Girlfriend told me I'm too small to make her cum

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Ticorico, you have nothing to be ashamed of between your legs. Plenty of guys with cocks your size (not small, either) have great sex and their partners love being filled up by them. Don't know what's up with your girlfriend, not my place to judge, but if there's a problem, it ain't your cock, dude.
 

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we've been talking about this on another thread about what makes a lover your best....

some of us cite the best as not being with a guy that made us come or not or whether an ex was hung or not.

another woman cited that her man was hung but wasn't enough to keep a marriage together.

You are doing the right things to ask what she likes and if you're doing those things and she is still having sex with you and still wants to have sex with you, I wouldn't wrap my head around her ex being hung.

She was with him for 10 years and it wasn't enough, she was honest with you about it. Only you can decide if you are not feeling connected to her or not. She was in a LONG relationship with a hung man. You are just zoning in on the HUNG part. You said you can get her there orally. Yet internal oragasm from outer is different.

You JUST started having sex with her. You asked her a loaded question about how she physically resonds not being what you hoped for. She gave you a physical explanation as to why.

Notice, she didn't say she was married to one man for 10 years and getting acquainted with someone new and trying to assimilate chemistry and connection from love and connection (her failed marriage that she hoped would last). Would that have scared you off?

There's a lot more to her background and you are putting a lot of pressure on this for someone that you just starting having a sexual relationship with. Coming out of a long relationship, has it's challenge, not just sexually and it will take a little time.

If you feel like you are wasting your time and you feel slighted by what she is telling you that you are not adequate, versus her needing time to get it right, that's for you to decide what is right for you. If it makes you feel better to bash her as inconsiderate, that's another option available to you.

You said you felt chemistry with her...yet there is baggage in her past. You said she just started dating. All of that is really soon to be gaging her interest level in you and feeling belittled by your dick size. She may just still be getting used to having sex with someone that isn't her life partner any more and no matter how much you like and feel turned on by someone, that takes some adjustment etc.
 

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If the glove don't fit, you must acquit. Your dick is pretty damn big, but if the bitch was stretched out over the course of 10 years by a huge cock and that's what it takes to get her off, then wish her luck and find some tight pussy that appreciates what you have to offer, my man.
 

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I've been lurking for a while afraid to bring this up on this forum as most guys here are huge and most women are size queens. But maybe some advice from a size queen could be helpful.

I have been dating this very sexy girl. She was married for 10 years to her first. She has recently started dating again. We met a few months ago and hit it off. We have this amazing chemistry. We just can't keep our hands off of each other. Our sex is loving, passionate, hot and last a very long time. However she never climaxes with me inside of her.

About month ago i asked her if there was anything I could do. And if she was able to climax before. She said that she had climaxed before but that her ex husband was extremely well-endowed.

This really pissed me off. I know I'm not huge, I'm almost 8 inches long and 5.7 inches in girth, but I'm not exactly small either. Also, I've been with lots of women, most girls are happy with my size and cum multiple times.

I'd really love to break up with this girl for saying that. But I really like her.

Ladies, what should I do? I mean I really think that i can make her cum if she would just relax and help me. When I make her cum with my mouth it's pretty easy.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Are tou really telling us the truth and the right size ? I doubt about it, 8 inches are 20 cm, the average is 14-15, how long anfd large was her husband ....so whys is that girl complaining, unless she had a12 inch husband before?
 

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¿ AMBIGUITY? I see many posts in other forums where we are complaining that women don't answer sex questions and comparisons with previous lovers, especially when size is involved, honestly. Then when a lady does answer honestly, she is attacked aggressively as in this thread so how can we ever expect honest answers from the ladies?

As a few have mentioned, she is still with you so you must be doing something right. I would never suggest even dumping her for being honest. If you are really into her then you might want to jointly look for a mutually gratifying solution. For example maybe a vibrator on her clitoris during penetration, her doing kegels and new positions as already suggested. Take advantage of her honesty, a very scarce commodity today.

While she does get points for being honest, I don't think that anything you say is alright just because it was the honest answer. In other words, the truth in this situation might be a deal breaker and her honesty, while appreciated, revealed the possibility of her being unpleasable by any but the largest of cocks.

People really should go into being honest knowing that people may have an issue with your honest feelings on a given topic.

And if I have to use a vibrator to get a girl off knowing her last dude could I wouldn't enjoy myself. I'd be thinking the whole time "damn my dick isn't big enough so I have to use this vibrator on her?". I would try new positions though...
 

