Girlfriend is Best Friend, But Not Attracted to

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by pablovian, Apr 19, 2010.

  1. pablovian

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    Hey Guys and Girls,

    My girlfriend and I are best friends. I love her a lot, but, I'm not physically that attracted to her. She isn't ugly and she has a decent body, just for whatever reason, "my guy" doesn't respond so great when she wants to get intimate. I don't want to break up and look elsewhere - other than intimacy we have a great relationship. What can I do, besides Viagra (tried that, didn't help), to help "my guys" responsiveness to perform?

    Any help greatly appreciated.
     
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    I'm assuming that you have no difficulty getting aroused in other situations? Say by watching porn, or by other women or men?

    If it's just a lack of desire for your partner, I don't know what to tell you. It's happened to me before, and either somehow we rekindle it, or I end up leaving. It sounds like the two of you need to find some way of spicing up your sex life together, finding some way to make it hotter in the bedroom.
     
  3. THEDUDEofDestiny

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    jesus. just think of someone else like normal people
     
  4. THEDUDEofDestiny

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    my girl pretends im justin bieber, i pretend she is allyssa hall. it is called love.
     
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    haha
     
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    This is just me. I couldnt be with a girl I wasnt sexually attracted to. Just ruins it for me. I'm a guy who can do the female best friend thing though
     
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    You say she has a "decent" body. I assume that means she's some sort of quadriplegic or that she has one of those claw-arms or that she's covered in a thick, wiry fur.

    My advice is that you make a poultice of fresh tea leaves, fresh mint, and dried corn husks and wrap your penis with it for forty minutes prior to intercourse. Before removing the poultice, masturbate a male dog until it ejaculates and place the dog sperm on the tip of your own penis immediately after removing the poultice. Light a match, put it out, and place the hot ember on the skin where your scrotum attaches to your penis shaft. You will have the hardest erection of your life for thirty to forty minutes. It wouldn't matter if your girlfriend were a wolverine, you'd have the angriest of raging boners for her.

    Good luck.
     
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    Hahahaha - Nice - thanks for the support
     
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    You have to go by the pheromones. If her body is 'decent' either she smells delicious to you or she doesn't. All the rest can be affected one way or the other by your imagination.

    She needs to think the same way about how you smell to her. You can be 'conveniences' to each other until somebody just right comes along, taking proper precautions in the meantime re: pregnancy and STDs, but for a long term relationship, it will either build or cool down depending on that crucial chemistry.
     
  10. mariamluvsEMbig

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    HAHAHAHAHA...you sure it's not the other way around...j/k ;-)
     
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    good that u don't pretend she is justin bieber lol
     
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    Look!, I just fucked my best female friend of 30 years last weekend!

    You wanna have sex with her just because she wants you? How sad....

    If your cock say no, listen to him! Life is not that difficult mannnn....
     
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