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She's abdicated her faculties of reason and gets edgy and antsy if she doesn't get to talk to me regularly
She currently lives hours away from me
I have zero interest in her, other than hanging out for fun and obliging her desires for sex
I told her I am not interested
She replied: "I know, but I can't let you go, I don't want to let go of the idea".
It's been months since I've seen her in person (owing to life circumstances), though she's continually emailing me and calling me.
I'm thinking of telling her I've started to see someone (sort of true, though it's mostly just a fling). I'll tell her it's serious. This may be a nail in the coffin of her delusions that I'll one day be open for a loving relationship with her.
Will this hurt her even more, or is it for the best?
I want to permanently close off any possibility in her mind of a relationship without being an asshole to her, because I'm fond of her and sincerely care about her feelings, and we shared some magic moments that I don't want to be retroactively spoiled
[by the way, this is not a "boasting" post, I am an anonymous spec of internet dust who will never meet any of you and I'm indifferent to how other anonymous random people view me, but I appreciate any insights you may have]
She's abdicated her faculties of reason and gets edgy and antsy if she doesn't get to talk to me regularly
She currently lives hours away from me
I have zero interest in her, other than hanging out for fun and obliging her desires for sex
I told her I am not interested
She replied: "I know, but I can't let you go, I don't want to let go of the idea".
It's been months since I've seen her in person (owing to life circumstances), though she's continually emailing me and calling me.
I'm thinking of telling her I've started to see someone (sort of true, though it's mostly just a fling). I'll tell her it's serious. This may be a nail in the coffin of her delusions that I'll one day be open for a loving relationship with her.
Will this hurt her even more, or is it for the best?
I want to permanently close off any possibility in her mind of a relationship without being an asshole to her, because I'm fond of her and sincerely care about her feelings, and we shared some magic moments that I don't want to be retroactively spoiled
[by the way, this is not a "boasting" post, I am an anonymous spec of internet dust who will never meet any of you and I'm indifferent to how other anonymous random people view me, but I appreciate any insights you may have]
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