Girlfriend told me I'm too small to make her cum

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Dude,

Unless she complained that she wasn't climaxing with you, and is still having sex with you, I wouldn't stress about what the ex was like or whether he was hung or not. If his huge member were enough she would still be with that guy. You opened a can of worms asking her and she gave you an honest answer, it doesn't mean she is still tied there. Just because there is chemistry and there is sex, unless there is real affection and love there, she may not climax right away and I wouldn't make it about size. She said he was hung - BUT SHE ALSO WAS WiTH HIM FOR 10 years.

That is long time to connect with someone and a lot of time to do the chore in a manner that she is accustomed to. I think with time, you'll figure out, but I would not be in a race or pressure her with your frustrations about your anxiety over it. Just relax and if she asks you do to do something, do it. If it makes you feel better to follow the suggestions from these other guys, you can try that. If she is still attached her ex emotionally, etc. she may not want to admit that to you or to herself.

You can have great sex with someone and they can be the wrong person for you. So I wouldn't register another guy being hung or not. You said she just started dating. You just started sleeping together, stop racing to figure out how to get her done and relax. When she wants to let go, she will.

According to his original post he had asked if there was anything he could do and if she has ever been able to orgasm and SHE responded with talking about dick size as the reason, not them being together for years or anything along those lines.

There is no way it will not hurt if a woman tells you she can't orgasm with you because your dick is too small to do the job. To suggest he not stress about her saying that is kinda insensitive or maybe you can't identify with the situation.

The man is asking his woman how he can pleasure her better. Since when is being concerned with you lover's pleasure "opening a can of worms"? She made it about size not him...

(By the way you say in the same post "If his huge member were enough she would still be with that guy" and "You can have great sex with someone and they can be the wrong person for you".)
 

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What Zoe says is very true. I agree with DbyC that this is not what the OP says at face value, but what it shows, is how much emotional and physical baggage people can have after an LTR.

The question for the Op is whether you wish to invest yourself in her working herself through these issues. Given that we all know that there is plenty more to great sex than a big wnag, you could explore these with her and see what happens. If she really can only get off with something bigger than what you have, then I would walk, but I'd try a few other things first.
 

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It almost sounds like she may not be getting enough clitoral stimulation. If she can when receiving oral, but not with penetration, try different positions that are prone to clitoral stimulation.
I do agree with other posts here, as well...it could be mental.
 

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When you ask an honest question expect an honest answer.
Please stow your bruised ego for a second and realize you did ask her.
It can take a while to get use to a new partner and relax.
Look at it as a challenge.
Try diffrent positions.
Maybe your cock hits her at a diffrent angle.
#)Have you tried giving her lots of clitoral stimulation while rubbing her G-spot with a finger and finishing her with some vigorious thrusts with your cock when she gets very close?
#)Have you tried placing a pillow or two under her hips so her pelvis tilts back and gives you more chance of hitting her G-spot during straight fucking?
#)Have you asked her to grip you with her pelvic floor muscles on your out stroke?
#)Have you tried doggie and reached around and gently stroked her clit in time with your thrusts while nibbling her neck?

You get the picture.
I hope this does help.
 

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She probably just THINKS he was well endowed because her husband fucked her pussy before she had kids. Now that its a giant gaping hole its no wonder you can't get her off.
Remember what Larry David said: If a woman says your penis is too small, it's just because she has a huge vagina.
 

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#)Have you tried giving her lots of clitoral stimulation while rubbing her G-spot with a finger and finishing her with some vigorious thrusts with your cock when she gets very close?
#)Have you tried placing a pillow or two under her hips so her pelvis tilts back and gives you more chance of hitting her G-spot during straight fucking?
#)Have you asked her to grip you with her pelvic floor muscles on your out stroke?
#)Have you tried doggie and reached around and gently stroked her clit in time with your thrusts while nibbling her neck?

This is excellent advice, and sums up what I was about to say. If what your girlfriend told you was true, then it's far more likely to be a technique issue than a size issue.
 

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most ladies would appreciate that size.
size queen or not,

its not small so thats not your problem.
what I'm thinking you need to focus on is all about technique

and there has been a lot of techniques already suggested so try them out!
If she still is having problems with her climax issues then I would suggest dropping out of the relationship.
 

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Honestly, even though you are not small, by any means, you should read up on the skills that guys with small penis's use because they work for all sizes. It's mostly about being able to apply pressure to the right places and such.

Do things like put some pillows under her ass, or hold it up with your hands so you thrust in on an angle, giving more friction to the top which contains the supposed G-spot. Or when doing her from behind, instead of having her on her knees, get her on her stomach. Then there's always the double bass. You are in a sitting position and she sits on your shaft facing away from you. As you have sex, you play with her breasts with your left hand, and tease her clitoris with your right hand "Playing her like a standing bass" so-to-speak. There's plenty more, but that's the things that came to mind off the top of my head. Good luck!

This is good advice. I look up positions that are recommended if the guy is small, because they usually wind up being my favorite positions, regardless of the guy's size.

Dump her and find someone who will appreciate your length for what it is?

Exactly!

Your girlfriend isn't a size queen she's just mean and inconsiderate. You are well within your rights to dump her. I suggest you do so quickly and find a decent woman who can appreciate you and your size. :cool: FYI - At 7.75x5.75 you qualify as having a big cock. Any woman that tells you otherwise is a liar. It's possible they have seen and been with larger, however that doesn't take away from you being well above average in length and girth.

Why do you list NYC, Atlanta, and Los Angeles as home? Are you a flight attendant?

I know a guy in San Antonio she could hook up with. :biggrin1: I don't normally say that one person "deserves" or "doesn't deserve" another person, but the guy who insulted me the other night and your girlfriend sound like two peas in a pod. Let them get together and insult each other! :smile:
 

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And people wonder why domestic violence happens?
Well i think that after 10 years of Marriage with a Larger' person, seems to me that even with the Chemistry between you both,its not going to Happen/and i dont believe its your job to make it happen,if she cant offer anything apart from a critical comment to you and especially if all the other aspects in your relationship are Hunky Dory...

She needs a Large person/OUT you go and search for one Lady...me thoughts.

--and people wonder, why some of us are/remain gay--

eric nz
 

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my gf is very happy with my 5 X 4.5 - we have incredible sex.
my finger 2.75 X 1.5 gives her incredible orgasisms.
so does the tip of my tongue.
sex is mainly in the mind.
If you gf is not happy with 7.75 X 5.75 something else is wrong.
 

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I wonder have your tried all the positions to get her off? or just get caught upin passion and roll around fucking.I would try and enter her Missionary then place my legs outside her legs closing them slightly.Tends to squeeze her pussy on your cock a little tighter and gives excellent access for your thrusts to work her clit.as one bloke said above,,long deep strokes, and try the usual heaps of foreplay first,,just dont let her cum from it.

no expert but thats what Id try
 

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¿ AMBIGUITY? I see many posts in other forums where we are complaining that women don't answer sex questions and comparisons with previous lovers, especially when size is involved, honestly. Then when a lady does answer honestly, she is attacked aggressively as in this thread so how can we ever expect honest answers from the ladies?

As a few have mentioned, she is still with you so you must be doing something right. I would never suggest even dumping her for being honest. If you are really into her then you might want to jointly look for a mutually gratifying solution. For example maybe a vibrator on her clitoris during penetration, her doing kegels and new positions as already suggested. Take advantage of her honesty, a very scarce commodity today.
 

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Sounds like your g/f is a whore. Looks like you have a nice cock there. What would make her cum? A horse? Some women are so god dam dumb i cant help but shake my head and walk away.