gf wants to watch porn with me, to help cure vaginismus!?

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  1. dazzla

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    what do you guys think? i really want to, but apart of me is saying no! obviously we wont be watching any mandingo scenes haha.
     
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    I'm not understanding the question, she wants to watch porn with you?
     
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    yea, but she has vaginismus and thinks opening up sexually, i.e exploring different avenues might help :)
     
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    Workin' up a good pot of mad!
    Have her go to Vaginismus .com That condition is not just caused by psychological issues. There are very real physiological issues at play that need to be addressed. The site may help her deal with them.
     
  5. dolfette

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    if she thinks it'll help to see other people enjoying sex then go for it! why not?
    she's not a child and you have to trust her to know what's best for herself.
    if it doesn't help then what have you lost?

    find her something light hearted, sensual and fun. nothing freaky. be there for her while she explores sex in a safe way for her.
     
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    yea, ill try this later. i'lf find something nice. this condition is tearing us apart. i'll do anything, we seem to of tried everything. i got annoyed when she mentioned it in the first place. its like im jealous of people that have sex!?
     
  7. dolfette

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    yes, but anything that helps convince her that sex can be great & painless must be good.
    i take it you've tried dilators? hypnotherapy?
    lavender oil massages and chamomile tea?

    faux sex...lubing up and fucking the gap between thighs & cunt, so that she gets clit stimulation...that's what worked for me when i couldn't manage sex.
    if she squeezes her thighs together...sometimes he didn't even realise he wasn't inside me, lol.

    ...you getting annoyed will make it worse. i'm sure you know that and that the strain makes staying calm & open easier said than done.
     
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    i dont mean to do it, its funny i dont get sexually frustrated. weve tried the faux sex one, didnt even need lube she got so wet, but i have an upward curver so it kept poking in. but i love that position have done it before, it does feel like sex lol. no tried hypno. have you had vaginismus then? seeing as your from the uk have you seen the 'sensate focus' leaflet they hand out? progressing through that, the thing is everything is fine sexually, its just that sex doesnt happen. ive read about botox injections if all else fails......
     
  9. dolfette

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    this was all 17 years ago.
    i never saw a doc and somehow just managed to think myself better eventually.
     
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