Gf supplementing income at seeking arrangements

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Anybody done this? We are still feeling it out, and I am helping her with the communications and safety concerns

We are trying to figure out the market, if there are "standard practices" tricks to the trade...

Also wondering how much charatarization is needed. Certainly, it depends on needs and desires of the "client," but I'm unsure of how much of the game we should play, or if it should be a more business transaction approach

My instincts say that most of these guys know what they are doing, but want to believe something else to varying degrees. My take is to figure that out and carefully tap into it
 

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whatever your financial situation, i would first urge you to research the laws in your state regarding this and make sure you fully understand the legalities of it (or illegal-ness of it). i'm certainly no lawyer here but if she ends up in jail or worse, in prison for some idiotic mandatory law in your state for doing this, then it was all for naught.

a safer bet could be where she tries to find a sugar daddy to please. there are a lot of older, rich men out there who don't mind spending a little to get what they want. hell, if i wasn't married, this would be the road i'd be taking right now, haha.

also, sounds like she's taking all the risk... how about you do it too? i'm sure there are women out there who would love some good dick-service in them?

be careful and be safe, but most important, have fun!
 

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whatever your financial situation, i would first urge you to research the laws in your state regarding this and make sure you fully understand the legalities of it (or illegal-ness of it). i'm certainly no lawyer here but if she ends up in jail or worse, in prison for some idiotic mandatory law in your state for doing this, then it was all for naught.

a safer bet could be where she tries to find a sugar daddy to please. there are a lot of older, rich men out there who don't mind spending a little to get what they want. hell, if i wasn't married, this would be the road i'd be taking right now, haha.

also, sounds like she's taking all the risk... how about you do it too? i'm sure there are women out there who would love some good dick-service in them?

be careful and be safe, but most important, have fun!


I also offer my services. Not that much of a market from what I can tell. I've considered "gay for pay" stuff, too. We'll see. I like your idea of me equaling out the risk though.

Too be clear, this is her idea, not mine. She just asked how I felt and if I wanted to help. Had I a greater income, I would just share that with her instead. She wants to exploit her assets and talents, and not just as a barista. Can't say I mind, but you know, eyes wide open... cold get messy

We are looking for a sugar daddy type arrangement and will be careful not to implicate anyone as soliciting
 

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I also offer my services. Not that much of a market from what I can tell. I've considered "gay for pay" stuff, too. We'll see. I like your idea of me equaling out the risk though.

Too be clear, this is her idea, not mine. She just asked how I felt and if I wanted to help. Had I a greater income, I would just share that with her instead. She wants to exploit her assets and talents, and not just as a barista. Can't say I mind, but you know, eyes wide open... cold get messy

We are looking for a sugar daddy type arrangement and will be careful not to implicate anyone as soliciting

this was her idea? how do u feel about it? albeit her life... i would implore you to consider your own life as well. not trying to psycho-analyze you or her but this type of thing can drastically change your relationship dynamic and it's something you have to truly consider before jumping in. this reminds me of the guys who want threesomes to only discover they couldn't handle the reality of it and ended up leaving the relationship thereafter.

best of luck to you two though. i'm only sharing some concerns from experience with you. a sugar daddy is most likely your best bet as you can keep the partners down to 1 at a time and the cashflow to be consistent if she can continue to offer up the goods to this one man. be safe!
 
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Nope ....in this world ...dick is free

haha, you are 95% right. there are 5% of women out there who will pay for male escorts to fuck and go home to keep their sexual secrets at bay. (take my 95% estimation with a grain of salt, i have no empirical data to back it up, i just know that women pay escorts as much as men).
 
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I'd say that if you're going to do it you'll probably have more luck with men than with women. Although if you could get you some steady clients from both men and women for yourself you'd be busy for sure. Don't forget to use protection though. I'm sure there are plenty of men out there who'll reward you after a good suck and fuck. Just my opinion.
 
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The "sugar daddy" thing can work for some.

I once dated a girl who had a "sugar daddy", a prominent and wealthy married business man. He kept her in a beautiful high-rise condo, elegantly furnished, with a spectacular view of the city. She was extremely good-looking, great in bed, smart, a wonderful hostess, and, most importantly, played bridge. He wasn't concerned with what she did on her own time, as long as she was discreet and always "on call."

It was kinda neat. I even went to one of their parties. Even after we drifted apart, for the next few years whenever we bumped into each other we'd end up back at her elegantly furnished apartment.
 

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haha, you are 95% right. there are 5% of women out there who will pay for male escorts to fuck and go home to keep their sexual secrets at bay. (take my 95% estimation with a grain of salt, i have no empirical data to back it up, i just know that women pay escorts as much as men).
As much as men?! Nah. I know men who've paid escorts. I don't know a single woman who has.
 

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I'd say that if you're going to do it you'll probably have more luck with men than with women. Although if you could get you some steady clients from both men and women for yourself you'd be busy for sure. Don't forget to use protection though. I'm sure there are plenty of men out there who'll reward you after a good suck and fuck. Just my opinion.

To be clear, I’m down for offers, but I’ve not persued this. I put a feeler out on SA, but just to see what happened. I’ve entertained a few offers from men too, but this post was not really about me in that context. I think I could manage myself, and certainly would look here for experiences, but this is about the issues and ethics of managing (or at least helping) someone else, and/or an insight of what a woman might experience
 

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As much as men?! Nah. I know men who've paid escorts. I don't know a single woman who has.

