked to her about it but she seemed super frustrated and she didnt want to talk about it; plus she said that i was always asking for sex but i couldnt actually get it up. Well i did get it up but then the phone rang and it killed it.We'll see what happens and how i perfrom next time...if there is a next time
     
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    dude, you are not going to make a woman cum everytime you fuck her. sometimes are better than others for a gal. sometimes they just enjoy the intimate contact, and if they are really into you, yeah, if they really are in love with you, they will DO you, just to get YOU off. this is when things have gone to another level.
     
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    Everyone is responsible for their own cum. She should know how to get herself off. Stop trying to give her anything. If the only thing that matters in sex is orgasm, then there is no reason to be with a person. Masterbation would take of that, and in less time.

    The point of sex, in a relationships, is to share that intimacy and closeness. Great communication is needed and the atmosphere has to be relaxed.

    In the past, I had trouble coming to orgasm, and a lot of that was in my head becuase by myself, I am just fine. One girl, at one point would mount me and go to town making herself cum. Another girl would rub her clit during penatration to cum. Girls hate it when you ask, "Did you cum?" That puts the pressure on them.

    The point being, dont put it all on yourself as your job to make her cum. That is arraogant thinking that will only cause performance anxiety. In your case, you didnt even get it up!! Learn to share in each others pleasure and the cums will come.
     
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    Thanks for replying guys it has been really helpful, next time that i we go for it i am just gonna be more relaxed and wait to see what happens...however i dont think that is gonna happen anytime soon as she is always busy, i just talked to her and she mentioned how busy she is this week. I feel so neglected. Do you guys think that i should just give her space and pretend like i dont need to see her at all? maybe she will realise she misses me and will start to make more for me. What do u think? HELP
     
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    No, that sounds like game playing in the negative way. There are better games to play.

    You need to keep yourself on her mind. Do this by doing little things that remind her of you.
    A card.
    A little trinket gift.
    - The more "inside joke" you could make it, the better because it will show that you put some thought into it instead of just buying something.
    A cute email with a poem you just have to share.
    And many more.

    What you are doing is creating a disire in her by constantly giving her little reminders of you. The trick is to not go too over the top and be smothering. But trust me, if her work sucks, these little tresures will brighten her day. When she sees you again, she will devour you. So build desire on the positive, not the negative.
     
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    OK so things are getting worse. Today i started seducing my gf and she was all hot and i got hard and i started fucking her and she really wanted me to come inside of her but i got tired of fucking my body was just too tired and i lost my erection. FML. Then i couldnt get it back up. We talked about it after, She said she was disappointed and i said i was sorry that there was nothing wrong with her that i loved her and that i was scared. She seemed a little irritated about me being scared and she told me she just wanted me to cum that that would make her happy. I feel so loved right now but at the same time i feel like a loser. I dont know what it will take for me to cum and finally get this over with. Do you guys thing that using those condoms designed to last longer could be causing this because i normally use those as before when we frist started having sex i would come too fast...i guess now is the entire opposite. FML
     
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    It's all mental. You have to have a clear mind. If you try to set a goal to make her orgasm, you won't be enjoying the moment and that can cause you to go limp as well.

    Clear your mind and just go with the flow like you usually do. Don't try to extend foreplay or be Mr. Pornstar. Just do what you do and it'll work itself out.
     
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