GF's parents' reaction to my size

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by ws59, Jun 19, 2007.

  1. ws59

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    About a month ago my girlfriend's parents saw my penis by accident (sort of). We were over at there hosue for a cook-out/pool party.

    I had come from the gym and all i had with me were my white mesh workout shorts. When I got out of the pool everyone could clearly see the outline of my penis and I got a bunch of awkward stares. I'm pretty hung (maybe not by lpsg standards) at about 8" in length but I'm a shower so I am 6" limp.

    My girlfriend's mom went and got me one of her husband's bathing suits so "I wouldn't make any of the guests feel uncomfortable". Since the incident her dad has been a jerk to me. Fortunately her mom has acted like nothing happened.

    It's weird how some people can be so insecure. I guess this kind of comes with the territory but I've never had anyone act this weird after seeing my size.
     
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    Did you take off your underwear/jock/etc after you worked out, or do you workout that way? If you workout that way, that sounds pretty uncomfortable to me.

    Who suggested that you change?

    I've been at a pool party where something similar happened but nobody suggested that the guy change. People just sort of laughed to themselves. The attitude was that he was covered, it's just the way his body is, so whatever. Lucky him . . . yeah, she's getting fucked.
     
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    yanno, it's not always about insecurity. some people just aren't comfortable with someone they barely know showing their junk off at a family event, especially if there are children present. it probably had nothing to do with your size. not everyone is a nudist or a voyeur and you should be respectful of that. if i had a party and i knew certain guests would be offended or upset at how you were dressed, i would have done the exact same thing your girlfriend's mother did. that's called being a good host. and maybe her dad doesn't want a peek at your package because he doesn't want a visual of you fucking his daughter. that seems pretty reasonable to me.
     
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    well he just though .. oh! 6 inches soft.. he would be like 11+ inches.
    if you have a daughter what would happen when u find out that her bf have a 10+ incher? my poor little darling. LOL
     
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    As a father of a daughter I know from experience that it's a very strange feeling to know that your 'little girl' is now a women and may be sleeping with her boyfriend. That's bad enough but if he also felt a little inadequate in size he would feel even worse. Give him time.
    Fortunately I took my daughters boyfriend to the gym and made him feel inadequate LOL.
     
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    Reaction. Almost everybody with a white mesh work out pair of shorts would know that visiting a Girl Friend's Family for a Cook Out and a Pool opportunity would realize that a display in this setting would be suspect.

    Even if you had been to a gym or whatever, the appropriate garb for this gala event would have been a bit more cloth. Jeans and a T-Shirt at a minimum. Then if the others in attendance were briefly clad you could always strip to join the group.

    But to show your package may have been an accident, but you have known for some time that you had a penis. Good judgement should have been the mantra for the day. You can always take clothes off, but in your case you had to rely on your Girl Friend's Father for appropriate gear to continue your attendance at the gala pool side party.

    While the Mother did the correct thing, you certainly did not win any points with the Dad. Someone should have told you that Dad's usually do not appreciate any young dude being overly aggressive with their "girls."

    As the Father of two girls and also two boys I can appreciate both sides of this situation; but generally I would coach young males to error on the side of good judgement.
     
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    I think the mom handled the situation well.

    As for the dad, well, I'm not a father myself, but I am sure that every father must wonder when his "darling little girl" will lose her virginity-- and who's the guy to take it. So, not only does her dad see you has that culprit, but you had the audacity to show him "the big weapon", too! That's way too much information for him to handle. So, he's freakin' out.

    The best kind of damage control you can do now is to always do right by your gf. Treat daddy's little girl with respect. And don't give Dad any more reasons to think of you as just "a prick"!
     
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    I think mothers tend to handle the idea of their daughter having a sex life a little better than fathers do. He probably saw your package and it hit home to him that his little girl was no longer a little woman and remembered back to when he was your age and thought 'oh shit a pervert's bonking my princess.'
     
