Girlfriend Cried when I went down on her.

[D_fsp04gld]

i don't give anyone credit. i'm judgemental and harsh.
it's one of the most endearing things about me.
and he's here asking how to get a girl who says no to going further to go further. she's said no. an attempt to work around that is manipuilation.

ew

 

[Ed69]

oh please i can get some guys hard by walking past them.

and, personally, i don't even allow men over my doorstep if i'm dating them and have not yet decided i want it to get physical, so you can stuff your 'thought like you' up your arse.

oh, and your sister got raped because some arsehole chose to rape her.
decent men stop, no matter how far it's gone. and if it's not feeling good then EVERYONE, male or female, has the right to change their mind.
i pity the poor cow if this is your version of being supportive. twat.

So was it the F word that got you riled up?Guess what,get over it!

I can see both sides of this.But a girl in my bed petting my cock does not get to say ohhh! butt I wanted to wait!You may have the right butt do you have the ability?Not many women do,so use your brain and don't tease.

And name calling makes you look the "TWAT".:smile:

 

[dolfette]

So was it the F word that got you riled up?Guess what,get over it!

I can see both sides of this.But a girl in my bed petting my cock does not get to say ohhh! butt I wanted to wait!You may have the right butt do you have the ability?Not many women do,so use your brain and don't tease.

And name calling makes you look the "TWAT".:smile:

'the f word'

yes, you offended my delicate sensibilities by using such crude terms on an innocent such as myself.
i may faint!

name calling is fun, felchbreath.

 

[Ed69]

Good try girl,you loose!

Which is more fun,calling my wife or my sister a cow?Review cause yes you did.

 

[dolfette]

Good try girl,you loose!

Which is more fun,calling my wife or my sister a cow?Review cause yes you did.

and your point?

 

[Fleur]

she's made it so damn obvious that she doesn't want to do too much before marriage.
and rather than respecting her morals, you're here posting her bra size and whining about her not shaving.
it all just a mission to get inside her pants.
she deserves better than you,
so i vote you dump her, you heel.

I agree. Respect her and leave her alone. She's never experienced the stuff you're doing to her and you're taking it too far. You yourself said you just want to see how far you can take it. She deserves better than I guy who is just trying to "see how far it can go"

Of course she cried. You crossed her boundaries and disrespected her and what's sad is she probably will blame herself.

 

[Ruiner]

Hoping in the shower, and will have to give a longer response then. I was in no way trying to push her further. In the middle of the moment that is what it seemed like she wanted.

I'm not saying I'm faultless, and I probably could have been better about it, but in my mind, the line between outside panty and inside were on the same level. I forgot to mention that she also seems to really like to dry hump. If I'm wearing light shorts or sweat pants, she will hump me hard while we're making out. So, I guess it is possible I got the signals crossed, but the line of where she seemed to be ok with in my head was blurred. Especially since there was no resistance when I moved her pants down and my face was there for a solid 10 minutes or so.

And for the record, I'm not just trying to get into her pants. If I were, I'd go find some freshman. I'm not that kind of guy.

 

[spursone]

It definitely sounds like you have taken her beyond the point that she wanted to go. I think she was at that point of conflict of "it feels really good" vs. "I don't want to have sex before marriage." (and that includes oral sex.)

So you have a choice, respect her wishes if you truly are into her or move on for more open minded ladies. Either way, you really should talk with her and make a decision.

 

[D_Hyacinth Harrytwat]

*cut*

I'm not saying I'm faultless, and I probably could have been better about it, but in my mind, the line between outside panty and inside were on the same level. I forgot to mention that she also seems to really like to dry hump. If I'm wearing light shorts or sweat pants, she will hump me hard while we're making out. So, I guess it is possible I got the signals crossed, but the line of where she seemed to be ok with in my head was blurred. Especially since there was no resistance when I moved her pants down and my face was there for a solid 10 minutes or so.

*cut*

Does she have any idea why she's waiting for marriage? Sounds like she doesn't have a genuine clue and has never thought enough about it to determine what's ok before marriage and what's not. And suddenly, 10 minutes into the act (wtf), she decides that oral sex is wrong?