Well, I do know women who happily pay male escorts for sexual sessions. A few of them are my friends and do not apologize for it. My wife has done it too prior to meeting me. It's very real.

It's true that men get the stigma of paying for it but women do it too.
 

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Well, I do know women who happily pay male escorts for sexual sessions. A few of them are my friends and do not apologize for it. My wife has done it too prior to meeting me. It's very real.

It's true that men get the stigma of paying for it but women do it too.
I'm not saying it never happens. YOU said men do it just as much as men. That's patently false. Women are a much smaller consumer group in that market, and they pay less.
 

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So- let me get this straight... you're all for your woman fucking other guys for a stipend?
And this makes her Not a simple whore?

Or worse... it makes her a whore who might be willing to trade up if she comes across a guy rich enough, who offers her a secure enough future that maybe she doesn't even HAVE to work ( other than on her back )?

Y'know- Like Melania.


I can tell you that MOST men seeking an arrangement will NOT be cool with the girl having a REAL boyfriend that they have to share her with. They are fine with the girl using their money to finish school and such... but less so with the notion that they might be treating their REAL boyfriend to movie on their fuck money.

I can tell you that there is no such thing as NSA sex, and that you are playing russian roulette with your relationship.
I can tell you that this whole idea is that she will be having sex with men much more successful and generous than you might ever have hope of becoming. Which is a temptation given that the primary driver of women's mating choices are issues of security.

And I can tell you that if you think YOU are gonna get paid to service women you are dreaming. Just about any woman can get laid any time they please and have the GUY pay for their drinks... Mayhaps you should rent the movie "midnight cowboy" to get an idea of what male prostitutes end up doing for cash.
I can share with you the story of one guy I know who tried it... and the ONLY repeat customer he ever got was a guy who paid him to take a shit on a glass coffee table while he laid underneath jerking himself off.


Seriously... develop a skill and get a real fucking job and give up on the pipe dream of a real job fucking.
 
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How about this OP.. bite the bullet of adulting and just TAKE CARE OF HER yourself.

YOU devote YOUR time, energy and resources to helping her finish college- WITHOUT her running off to fuck richer men.
Yes- it will be a struggle... but that's what makes it romantic.
sacrifice.


Of course- maybe she is suggesting this course of action simply because she WANTS to meet, and fuck, men richer than you.

half of women going for this seeking arrangement thing are hoping to meet and hobnob with rich men who just might propose...
 
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OP, I thought you had posted previously that you are a doctor? If it's a some sort of kink you want to fulfill, that's one thing, but surely there are better financial options if that is the driver?
 
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To be clear, I’m down for offers, but I’ve not persued this. I put a feeler out on SA, but just to see what happened. I’ve entertained a few offers from men too, but this post was not really about me in that context. I think I could manage myself, and certainly would look here for experiences, but this is about the issues and ethics of managing (or at least helping) someone else, and/or an insight of what a woman might experience


First I'm not judging this is merely opinion.

Your gf wants to get paid to let other guys fuck her? You want to help here in this endeavor?

You've got several questions you should ask yourself.

1. Are you in love with your gf, or is it a relationship of convenience?

2. Can you live with the fact that when you want to get laid she's either tired from fucking someone else and is sore from being stretched. Or she's fucked out and isn't in the mood to satisfy your needs?

3. Can you handle the fact that she's going to be fucking other guys and may contract an std from some John she's fucking? Accidents happen and condoms break.

I guess what I'm saying is that if you can answer those questions honestly and you genuinely care about her for wife material then you've just answered your conundrum.
 

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OP, I thought you had posted previously that you are a doctor? If it's a some sort of kink you want to fulfill, that's one thing, but surely there are better financial options if that is the driver?

He's a doctor and wants to be a prostitute with his girlfriend?

People make weird life choices. Just very bizarre decisions about things.
 

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Not a doctor. I can support myself, and I'm not actively trying to fuck for money. Again I don’t think that’s particularly viable, and this is not about me.

As far as the rest of the comments go, I think I meant business ethics, and technical advice rather than the morals and existential relationship values I seem to be getting advice about

The emotional and relationship ramifications seem glaringly obvious, but thanks to all for pointing them out

I was looking to hear from people who are perhaps likeminded as us and have actual experience in this
 

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Not a doctor. I can support myself, and I'm not actively trying to fuck for money. Again I don’t think that’s particularly viable, and this is not about me.

As far as the rest of the comments go, I think I meant business ethics, and technical advice rather than the morals and existential relationship values I seem to be getting advice about

The emotional and relationship ramifications seem glaringly obvious, but thanks to all for pointing them out

I was looking to hear from people who are perhaps likeminded as us and have actual experience in this

I told you about the business side.

No guy with money is going to be okay with his ARRANGEMENT having a REAL boyfriend.
They do not like the idea that she will be spending HIS money on some other guy.

That is not what they think they are contracting for.


And- its NOT just a business. Your sex organs are connected to your brain's entire system for forming pair bonds.
Your girl is not looking to make money- she is looking for a bigger better deal than YOU.

The minute she finds it- she's gone.
 
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