My girlfriend is in her early 30s and so am I. She has never had an orgasm. Its not that she doesn't feel pleasure, she just doesn't feel the explosion. She has been with many men and has many long term relationships. She is totally happy with it and she feels that everyone that she has been with wanted to "make her" cum and she feels that its something that is for the good of the men (say ego) rather than for her. I personally feel that, in a loving relationship, by sharing (giving and receiving) orgasm, I connect with my lover in a very deep level not only physical but also emotional and spiritual. So I expressed why I want to connect with her at this level and thus, I want us to work on her reaching an orgasm. She says she is totally happy with the sex life and doesn't have a problem with it. She wants me to accept the fact that women are very different in that regard and that some women just are not orgasmic and she shouldn't have to feel like she has a problem because she is one of those women. She has masterbated and tried toys etc. with no avail. I tried oral, manual, on her clitoris, inside her, but she feels pleasure but nothing else happens from it. One thing to note is that her clitoris is very sensitive and she says when I give her oral, it hurts her. So that kind of eliminates her learning to have orgasm through clitoris since its way too sensitive for her. She doesn't get much wet either. I suggested that we can read books together but she says she doesn't want to a book to teach her about sex. I want to encourage her to masterbate and to find out more about her body but her attitude is "there is nothing wrong with me because I am different. its the media and the men who are crazed about orgasm that think I should be a certain way is the problem." I am thinking... in order for me to help her to have an orgasm, she must admit that we as a couple have an issue and that she is open to having one. Not her attitude of, "I am not going to have an orgasm. end of the story". I don't know what to do. I want to keep this relationship but I don't know if I can be with someone who is anorgasmic and does not think its an issue.