Girl has no idea what to do with a dick

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  1. Truck

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    I'm "hooking up" with a girl, and she has NO idea of what to do with a penis. She pretty much can't do any foreplay because all she does is smush it with her palm and tug it all harshly. I almost feel like I should just tell her to go watch porn or something. I guess my problem is that I feel like if I'm telling her what to do, she will feel like I'm taking advantage of her lack of knowledge if that makes sense... Any advice for some progressions?
     
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    show her what to do... put your hand over hers and guide her ... nibble on her fingers and have her do the same to you, and when the technique seems right suggest another place ... ;-) and reciprocate!
     
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    Communication.
     
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    Masturbating in front of each. You get to have fun and see how both of you like to be played with.
     
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    Do the same thing to her and check out what she says.
     
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    If she doesn't know what she's doing then she'll likely ask if you Like what she is doing to reassure herself and for peace of mind.
    When she asks give her some hints and show her your prefered techniques.

    I'm sure she will get there eventually, gaining experience with one another is a good way to bond and become closer. Plus its half the fun.

    At the end of the day no one is perfect and its all give and take.
     
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    you'll be doing her a HUGE favour if you put your hand over hers, whisper 'like this' in her ear, kiss her neck and guide her hand. happy noises and kisses to reward, whispered instructions to slow down or speed up. make it seductive.

    she'll look back and thank you for it one day.
     
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    communicate. tell her how you like it done but ensure not to knock her past efforts. just be reassuring and patient. and tell her to tell you what she likes and how she likes it.
     
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    change girl
     
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    Why should she have to guess what you like? Tell her or show her. Don't make it seem like a criticism. Point out something before or afterward, no matter how brief, that she did that you liked. She'll do it more. She's just inexperienced. Hook the girl up.
     
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    I've been with more than a few women who didn't know what to do, were unsure, or seemed timid, particularly a few virgins... That's when you talk a little dirty - to give her hints, or take her hand and put it where you want, and encourage her... or even do something to her that you'd find hot to have her to do you (licking, kissing, sucking whatever...) and tell her to do it back to you.

    Watching porn while getting your fuck on is GREAT for moments like this; and suggesting something along the lines of "Let's act this out" while watching. A couple ice-cold chicks turned into fire-crotched freaks doing this -- it's a great way to open her freak-streak side up.

    But as said above by a couple other guys -- communication is KEY, whether it's passive or more active, communicating what you want from her is just as important as her cues to you as to what's making her hot and what she likes. ;]
     
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    I agree with this. People make things harder than what it really is. If she doesn't know what to do just show her.
     
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    Just show her. End the pain.

    Take her hand, talk and tell her, show her yourself, etc.

    It will make things way easier for both of you. You can show her what you like. She will feel way better about it as well and be more likely to engage your penis at a later date.
     
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    Tell her what you want and then show her what to do. Then do the same with her. The more you have sex together the more you will both enjoy it. Just relax and have fun with each other.
     
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    Best comment I've read on this...:cool:

     
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    The only thing I'd add to dolfette's advice is to try a remote control blow job - put her finger in your mouth, her mouth on your dick and ask her to copy you.
     
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    I was with a girl who would tug my dick very hard when she was giving me a handjob. It was like she was shaking a ketchup bottle. I guided her on how to do it and she got my better.
     
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    This reminds me of that Danny DeVito line from It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia:

    "Whoa, whoa, whoa...Back up 'cause your just mashing it now"

    I think almost every straight (or Bi i suppose) guy has been with a girl who was akward at foreplay at one time or another...The worst is when they think you want your nuts squeezed real hard or rolled around like a couple of pool balls in a tube sock. Nothing kills a boner like a good shot to the pills.

    But, as others have already pointed out Dollfette's post is the definitive one on the subject. If she doesn't know what you want/like then you have to show her. And vice-versa
     
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    positive reinforcement, communication, go slow with her, but the longer you wait to say something the worse she'll be upset if you do. Be sweet and kind. Turn her on.
     
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    It amazes me that you're actually whining about this. Here you have an amazing opportunity to basically create the ultimate lover for yourself, and you're thinking you should just have her go watch some shitty porn.

    Here's what you do: Tell her and show her exactly what you want. Not to be misogynistic, but train her. You have a great opportunity here. Don't be lazy about it.
     
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