Girlfriend admitted something lastnight...

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by hung_glasgow, Sep 20, 2009.

  1. hung_glasgow

    hung_glasgow New Member

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    Well lastnight my girlfriend of 3 and a half years admitted she had a threesome about a year before we got together with 2 guys. I'm a little taken aback, she said it was a mistake and was just something that happened but aswell as me being shocked it has kinda turned me on in a way. Up till that point she said she had only slept with 3 guys including myself upto this point, this now makes it 5.

    How would you handle that?
     
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    I would let it go. She's with you, now. People try different things, sexually, and don't always feel OK about talking about it. You could say that her trust in you made her feel comfortable to tell you a deep, dark secret.
     
  3. voidout

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    ask her if she wants to have another?
     
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    Dump her she's a skank.

    KIDDING - Why would this bother you? Could be your way in to suggesting a MFF or MMF, if you want.

    It's good that she feels comfortable enough with you to talk about this.
     
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    What a slut.

    Tell her she has to have a threesome with you and another chick or you'll dump her.
     
  6. salthebb

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    I am with Christinab, have another. Sounds like she would enjoy it and have some fun too.
     
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    Sounds to me like you're a lucky guy to have a girlfriend who's obviously very sexual and open to experimentation. Explore it!
     
  8. Stephenmass

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    What to think? You telling me you have no "past" that you regret? Gimme a break!
     
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    demand details while I jerked off. That's what I did in a similar situation.
     
  10. Scott_

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    It was a year before you got together with her, she did no wrong.
     
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    Yeah, you can't really get to on about something that happened before you were with her. She might have mentioned it on purpose to give you a suggestion.
     
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    She trusted you enough to confide in you. Looks like she values you enough to trust you with the truth of her past. Accept this as part of her past. Regardless of whether she wants to have another threesome or not, accept that she is honest with you.

    Have you ever done something you regretted later? Have you ever confided in a partner?
     
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    Christina, you took the thought straigt from my brain! lol

    Seriously, the girl is opening up to you. If you want her to feel comfortable telling you her fantasies and experiences, then shut the *!@$ up be supportive. If you want to believe that she was not a sexual being ever before she met you, you are only kidding yourself. Part of being grown up, is having real talks about real issues and keeping an open mind. I'd say you have a great girl, don't blow it!
     
  14. voidout

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    :lmao: well, it seemed like the natural thing to do! from my observations, most guys wouldn't mind trying a threesome once, and he did say it turned him on. so why not explore if it's something you're both comfortable with? :shrug: only makes sense to me.
     
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    She didn't do anything wrong and really didn't need to apologize. I agree that I would want to enjoy the same experience. I would do both one mmf and one mff:wink:
     
  16. dolfette

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    she said it was a mistake,
    so don't expect her to do it again.

    i've had one and decided never again.
    trying something once doesn't mean she's up for it.

    all you can do is tell her it turns you on,
    and then leave it to her to decide if she wants to.
     
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    What this man said
     
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    let it go..be glad she's honest and into you now...DAMN! i would kill for a feamale to show me some honesty and trust in an intimate setting...for real!
     
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    I would take it as maybe she's interested in doing it again, I doubt she was emotionally involved with both of them at the same time or while with you for the past 3 years
     
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    IMO this is the best answer. She confided in you about something she did in her past, and honestly it wasn't all that much of a big deal. The fact that she opened up is a good sign. She seems to trust you. Now don't betray that trust by beating her up over it.
     
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