Right now I am in a long-term relationship with a girl I love immensely. Neither of us was a virgin when we met, but I was her first orgasm. No one had ever performed oral sex on her before, and most (if not all) of her previous sexual experiences were bad. One in particular was very bad. Simply put, the boyfriend (this was in her sophomore year of high school) was abusive. Since that time, she has had serious issues with penises: that is, almost no touching, no oral sex, nothing except vaginal penetration. Oftentimes, I feel like she is repulsed by me, and will not touch me if there is any pre-cum on me at all. (I should also make it clear that the relationship is currently long distance, as we're both at different medical schools. I get to see her once a month, twice if I'm very lucky.) I love this girl with all my heart and I don't want to make her uncomfortable, but I have told her that it really hurts me when she seems repulsed by me. Things are getting better, I suppose, because now she will touch me without my having to ask. I am determined to give her all the time she needs to become comfortable with me, so I suppose my question becomes: 1) Has anyone (male or female) has similar experiences, either with a partner or personally, and 2) did you or your partner ever overcome it? How? What can I do for her?