Girlfriend admitted something lastnight...

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she said it was a mistake,
so don't expect her to do it again.

i've had one and decided never again.
trying something once doesn't mean she's up for it.

all you can do is tell her it turns you on,
and then leave it to her to decide if she wants to.

If you want the long version of this wisdom, watch the movie Chasing Amy. Its a Kevin Smith movie. Basically, it covers alot of the issues you might be feeling right now and makes you question what is really important.

Funny, now that I think about it. The girl character kinda reminds me of Dolfette. Attractive, Bi- but mostly gay, experianced with a past, real in your face when dealing with bullshit, but really cool if you could get on her good side, and an artist to top it off. :biggrin1:
 

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she said it was a mistake,
so don't expect her to do it again.

i've had one and decided never again.
trying something once doesn't mean she's up for it.

all you can do is tell her it turns you on,
and then leave it to her to decide if she wants to.

Wise words.

The fact that she's telling you about it at all is a sign that she trusts you and believes your relationship has a future. She doesn't want to have secrets from you. You can see her point for not bringing it up straightaway, especially given the way some guys seem to expect every girlfriend to have been a virgin till they met her and assume that every girl with a past is a slut.

Tell her you're turned on by the thought of her threesome, but don't expect her to want to have another. However, bear in mind that she might be offended at the thought of you being turned on by her having sex with other people.
 

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sign of trust. i don't see why guys don't think women don't get horny too. otherwise there would be no female porn stars. but i get tired of this regret crap. there should be no regrets.

About 95% of female pornstars are not horny while shooting porn...

For god's sake don't suggest another threesome. That's the dumbest thing you could do. She told you it was a mistake to have one. So suggesting another one is what an asshole would do.
Anyway it's no big deal. It was before she was with you.
 

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sign of trust. i don't see why guys don't think women don't get horny too. otherwise there would be no female porn stars. but i get tired of this regret crap. there should be no regrets.
ahahahaha!

yes, dear, porn stars are in it for the sex.
 

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i don't see why guys don't think women don't get horny too. otherwise there would be no female porn stars.

Wow dude, really? I would bet the least horny women on the planet are porn stars and prostitutes. But you are right, women get horny too. That made sex even more awesome for me when I figured that out.
 

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Good replies from all.

Just to confirm, I'm not bothered about it really, it happened before me so nothing I acn do about it. I think it's cool she told me, but I was just trying to figure out why, it was a bit random. As I said, I don't hold it against her at all, it's just got me thinking about getting a threesome started, but I don't know how serious she was about it being a "mistake".

Anyway, thanks again.
 

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reminds me of this story.....

So there's me and Amy, and we're all inseparable, right? Just big time in love. And then four months down the road, the idiot gear kicks in, and I ask about the ex-boyfriend. Which, as we all know, is a really dumb move. But you know how it is: you don't wanna know, but you just have to, right? Stupid guy bullshit. So, anyway, she starts telling me about him... how they fell in love, and how they went out for a couple of years, and how they lived together, her mother likes me better, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah... and I'm okay. But then she drops the bomb on me, and the bomb is this: it seems that a couple of times, while they were going out, he brought some people to bed with them. Ménage à trois, I believe it's called. Now this just blows my mind, right? I mean, I am not used to this sort of thing. I mean, I was raised Catholic, for God's sake.

it was a mistake. I didn't hate her. I wasn't disgusted with her. I was afraid. At that moment, I felt small, like... like I'd lacked experience, like I'd never be on her level, like I'd never be enough for her or something like that, you know what I'm saying? But, what I did not get, she didn't care. She wasn't looking for that guy anymore. She was... she was looking for me, for the Bob. But, uh, by the time I figure this all out, it was too late, man. She moved on, and all I had to show for it was some foolish pride, which then gave way to regret. She was the girl, I know that now. But I pushed her away. So, I've spent every day since then chasing Amy... so to speak.


and if you don't get that and ask me a serious question about that shit you are the dumbest out of touch nerd on earth...........
 

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Look at it as a good thing she's comfortable enough to talk to you about things like this. Freaking out now would just prove to her she can't tell you things.

It's in the past and before you started dating, so keep it there. If it kind of turned you on...then see if she'll explore that with you. Doesn't seem like it did much for her though as she said it was a mistake. So start with figuring out why she thinks it was a mistake.
 

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reminds me of this story.....

So there's me and Amy, and we're all inseparable, right? Just big time in love. And then four months down the road, the idiot gear kicks in, and I ask about the ex-boyfriend. Which, as we all know, is a really dumb move. But you know how it is: you don't wanna know, but you just have to, right? Stupid guy bullshit. So, anyway, she starts telling me about him... how they fell in love, and how they went out for a couple of years, and how they lived together, her mother likes me better, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah... and I'm okay. But then she drops the bomb on me, and the bomb is this: it seems that a couple of times, while they were going out, he brought some people to bed with them. Ménage à trois, I believe it's called. Now this just blows my mind, right? I mean, I am not used to this sort of thing. I mean, I was raised Catholic, for God's sake.

it was a mistake. I didn't hate her. I wasn't disgusted with her. I was afraid. At that moment, I felt small, like... like I'd lacked experience, like I'd never be on her level, like I'd never be enough for her or something like that, you know what I'm saying? But, what I did not get, she didn't care. She wasn't looking for that guy anymore. She was... she was looking for me, for the Bob. But, uh, by the time I figure this all out, it was too late, man. She moved on, and all I had to show for it was some foolish pride, which then gave way to regret. She was the girl, I know that now. But I pushed her away. So, I've spent every day since then chasing Amy... so to speak.


and if you don't get that and ask me a serious question about that shit you are the dumbest out of touch nerd on earth...........

That is from the movie I suggested, Chasing Amy.

The other big speach I wanted him to hear was the one the girl character explains to her boyfriend how she was not a victim in the MMF 3-way. She was using them to satisfy her curiosty. It was a mistake, but she is not apologizing for it. Because it has nothing to do with her current situation.

The movie is showing on IFC channel tonight!
 

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i agree with a number of posts already here. it happened way before you guys hooked up, so its her business what she did. but it is commendable she came forth with it. how did she admit to having a threesome with two guys? were you talking about sex in general or what? because either she wanted to wipe the slate clean with you OR even while she said it was a mistake she may want to do it again. doesn't make her a bad person, just horny as hell like every dude and dudette on this site
 
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Many experiment sexually, and there's no harm in that. Also, I would be turned on to have a girlfriend who was as sexually adventurous as this young lady.

Having had a few threesomes of different gender mixes myself, I can vouch that reality can be rather different to imagination. At the time it feels very natural, more natural than anyone who hasn't had a threesome can even contemplate.
 

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Well lastnight my girlfriend of 3 and a half years admitted she had a threesome about a year before we got together with 2 guys. I'm a little taken aback, she said it was a mistake and was just something that happened but aswell as me being shocked it has kinda turned me on in a way. Up till that point she said she had only slept with 3 guys including myself upto this point, this now makes it 5.

How would you handle that?


I'd cry.
 

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Having had a few threesomes of different gender mixes myself, I can vouch that reality can be rather different to imagination. At the time it feels very natural, more natural than anyone who hasn't had a threesome can even contemplate.

Oh so true! I've enjoyed plenty of 3-somes - more than I can count. Even the first one was enjoyable and felt like the natural thing to do in the moment. I find 3-somes far more comforting and hotter than 2-somes.

To quote that line from "Two Ladies" song:
Twosie beats onsie, But nothing beats threes.