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    That about sums up my thoughts. There is a time and a place to “show off” but a pool party amongst strangers and your girlfriends parents (who you should be making an attempt to impress) is not it. Her father likely lost all respect for somebody who would knowingly and likely at least in his eyes purposely show his “junk” at a pool party that would have included who? His friends, family, co-workers? Likely he is ticked and it is not your size he is upset with.
     
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    some people reply to you as if it was ur fault.. But hey you were getting out from the pool.. is not your fault. You have what you got and can't hide it. I know I hide everytime I go to the beach or pool. the short seems to get tight and someting like a little bump shows.. I don't like it. Instead of seem big looks like something poking out lol.. so when i get out of the water I just start touching and pulling away the short. :) i am 5 inches soft. >fcoming out from the pool i am guessing 4 inches.
     
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    I have to agree. In my home that's a serious lack of respect and would earn him an escort to the driveway and a boot in the ass!
     
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    Well, but it was his fault for knowing that his shorts would show off his junk after getting out of the pool. As one of the other posters said, he knew for a long time that he's had a penis.

    I'm probably going to side with the dad on this. There's a time and a place for displaying your horsecock through water-soaked white nylon workout shorts, but a cookout at your girlfriend's house in front of her parents is not the time & place.

    The least he could've done was stay out of the pool without first asking to borrow some more appropriate swimwear.

    I thought he was selfish and callous.
     
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    General social rule of thumb for poolside parties -- don't wear anything that's much skimpier than what the hosts are wearing. If they want everyone to be nekkid, they'll certainly let you know; if it's black tie & evening gown, you'll find out, too. It's their party.
     
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    With all respect, maybe some Americans are a little too hung up about nudity and penis size. I see nothing bad or perverted here. The guy is above average in endowment, so good for him!
     
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    This has nothing to do with hung-up, sexually repressed Americans.

    This has to do with appropriate behavior at a social gathering which was meant to not have any sexual overtones to begin with.

    Showing off one's dick -- no matter how large or small -- at a party like this was not appropriate behavior. It's really that simple.
     
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    Yet another thread blaming a faux pas on someone else's putative "insecurities".
     
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    Yes, it's definitely all about how big you are, it has to be ? There's just no other plausible explanation ? :rolleyes:
     
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    bravo! bravoooo! you added some instant life to that old stale pool party--i am sure you are still the talk of the event.....and mom is quite curious about you...human nature being what it is...she kinda wonders what is it like erect.....but it would be rude for her to ask her daughter so she just wonders about it uneasily..trying to calm such thoughts....i do think you knew what you were doing....come on dude..white mesh...and you dared to even enter the water....lol but hey you added instant life to the party......you were the center of attention..........
     
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    WS59: I wish I had a photo of you emerging from the pool. It would be priceless! From what you wrote about "clearly see the outline", I would guess that you were either freeballing or wearing boxers under your white mesh shorts. To me, it's not a big deal. I would have complimented you on what a nice body you have, not made you change into something to hide it. I wear mesh shorts to the beach instead of boardshorts. The lighter colors can be transparent when wet and it's the same scenario as yours - the outline of my penis is totally visible for the few seconds that my shorts cling to me when I come out of the water. I'm at the beach, not in church, so I don't worry about it. The same rules apply to women's bikinis, yet no one complains about that.
     
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    The basic problem that I had was not that he should not show it off. I had posted in another thread being a little ticked as to how I was perceived at a swimming pool in a speedo; but that was not a private back yard function hosted by somebody else. Yes; Americans are a little uptight about the male anatomy; but it was not his party and not his friends and not an appropriate place to force the issue. If he wants to host a pool party he could even go “sans shorts;” but not at a party where he was a guest.
    It all boils down to respecting people; at least at their own home and their own party. As a guest of their daughter it is not an appropriate time to try to "cure" people of their hang ups. As a guest manners dictate that it is a time to respect what they feel is acceptable. You should be striving to be a part of her family and somebody who her parents feel proud to say “this is Jim; Jill's boyfriend” instead of leaving them to try to explain and apologize for your attire (weather or not apologizing is actually necessary is not the issue.)
     
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