Girlfriend can NOT make me orgasm

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  1. charter

    charter New Member

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    Hi everyone, my girlfriend can not make me orgasm during oral sex or when giving me a handjob. I've had this problem before, but I just dont know what to tell her. I know she would try almost anything for me, but I'm not sure what to tell her to do. I can get myself off just fine, but no matter what, she cant do it. Can anyone help me out here or tell me ways to cum faster?
    Thanks a lot
     
  2. bimarriedhung

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    this is pretty common- my wife gives a terrible hand job and
    oral sex is good but no orgasm

    i think guys just know the angles better and want to make you cum
    so it's usually better w guys for jo and blowjobs
     
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    it really is common, b/c my g/f doesnt make me either. So dont worry
     
  4. DC_DEEP

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    Yes, I agree, it is common. Can she get you close, but not quite there? That's usually the case for me. I just enjoy, let my partner get me close, and finish off myself. We both enjoy it that way.
     
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    let her watch you jerk yourself off, that might give her a better idea of what to do with the handjob. and if she's still clueless... help her out.. position her hands for her, help guide the rythm and motion..
     
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    Damn. That was oddly HOT!
     
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    I agree but here is a little something that happened last time...

    I was jackin myself off, the girl was watching. Then she had the presence of mind to like squat in front of my cock (or maybe it was on my chest, I forget) and suck it while I was jackin it...it was hot and I almost came...more of that and I will.

    Anyway the ultimate, continuing from that idea would be her sat on my face, so I could lick her out, and me wankin myself off and her sucking too...wow :D

    Funny story is, we were 69'in and when she came she bit my cock hehe...didn't hurt though cos I was rock hard and it was hot ;)

    But yeah, girls are usually shit. Just try teaching her. That's all you can do.
     
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    There's really no reason that you can't reach down and help her out. Just be careful not to punch her in the nose if you're stroking the shaft while she's giving you a bj.
     
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    charter,

    It sounds to me like you're gay. Sorry bro.

    Regretfully,
    Chase
     
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    Pecker, I think I love you. Please tell your wife to make room for me.

    You may need to spend more time masturbating so you can be even more clear what you like- clear enough to teach. Or, you may need to stop masturbating so much so that you can learn to enjoy a wider range of sensations. I have heard of both cases. I'm glad you are taking responsibility for your orgasms.

    Oh! One last tip. I know this sounds weird... But...
    When she's working on the head, push out like you were trying to fart (DO NOT FART!) and that may give you just the extra sensitivity you need to go over the edge.
     
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    it's just my pheremone cologne. I wouldn't think too much of it.
     
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    need some presure just under your balls and close to your ass...that will do the trick when your close to orgasm
     
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    I have your same problem with oral sex.

    Regardinh handjobs, at the beginning of our relationship i used to be unable to orgasm, and it was more a psychological thing than other. Now my gf can make me orgasm with her hands, and if what she is doing does not feel good i just take her hand and jerk too until she gets the right motion and rythm.
     
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    ok thanks guys, I guess I'll just have to show her and keep telling her what feels good and what doesnt.
     
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    That was not oddly hot. :cool:

    I have the same problem - I take forever to cum when receiving oral. What works best for me is to let her try a few different techniques, I let her know verbally what feels best, and when she hits on a great technique, she'll have to keep doing it for several minutes with the same rhythm to get me off.

    Naturally, that's a lot of work, so a lot of women aren't enthusiastic about that. Although, oddly enough :rolleyes:, the women who complain the most about how long I take to cum, are usually the same ones who take forever to come from cunnilingus... LOL.
     
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    I have overcome this problem.

    Firstly, make it easier for her by not cumming for a few days.

    Secondly, give her careful instructions, tell her what hand tightness and speed to use, when her mouth gets tired tell her to keep wanking, make her press at the base of your cock and kegal to make it ultra hard, being tense can sometimes make you come quicker.
    Guide her to speed up sucking, wanking and squeezing tighter when you can feel the orgasm build up.

    Thirdly, If it's not turning you on enough watching what she is doing, close your eyes and think of your favourite porn scene.

    Finally, explain to her how the best possible orgasm a guy can have is when she sucks your cock and swallows your cum and keeps sucking. If she really likes or loves you she will want to give you that pleasure!
     
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    When we first got together I was not familiar with the movements and the soft, wet and warm sensations of her mouth. I was only familiar with my hand. When we had vaginal sex the movements were right, she was tight and the wet and warm worked as well.

    I had to learn to relax and enjoy oral sex, she was so willing and lovingly doing me, then I could come like crazy.
     
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    Have her bang you up the butt w/ a dildo. I'm betting that'll help.
     
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    Uh huh...
     
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    Thats exactly what i do when im with a new guy and there hasnt been any problems after that.

    Its not easy with not having a cock of your own and knowing techniques and every guys likes it different...Sometimes we need to be taught what eah of you like specifically