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i think u might be in love with someone who cant be pleased! I would be careful about such a relationship!
 

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First of all I wanna say thanks to everyone for their kind words and opinions.

The thing is, this whole ordeal just got more complicated somehow.

About three nights ago. She and I went to dinner. Afterwards she came over. As always we immediately ripped each other's clothes off and hoped into bed. Most of it is kind of blur, but at a certain point we were in the missionary position and she started tensing up. All i could think about was how perfect she felt. She was grinding against me, my cock was at the perfect depth inside of her. Things just kept building and building and finally she came. I know her signals from the dozens of times I've made her cum with my tongue. Right after she climaxes she pushes me away, rolls over on her side and starts laughing. And that is exactly what happened. I truly believe that it was genuine. I didn't ask about or even mention the her climax. We just carried on kissing and holding each other. Much later that night she asked me if i noticed that she came while i was fucking her.

The thing is she had been close to cumming before. So I don't know why she seemed to think it was so much about size.

Surpsingly, her climaxing, didn't instantly make me feel better or solve all of our problems. And honestly, I am still upset that she compared me to the other guys she's been with in a negative way. So despite the fact that she climaxed, i still think our relationship has problems. And she may have some sexual hangups that have nothing to do with me.

I guess in the long run I would prefer to be with someone who appreciates me for me. I am very sexually experienced and I know that loads of women would be happy with what i have to offer.

Oh well. Thanks again everyone for your advice.
 

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you know what??? Fuck her for saying something stupid like that!


I've been lurking for a while afraid to bring this up on this forum as most guys here are huge and most women are size queens. But maybe some advice from a size queen could be helpful.

I have been dating this very sexy girl. She was married for 10 years to her first. She has recently started dating again. We met a few months ago and hit it off. We have this amazing chemistry. We just can't keep our hands off of each other. Our sex is loving, passionate, hot and last a very long time. However she never climaxes with me inside of her.

About month ago i asked her if there was anything I could do. And if she was able to climax before. She said that she had climaxed before but that her ex husband was extremely well-endowed.

This really pissed me off. I know I'm not huge, I'm almost 8 inches long and 5.7 inches in girth, but I'm not exactly small either. Also, I've been with lots of women, most girls are happy with my size and cum multiple times.

I'd really love to break up with this girl for saying that. But I really like her.

Ladies, what should I do? I mean I really think that i can make her cum if she would just relax and help me. When I make her cum with my mouth it's pretty easy.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
 

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I've been lurking for a while afraid to bring this up on this forum as most guys here are huge and most women are size queens. But maybe some advice from a size queen could be helpful.

I have been dating this very sexy girl. She was married for 10 years to her first. She has recently started dating again. We met a few months ago and hit it off. We have this amazing chemistry. We just can't keep our hands off of each other. Our sex is loving, passionate, hot and last a very long time. However she never climaxes with me inside of her.

About month ago i asked her if there was anything I could do. And if she was able to climax before. She said that she had climaxed before but that her ex husband was extremely well-endowed.

This really pissed me off. I know I'm not huge, I'm almost 8 inches long and 5.7 inches in girth, but I'm not exactly small either. Also, I've been with lots of women, most girls are happy with my size and cum multiple times.

I'd really love to break up with this girl for saying that. But I really like her.

Ladies, what should I do? I mean I really think that i can make her cum if she would just relax and help me. When I make her cum with my mouth it's pretty easy.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

D'you know what? It's not the man's responsibility to "make her cum".

It pisses me off when women complain about their man not being able to "make her cum". It's more about her attitude and frame of mind than what you are or are not doing with your (in my opinion, perfectly adequate) cock.

OK, if you were just pumping away inside her with no concern as to how she feels then maybe she'd have something to whine about, but from what you've said, you're a considerate lover and she's the one that needs to lighten up a bit and focus on what you're doing together and not on memories of her ex's so-called endowment.

Enough said!

Lily
x
 

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Honestly, if the story is on the level, you should be glad she's up front. She didn't dump you and run away. She is tactless, but she wants you. A tactless open-minded woman, an experienced woman, is a keeper. Build on what you have in common.
 

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you hav to get pissed and give her some good ol' hate fukin!. just fuk the hell out of her. fuk her so hard that she passes out! then kick that becth to the curb!