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Hi all -
So little background on me - I'm 28 and have been with a dozen or so women (depending on what counts ), and am in a serious relationship with a woman I've been with for the past 9 months. We've always had great sex, we live together, both love each other very much.
She's been working about 3 jobs in the past month, and in the past 5 days things have been pretty dry as she's been sleep deprived and exhausted, but had a long nap in the morning. After, I slowly massaged her legs, thighs, butt, started to finger her pussy, started finger fucking her, started pounding her from behind (she'd come a couple times by this point), had her suck me off after fucking her and came on her face and mouth, then ate her out a couple times for good measure.
When we were lying together after, I said she had the best tasting pussy (truth), and she said she didn't think so since she can taste it off my cock, that she likes the taste of cum a lot more. I cockily remarked that I've been told I have especially great tasting cum, and she replied "Ohh, that's just something girls say. Like that you have a huge dick or that you're the best they've ever had." then added sexily "of course, you actually are the best I've had."
Being a man, obviously I focused on the other point and asked "wait, am I really not that big?" and she replied "you're average! You've got an amazing dick, it feels awesome, it curves right in to my g-spot, and you really know how to use it. What point could there possibly be to having a bigger one -- I can only imagine that if you got in a sword fight with another guy where you had to use your dicks, a bigger one might give you a longer reach. With me, a bigger one would just make sex hurt more."
More than anything, this was all just really surprising for me to hear. I'd been measuring myself against studies since I was very young, and I reach an easy 7.25" long (NBP) and maybe a quarter-inch short of 6" around. I can't stick in in a toilet paper tube, and if I really bone-press like most guys do I can get over the coveted 8". I've had plenty of condoms snap and none slip. I've never felt like a girl was too loose, but had a couple who were too tight after warmup to even get in to comfortably. Hell, as soon as she left I masturbated just to measure and compare against the lifestyles study, and yep still look around the 95th percentile.. even if I lower my measurement quite a bit to assume wishful-thinking and don't put the ruler very close to my base or measure 'with the curve' I'm still at worst 90th percentile. I've had girls who were angry at me still tell me I had a big dick; a girl who probably slept with 100+ guys who told me many times in a non-sexual context that it was really big. In one especially bizarre conversation, after hearing that my family generally had no modesty and we'd just go around nude a lot, an ex asked me very nervously "does your dad have a big dick", I replied "I don't know, I guess about the same as mine" to which she said "so.... yes!". I mean, how on earth can that last example possibly just be stroking my ego? That's about as anti-sexy as anything I can imagine.
Every point my girlfriend made was totally valid, and we have great sex and I really do think we fit perfectly together, so if anything a bigger dick would make things worse with her. There's probably some self-selection going on there: she's been with 8 guys and has a really big butt, so she has a small sample size and the guys probably self-select since a shorter dick probably couldn't even get in her in most positions. She even said that the last 3 guys she slept with recently were smaller or a lot smaller than me. I can think that in my brain but it really doesn't make a difference to how I feel.
Having grown up like this, and hear this from the woman I want to be with, it's like I've lost a big part of my identity. I've always been the boyfriend with the big dick before, and now that is gone and I'm left wondering how I define myself. I don't feel like I'm small at all, and I'm certain there are plenty of guys way smaller than me, I just feel like I need to adjust to a new sense of who I am. Maybe it's a good thing, since defining yourself so much by your dick isn't healthy.
Anyways.. just felt like I needed to write all that down. Please share any thoughts or similar experiences you might have
So little background on me - I'm 28 and have been with a dozen or so women (depending on what counts ), and am in a serious relationship with a woman I've been with for the past 9 months. We've always had great sex, we live together, both love each other very much.
She's been working about 3 jobs in the past month, and in the past 5 days things have been pretty dry as she's been sleep deprived and exhausted, but had a long nap in the morning. After, I slowly massaged her legs, thighs, butt, started to finger her pussy, started finger fucking her, started pounding her from behind (she'd come a couple times by this point), had her suck me off after fucking her and came on her face and mouth, then ate her out a couple times for good measure.
When we were lying together after, I said she had the best tasting pussy (truth), and she said she didn't think so since she can taste it off my cock, that she likes the taste of cum a lot more. I cockily remarked that I've been told I have especially great tasting cum, and she replied "Ohh, that's just something girls say. Like that you have a huge dick or that you're the best they've ever had." then added sexily "of course, you actually are the best I've had."
Being a man, obviously I focused on the other point and asked "wait, am I really not that big?" and she replied "you're average! You've got an amazing dick, it feels awesome, it curves right in to my g-spot, and you really know how to use it. What point could there possibly be to having a bigger one -- I can only imagine that if you got in a sword fight with another guy where you had to use your dicks, a bigger one might give you a longer reach. With me, a bigger one would just make sex hurt more."
More than anything, this was all just really surprising for me to hear. I'd been measuring myself against studies since I was very young, and I reach an easy 7.25" long (NBP) and maybe a quarter-inch short of 6" around. I can't stick in in a toilet paper tube, and if I really bone-press like most guys do I can get over the coveted 8". I've had plenty of condoms snap and none slip. I've never felt like a girl was too loose, but had a couple who were too tight after warmup to even get in to comfortably. Hell, as soon as she left I masturbated just to measure and compare against the lifestyles study, and yep still look around the 95th percentile.. even if I lower my measurement quite a bit to assume wishful-thinking and don't put the ruler very close to my base or measure 'with the curve' I'm still at worst 90th percentile. I've had girls who were angry at me still tell me I had a big dick; a girl who probably slept with 100+ guys who told me many times in a non-sexual context that it was really big. In one especially bizarre conversation, after hearing that my family generally had no modesty and we'd just go around nude a lot, an ex asked me very nervously "does your dad have a big dick", I replied "I don't know, I guess about the same as mine" to which she said "so.... yes!". I mean, how on earth can that last example possibly just be stroking my ego? That's about as anti-sexy as anything I can imagine.
Every point my girlfriend made was totally valid, and we have great sex and I really do think we fit perfectly together, so if anything a bigger dick would make things worse with her. There's probably some self-selection going on there: she's been with 8 guys and has a really big butt, so she has a small sample size and the guys probably self-select since a shorter dick probably couldn't even get in her in most positions. She even said that the last 3 guys she slept with recently were smaller or a lot smaller than me. I can think that in my brain but it really doesn't make a difference to how I feel.
Having grown up like this, and hear this from the woman I want to be with, it's like I've lost a big part of my identity. I've always been the boyfriend with the big dick before, and now that is gone and I'm left wondering how I define myself. I don't feel like I'm small at all, and I'm certain there are plenty of guys way smaller than me, I just feel like I need to adjust to a new sense of who I am. Maybe it's a good thing, since defining yourself so much by your dick isn't healthy.
Anyways.. just felt like I needed to write all that down. Please share any thoughts or similar experiences you might have
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