Girlfriend Wants to Watch Me with Another Straight Guy

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  1. D_Walt_Whipman

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    Since she is always so accomodating whenever I ask her to try new things, I really want to do this to give my girlfriend a thrill but I am way cowardly about it. She gets very aroused when she talks about watching me have sex (either pitching and/or catching) with another straight guy. I think she may even have a distant acquaintance in mind for this little "event". I've never done any same-sex stuff -not even masturbating with a friend although I do enjoy a finger up the butt now and then. She and I have talked about this for a couple of years now and I feel like it's my turn to grant her an outrageous request (like the FFM threesome she did for me).

    I am going to do this for her but I am still very twitchy about it. Has anyone had any similar experiences that you could share so I can get more comfortable with the "project" and maybe get some of my questions answered?
     
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    my wife and i did the same thing but she only watched it was great she took photos and fist her pussy while me and another guy sucked each other off then took turns fucking each other you just have to relax and let it happen just pretend it's just you and the other guy it will work out great 1 thing just be safe .
     
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    hey robby -
    i had a g/f once that wanted me to do the same thing with a guy, but a gay guy friend of hers and i said 'absolutely not'. it seems it was a huge fantasy of hers to watch me with another guy. if things were great with us, i might have considered, but i broke up with her not long after. but yeah - she wanted to watch me with another guy. i wonder how many women have this fantasy.
    good luck with your deal there and hope you are able to have it be with someone decent and really cool about it.
     
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    Re: Girlfriend Wants to Watch Me with Another Straight Guy
    Okay, this is where the %'s confuse me. :redface: IMO if you have never done anything with another guy, but have a gf who you enjoy sex with; then you are 100% straight.

    You may want to find our who she has in mind. Is it an ex-bf, or someone she was part of a 3some with in the past. Cause if you say no, he may be your replacement. :frown1:

    I've never done any same-sex stuff -not even masturbating with a friend although I do enjoy a finger up the butt now and then. She and I have talked about this for a couple of years now and I feel like it's my turn to grant her an outrageous request (like the FFM threesome she did for me). LMAO Aha! See what you get for asking for that FFM, turnabout is fair play . . . in theory.

    I am going to do this for her but I am still very twitchy about it. Has anyone had any similar experiences that you could share so I can get more comfortable with the "project" and maybe get some of my questions answered?[/quote] Sorry, I got nothing helpful to offer other than if sex with another man never crossed your mind before then maybe you shouldn't be doing it. :rolleyes:

    FWIW: IMHO 100% straight guys do not catch or pitch with other men. :cool:
     
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    I would agree that turnabout is fair play. I would also agree that you're probably not going to be having sex with a straight guy, lol, maybe bi (we're not that bad). I guess that if you're commited to fair play (she did the FFM thing for you) and you guys communicate and set up ground rules (what you're willing to do, what's off limits, like kissing, etc.) it could be an enjoyable experience. I think that if she's got someone in mind, you should all meet in a neutral location (pub/bar/resteraunt) to get a feel for each other.

    Oh yeah, make sure you poop before getting started (shower too). lol
     
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    All I can say is you'd better be sure you want to do that, or that you can at least act like you're enjoying male-on-male sex. Nobody'll be having a good time if you're tense and uncomfortable, if you feel like you're being forced to do it. You shouldn't feel forced to do anything for anyone when it comes to this stuff. You say she's granted "outrageous" requests like FFM threesomes in the past, but how outrageous was it for her? Maybe she was curious about it, and wanted to try it just as much as you did. I will say if you've forced her, or pushed really hard for her to do things she didn't really want to do sexually, then you have it coming and you owe her. Just know how you think you'll react before you have sex with a guy.

    Now, you also asked for tips about being less "twitchy". The number one rule I could give is to not think of the guy as competition, or as a potential enemy. You have to be comfortable touching and being intimate with another guy, and that means trusting him and not being afraid of him. Having said that, you need to keep in mind that you're doing this for your girlfriend. Your attention should be on her just as much as your partner. Gauge her interest while you're having sex with the guy. Look at her, and pay attention to what gets her off. If you look at MM sex as being for your girlfriend, almost like a job, then it might be easier to do.

    Good luck, and be responsible for everyone's sake.
     
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    DO IT!!!! Your woman will adore you for fulfilling her fantasy and you will be blown away by the experience!
     
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    If your gunna go with this (for her)... then talk about this guy she may have in mind.. find out about him.. anything-she knows (if hes an ex,, no way dude)... arrange to take with him ONE ON ONE.. just a talk.. find out his thoughts on this and all.. If you both can stand the look of each-other and agree to. arrange for a private night were he and you can jerk off together.. Just pop in a porn and wip the cocks out.. take a look at em and if you two get ballzy enough.. grap each others cocks and stroke em..

