To cut a long story short, me and my girlfriend stopped using condoms as she said they made her feel uncomfortable. We thought this was down to a latex allergy (not even sure if she has one now!) and after discovering non-latex condoms we thought all was well. However, we are finding that she gets 'sore' after sex with latex and non-latex condoms and even without a condom while using lube. I said maybe we just need to use more lube but she feels that too much and she would lose most of the sensation which is fair enough. However, all this makes me think that the problem is simply that my girth is just a bit too much for her. I know it's a bit of a tight fit, but with plenty of foreplay and some lube things seemed ok, but evidently still caused her discomfort. I wouldn't class myself as huge compared to some of the guys on here (approx 6.75 x 5.5) but she says I'm far and away the biggest she's ever had. I know the easy answer is plenty of well lubed sex and allow her to adjust to my size, but we are in a long distance relationship and only see each other every 3 weeks or so. The fact that she gets sore after sex means that when we do see each other for the weekend, we only have sex once or perhaps twice (rather than the 50,000 time we both feel we want :wink
and so don't get much chance for her to 'adjust'
Can anyone offer any advice to help us with this?
Irie
Hmmm...I had allergies to latex condons a lot and worse allergies with condons with lub or spermicide on it...and that "warm" lubes I bought by mistake to use with my device is horrible and was trashed.
A 5.5 is a good girth that some women may have problem...but to me no way is problematic in the right conditions as woman is aroused and wet to receive it.
Had she gone to her gynecologyst just to check everything out and ask questions and etc? Just find a cool doctor or RNP, they trully can give suggestions and facts too, at least in my experience.:wink:
As I understoo right you have back problems and is not good some positions..and about side, slow motion positions ?
But I do think she still learning about her body likes and dislikes, plus been apart and not having sex much it is taking longer to get the rytmic "right" plus you two have are busy and lots of student responsability as studies goes etc. Seems build up the missing while apart but is too rush rush and even tension because things not going smooth as desire a lot of sex and ends up with 1,2...
Dont know but why not next time you meet..you just dont have sex and let build up up more sexual tension? Just meet spend fun time together and relax on a weekend of your stress, tensions whatever. Touch and be there but do not give for her...:biggrin1:
:wink: ..let her desire you a lot inside and drip. And by the next weekend you meet do very very slow etc. You just are open new situations out of "routine' to be explore, and sometimes routines prevent us to relax..and in her case the predictable antecipated soreness, even with lub help, even with this and that..still.
Good luck and keep trying and learning as we all are.:smile: