We don't know if she does't give. I think it's reading into things to assume that she's a cold fish when the OP only discussed his difficulty using his hands while fucking her hard at the same time and remaining hard. Maybe after he's done with her, she does something for him. Maybe she gives lots of blowjobs. We don't know!
All we know is that the OP wants advice on what to do to make his girlfriend happy in bed, given that she needs both clitoral stimulation and a hard fucking. I liked Pitbull's advice. Get her an egg vibrator as a present and ask her to use it alone to get off, then ask her to use it while you fuck her. I personally like the TLC 10x and California Exotics Hypersonic bullet.
I agree with Pitbull and Petite...get the aid of a vibrator to help her...it will be awesome :smile:..
She seems very comfortable expressing her emotions around you, she just might not be too comfortable yet using her own fingers infront of you..
The OP clearly loves her, lets not get sucked in by the word *picky*..because its seems like that word is causing all of the misinterpretation by some posters..
If he wanted to dump his girlfriend, his question would be a little different.
To me both the OP and his girl are somewhat handicapped. They need to figure out a way together to deal with their handicaps in a way that pleases them both. Therefore they both need to communicate more clearly and explore other ways that work..and be patient with each other..
To me it feels like she's out of touch with intimate sex, like she's used to hard pounding sex,because that is the only kind of sex she's had or loved (and the only way up is harder)..and therefore lost contact with her own body ..
To me its like you need to go back to initimate lovemaking again..
There is always time to dump one another when you can't feel that you are satisfied fully sexually (read: not just vaginally)
Get creative, have fun and take the pressure out of performing. Sex is supposed to be fun :smile:
@crackoff..you come across very angry towards women. I sense so much more kindness in your words when you react and advise some other male posters..like Jonesy. But when the topic is 'woman' or you react to the response of a woman its almost like you are shouting.. Very unpleasant that is

. We do not represent the women in your life you or maybe even your friends had bad experiences with you know..
Don't put us there. A little respect should not have to be such an effort..
We can all agree to disagree, but being upset like this seems a bit much..