If you do want to keep her, maybe ask her where the lines are so that something like that doesn't happen again. You'll probably surprise her and she won't have an answer right away, but at least then she might think about where she stands on sexuality.

Humans are idiots when it comes to giving and reading body language. Other animals use nothing but body language to have entire conversations. There was a definite miscommunication there so you're probably best to use good ol' verbal language to figure it out.

 

[B_New End]

girls like her piss me off but not as much as men like him.

Fuckin' sex, man.

BTW, I was in an inverse situation with my first gf. She slipped me in about 2 inches. I pulled out, got pissy, and cranky, I was pissed off.

Sex and sexual repression is a mind fuck, but not the good kind.

 

[D_Beau Nerr]

Well, ask her in the first place? What we are going to say about your situation wouldn't be exactly be the same as the one that would come from her own words.

Hoping for some advice here, because this confused the hell out of me. Met the girlfriend at the beginning of summer. She was very reserved and is very conservative in the way she dresses and acts. ( dissapointing at times, as she is very beautiful. 115lb, 32c's, and a pretty decent ass. ) She really has nothing to be afraid of.

Anyways, we started off with the basics; making out, neck, chest, feeling around.

A few weeks ago we moved my stuff down to school as our internship was ending, and in the morning we started getting into it and I moved down below her shorts she had on over the panties, and began to slow caress and feel her. She reacted quite well and began to breathe deep and let out little small moans. So I figured I'd keep going, and began to move her panties aside when she immediately grabbed my arm. ( I let it go, and just kept rubbing from outside the panties ) She soaked her panties, and I went as long as she seemed into it.

So it moved forward the next week to her feeling me and feeling all around my junk. I finally moved her hand over to it, and she continued with a surprised look on her face. After a little bit, I went back down through her pants to try again. Same situation and after she seemed to reach the max she would ( I wouldn't quite say climax, but she peaked then started to slowly breathe. ) She apologized and said she got carried away after we were done. I told her it there was nothing wrong with that.


So it comes down to the other night. I begin again and she seems more into it. So of course I'm excited. She begins to thrust upward as I pick up the pace. She continued to moan and breathe deeply, so I began to move down, kissing her breasts, then her stomach, and lower. I moved her pants down and began on top of the panties to kiss, lick, and move around her inner thighs. I finally move in to see how far this will go, and began to lick on and all around her panties just around her lips. (only to discover, not even trimmed... )

Anyways, this goes on for a bit and finally she doesn't seem that into it anymore. She stops responding, so I stop and move her pants back up. She stays quiet and finally curls up into a ball and begins to cry.



So...... Feel free to give input. All I can guess is that she believes she did something wrong and she let herself go to far. I stuck with her that night and apologized for pushing so far if she wasn't ready. ( nothing else I could do ) after about an hour, she calmed down and said it was ok, and she just wanted to go to bed. So we watched a tv show and went to sleep. She was ok in the morning and hasn't mentioned it since. We've both gone back to school and I won't see her for another week or so.


Any input or suggestions? She's very shy and I'm afraid to push it. I'd like to be able to pleasure her if we can't have sex ( she's dead set against that, I know until marriage ), and maybe get her to open a little in return on me. She has improved quite a bit as she is willing to kiss all around, and is much more comfortable than when we started.


Obviously, if she isn't ready, she isn't ready, but how do you take someone who is so shy and cautious about all of this to do the following.

• Open up
• Enjoy it
• Shave.....
• Enjoy it more! :tongue:

Thanks for any input guys / girls. Sorry for such a long post. I had to get this off my chest, because this just doesn't seem like a situation you'd run into a lot.


Thanks again.

