Hello all. This is going to be a longer topic... Btw I am new member by date, however I'm following this community for quite some time. There are so many quality reading, so decided to join. I'm not that much endowed (18 cm or cca. 7 inches). In relationship for little less than 6 years (we are now 23 years old). Met my girl in high school, basically this is first "real" relationship for both of us, first sexual experience also. Now the issues... All of them related to sex. 1. Oral sex. On the beginning of our relationship all we did was some heavy petting and oral sex. She didn't want to rush with losing her virginity, which I respected and decided to give her enough time. Blowjobs were quite frequent and she (al least that was my impression) - enjoyed them a lot. After she lost her virginity, over time her sexual desire was bigger and bigger (sex was more frequent, she would initiate it quite often etc.). However, blowjob were less frequent and the "quality" of the same went down significantly. To be honest, I can't even remember when was the last time... Usually, when I ask her to do it, the answer is that she is not in the mood or even when she agrees - it is quite quick and without any passion or interest ("just to do it"). Same thing is with cunnilingus. She really liked it before, even 69 was a pleasure for her. Now when I propose it - she always has some excuse. What is causing this? I understand that vaginal sex is more interesting, but I don't see what is the problem to give or receive oral sex from time to time. 2. She has trouble to reach orgasm without stimulating herself during intercourse. Usually, 1-2 minutes before reaching it, she would put her hand down there and help herself out. To be honest, it is quite annoying for me. First of all, I see it as a personal failure... Is it problem in me or in her or both? Is there solution for this? There are few more questions/issue, however I would like to get answer on these two first. Thank you in advance. P. S. Sorry for my English, it is not my primary language, obviously.