i need some help deciding on what to do with my girlfriend:
My room mate who I was kind of friends with(more friends through friends but both needed room mates) has been telling people he had sex with my girlfriend last month when they were both really drunk and I was out of town. I have moved out to get away from him and broke up with my girlfriend.
here's the twist: she says it never happened, and that she was asleep and woke up with him trying to hook up with her and she stopped him. They were both good friends. But if she's telling the truth, she should have called me immediately after it happened. She said she didn't want to ruin their friendship and he apologized, and didn't want there to be a big scene because we were room mates. She once cheated on me(not sex, but made out with a guy) and i had to hear from one of her friends, so her honesty is in question. I gave her a 2nd chance like an idiot. She is known to go overboard with drinking, which makes me think she might of been blacked out while her and my room mate had sex, but it still happened in my mind.
So at this point my girlfriend looks guilty. But to be fair, my room mate is also known to make things up. he lied about having sex with a girl we knew, and she denies it ever happened. He is also known for having a small penis(dated this girl who constantly made fun of him publicy for it, and once said it was rediculous how much bigger I was then him. I had sex with her way before they even knew each other. I was the one who introduced them) and when he wears basketball shorts you can tell how small it is so there might have been some kind of jealousy thing going on there with him and me. Even so, i don't understand why he would make up something so serious like this just because he wants to sound cool, and put me in my place. I have always been really nice to him too, and never made fun of him for having a small penis, or for already having had sex with his girlfriend before him.
She has promised to get help with her drinking and has begged me to take her back to a point where it's getting rediculous. I don't think I want to though. She either cheated, or is gonna have cheated on me in everone's mind, so it's kind of ruined for me. maybe she did cheat, but didn't remember it. I just dont think I'll ever know for sure what really happened.
Any thoughts would be very appreciated
My room mate who I was kind of friends with(more friends through friends but both needed room mates) has been telling people he had sex with my girlfriend last month when they were both really drunk and I was out of town. I have moved out to get away from him and broke up with my girlfriend.
here's the twist: she says it never happened, and that she was asleep and woke up with him trying to hook up with her and she stopped him. They were both good friends. But if she's telling the truth, she should have called me immediately after it happened. She said she didn't want to ruin their friendship and he apologized, and didn't want there to be a big scene because we were room mates. She once cheated on me(not sex, but made out with a guy) and i had to hear from one of her friends, so her honesty is in question. I gave her a 2nd chance like an idiot. She is known to go overboard with drinking, which makes me think she might of been blacked out while her and my room mate had sex, but it still happened in my mind.
So at this point my girlfriend looks guilty. But to be fair, my room mate is also known to make things up. he lied about having sex with a girl we knew, and she denies it ever happened. He is also known for having a small penis(dated this girl who constantly made fun of him publicy for it, and once said it was rediculous how much bigger I was then him. I had sex with her way before they even knew each other. I was the one who introduced them) and when he wears basketball shorts you can tell how small it is so there might have been some kind of jealousy thing going on there with him and me. Even so, i don't understand why he would make up something so serious like this just because he wants to sound cool, and put me in my place. I have always been really nice to him too, and never made fun of him for having a small penis, or for already having had sex with his girlfriend before him.
She has promised to get help with her drinking and has begged me to take her back to a point where it's getting rediculous. I don't think I want to though. She either cheated, or is gonna have cheated on me in everone's mind, so it's kind of ruined for me. maybe she did cheat, but didn't remember it. I just dont think I'll ever know for sure what really happened.
Any thoughts would be very appreciated