 

[psidom]

well you obviously freaked her out.
cumming in front of a stranger is not easy for everybody.

few can do it...that is why they are usually pornstars or swingers.:smile:

if you care about her...be kind,and by that i mean with everything you got.
that is all the insight i will give,i have no clue if you are just an arrogant
dumbass or genuinely caring.

the untrimmed comment you made about her says something though.
you need to realize how gorgeous she is in her own skin,her style.
if you can't love her for her authentic spice...do not try to convince her to trust you.

that is manipulative/pathetic.:frown1:

 

[BruBear]

I would have to agree with... someone on here. Best thing to do is ask her. It sounds like she may have wanted to but got scared by it. Maybe she was nervous about the thought of sex, terrified even. And when it came down to "it" she got scraed..... I dunno... the only way you can truly find out is by asking her, and be gentle about it. Its hard to admit to something as intimate as that

 

[voyeuristic]

Maybe you should find someone who likes having a bald pussy instead of trying to impose your agenda on this woman who obviously likes to keep it natural.

 

[B_New End]

Maybe you should find someone who likes having a bald pussy instead of trying to impose your agenda on this woman who obviously likes to keep it natural.

Obviously? She might be too shy to shave it. That would mean she thinks about it, and thinking about sex is bad if you are supposed to be waiting for marriage.

 

[Ruiner]

Obviously? She might be too shy to shave it. That would mean she thinks about it, and thinking about sex is bad if you are supposed to be waiting for marriage.

I think this is the most likely case. And instead of assuming worst of me as some have, I appreciate those that understand. I was always informed that you should be mindful of others in that area, so I always do manscaping. I keep it neat, trimmed, and clean.

I had assumed most other people do that, and am just now realizing that because she had been pushed by her mother so much that she probably never even looked into those "courtesy" things that I've been exposed to having constantly been in offtopic forums for cars and hobbies where this stuff pops up all the time. I've been exposed from the beginning to the end. She probably hasn't even scene meatspin, lol. I forgot how eye opening the internet can be. I used the internet obviously to take advantage of all of that and learn everything I could since it is so readily available and easy to do.

Just to clarify, I care. I'm just a total noob when it comes to actually being involved with someone. My ultimate goal was to make her happy, and that's all. As I mentioned before, it seemed like she was really enjoying it, so I continued.


I guess I kinda posted to get it off my chest, and may not have done it in the best fashion. My second bullet should have been:

How do I approach about shaving / trimming. Which may be a totally irrelevant question if oral is off the table. So, I will have to ask. It's just not something I'm used to talking to people about face to face.

I apologize if it came off horribly. Now when I re-read it, it definitely does.

 

[B_aussie8in]

That defines the prick tease!Don't get me hard if you don't want to fuck!

My sister thought like you till she got raped for playing that game.There are men who don't hear stop once you have them revved up,so don't play that game.Feminist double standards will not help you when he has you pinned down.:frown1:

Rape is about power, not sex.

P.s. Prick teases can only work there magic on weak men. Real men if they get treated like shit by a female dump her ass and keep things moving. they don't get angry and they don't care.

 

[B_Jordan85]

I dunno dude, women are a mystery most of the time, and girls are worse. I've dated some strange one's so I know when there might be a "mental instability." Possibly someone tried to go down on her when she was very young? I recommend (although you like this girl) start shopping around again because this chick sounds like she has very delicate sensibilities, or if you really need to stay with her, back off and let her do the exploring. You should try and talk about it, thats what makes a good lover

I doubt it has anything to do with her hairy vag, and if it did she would shave it because its such a simple thing to change. nevertheless, she sounds too old to be acting like this. I don't mind a hairy one as long as it don't stink.

Sometimes there are really HOT, 10-rated girls who are very sexually immature. It's like I rather have an average chick who can express herself like a grown-up

 

[B_New End]

How do I approach about shaving / trimming. Which may be a totally irrelevant question if oral is off the table. So, I will have to ask. It's just not something I'm used to talking to people about face to face.

She is not sexually liberated enough yet, and I doubt you will be the one to do it.

This is the likely scenario. She gives you virginity. You screw for a year, she tries to hold together relationship, but also finds her inner slut.

Dumps you, finds another guy, goes all out knowing that sex does not necessarily mean forever, and 2 or 3 guys down the road starts considering things like shaving or not shaving, lingerie, toys, all that.

 

[B_Jordan85]

some girls learn to shave WAY before they even have sex for the 1st time.