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I did a search on this and couldn't find another thread.
I get this is a Penis centered site and that often includes the tops.
But are top men that really ONLY ever top, really that rare?
I'm finding guys to date but a few months in they invariably want me to use my li'lguy to top them at some point and this is always a stumbling block.
 
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I don't know how rare total tops are in the population.

I topped exclusively from age 22-40 in part because I didn't get any pleasure from anal play/stimulation until then. I don't know why my body/brain changed.

I've never asked or expected a bottom to top me. A few "total bottoms" have asked to top me usually after we've been seeing each other for a while. it's rare but works for me. I like being topped. :cool:
 

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I've definitely messed around with some complete tops but I wouldn't be opposed to topping a top if they wanted to experience being a bottom. Who better to teach them. I'm very patient and I wouldn't freak out if they painted me. I'd explain to them the importance of preparing before hand and how to do it so that they get a full scope of what bottoms must go through just for a round of sex.
 

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I like truckers, construction workers etc. In my case I am a very fortunate man. All my guys have never been interested in my dick at all. All they want to do is fuck me and have me suck them. I am totally submissive to them and I totally love it. and wouldn't have it any other way.
In South Florida there are not a lot of tops in the gay community. I'm more interested in men with calloused hands and ones that take what they want.
 
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there are a lot of guys out there who claim to be total tops and on dating/hook up sites i've been approached by them in the past - i always advertise top only - and when i note that they say they are tops they're almost always 'but i'd bend over for your cock' and some indeed did.

So not sure if we are rare or not but there do seem to be a proportion of guys saying they're tops who are not 'total' tops and will happily bottom at times.

for me bottoming does nothing - I tried it a few times in my life but it literally did nothing for me so I go with what does do it for me - topping :)
 

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I did a search on this and couldn't find another thread.
I get this is a Penis centered site and that often includes the tops.
But are top men that really ONLY ever top, really that rare?
I'm finding guys to date but a few months in they invariably want me to use my li'lguy to top them at some point and this is always a stumbling block.
I am hung, a total top/giver, and my bisexual ex boyfriends were average or a bit above average at 6.5 inches long. I use condoms always no matter who I am with.
 
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there are a lot of guys out there who claim to be total tops and on dating/hook up sites i've been approached by them in the past - i always advertise top only - and when i note that they say they are tops they're almost always 'but i'd bend over for your cock' and some indeed did.

So not sure if we are rare or not but there do seem to be a proportion of guys saying they're tops who are not 'total' tops and will happily bottom at times.

for me bottoming does nothing - I tried it a few times in my life but it literally did nothing for me so I go with what does do it for me - topping :)
I had this happen when I was on websites, and while I did not have sex or date any of these men, I found their dishonesty a turn off.

I asked a gay friend about this, he has never bottomed either and he said how these guys that say they are 'tops' but want to be fucked are really versatile or even bottoms but are ashamed of it, into lying or being dishonest, or think it will make them less masculine if they say how they are versatile or bottoms.
 
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I've fucked more than a thousand arses but total bottoms are a bore in the long term.
I have not had sex with 100 men or women, let alone 1,000 but I find bisexual and gay men that only want to get fucked or fuck when they have sex, and never do anything else such as oral sex, BDSM, bondage, etc. to be boring.

A good friend is gay, a complete and total bottom in that he only has been fucked, never has fucked anyone, and he just only wants to get fucked gently, or rough and dominating.

He hates to suck cock, or get sucked but will do it to turn on a boyfriend or FB so he will get fucked. No I never had sex with him, as he is,not my type. He has had sex without barriers since he first started in the late 1970s, and all through the 1980s, 1990s, and 2000s/2010s. I know he has swallowed and took cum deep in his ass multiple times from different men who he later learned were poz, had AIDS, or who were HIV+ and not on AZT or later the cocktail/protease inhibitors, and that had infected other men they both knew. My friend has no idea how he is HIV- and he guesses that he is just very lucky. He is not on Truvada/Descovy or prep.
 

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I’ve only been with 3 men my entire life, and my first was a long distance relationship. So our sexual encounters were few and far between. But I only ever topped with him, and I never had any interest in bottoming. And we were good with that arrangement. That was until I met my current bf and bottomed for the first time with him and now I bottom about 90% of the time. And the only reason I do it is because he doesn’t like bottoming. Once in a while he will be in the mood but most of the time I am bottoming for him. He’s also a lot bigger than me, both in height and weight, so topping him is some times a logistical challenge lol. If it weren’t for him I would probably still be a bottom virgin to this day. I learned to enjoy bottoming, but I get more turned on by the feeling of being in control and making my man feel good. I would have no issue being exclusively a top.
 
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