    I think if you can get to THAT point. you two can go further and work out the rest on your own.. Once the girl is involved she will act as a center focus for you both...

    IF not the guy she has in mind.. do YOU have anyone in mind?
     
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    Wait, she wants you to do things with another straight guy because she did a FFM threesome with you for you? There is equivalent exchange, and she deserves something, but my complete honest opinion is that THIS IS NOT FAIR TO YOU.

    Okay, well, maybe that was a bit abrupt. Basically, more detail is needed here. How much girl-on-girl happened in the aforementioned threesome? An equivalent action to the FFM would me an MMF threesome. There was a guy a couple (maybe several... I am horrible at remembering how long ago things happened) months ago who was with a girl who surprised him with an awesome FFM threesome. He came here worried about and asking about a MMF threesome, and in the end, he surprised her with said threesome, and it turned out to be a blast for everyone involved.

    As for your situation, you need to consider how hard it was for her to do the things she did for you, and weigh them against how hard it would be for you to do the things for her that she wants.

    I, personally, think that it's okay to decline. It's a lot harder for a straight guy to do stuff with another guy than it is for a straight girl to do stuff with another girl. You would still be at fault, in a way, since she did do stuff for you and you wouldn't be returning the pleasure she has given you, but if she cares for you, she'll respect your boundaries, although you should try to offer alternative things you could try to do for her.

    Really though, it's ultimately up to you, as I don't know nearly enough about the situation as you do.
     
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    If it wouldn't turn YOU on, don't do it.

    But you might find the more you think about it - the better it sounds. Check out some man on man porn and see what makes you feel.
     
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    She LOVED the HBO series Oz because of the straight actors who had to kiss eachother from time to time. As good of a Googler as she is, my gf is unable to find porn of this type anywhere. Gay porn does nothing for her because the men are too "pretty" to be anything other than actors. "Straight Guy Seduction" sites are a little better but still feature too many obviously gay men and/or youngsters (which are a turnoff for her). This is what started her fantasies of me trying things out with another straight guy of average looks and closer to fifty. I tried to substitute a tranny but just gave her ideas for later adventures. Man on man porn has kind of the opposite effect on me... maybe too intimidating because of the muscles and chiseled cocks.
     
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    I was really hoping to hear from the female members here about how common this type of fantasy is. Is my gf as big a freak as we think she is or is this like us dudes getting off on watching chicks together?
     
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    Since I am all about the pink flesh and the scent and softness of women, it doesn't really matter too much about who the other guy is as long as he is "straight enough" to ensure a satisfactory experience for my gf.

    The guy she has in mind (if it's who I think it is) is average like me and about my age. She thinks he would be good because he has not had any same-sex experience and is very funny with great listening skills. I think he seems like this to her because he has a crush on her but I guess that would be a good thing too. At least he and I would have that in common.

    I was also wondering if there were any members here in my same situation who wanted to put something like this together for their wife/gf anywhere within range of us... in case she is unable to talk her friend into "partying" with us.
     
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    I've seen MtoM cocksucking, and I usually go along with whatever the "play" is, but I'd rather not do FMM. It's not a turn on for me.

    I'm an exhibitionist and participant, not a spectator.
     
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    I for one find this totally hot. I am wishing that I could be a fly on the wall during this "party" when/if it happens. If she's a freak then I must be one too! :biggrin1:
     
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    From what little we know about Robby-Robby, his gf could probably order up some FFM action anytime she felt like it if it was something she really enjoyed herself. How many boyfriends would actually refuse these kind of "parties"? Since she obviously only "granted his fantasy" the one time, it seems she's not crazy for going both ways.
     
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    I would say go for it.

    The best sex I ever had was in a MMF 3 some.

    But then again, I like sucking cock.


    Tips- first off, THINK about it... watch some bisexual porn or gay porn and try and feel out which position you seem to identify with or get most aroused over. Top or Bottom.

    If you are gonna top, then you will find it is not that different... getting sucked and ass fucking is gonna feel familiar- even if the scenery looks different.

    If you are gonna bottom, do some prep work- practice a few times cleaning yourself out- I recommend an enema.
    And buy a dildo and or butt plug and play with it some...


    If you already like a little butt play... work up to it with your woman using more fingers, then a small dildo, and eventually a man sized dildo on you.

    IF you can get yourself comfortable with penetration, and even better, get to the point where you appreciate how it feels... then when it comes time to get assfucked you will be far more relaxed and far more excited.

    I suspect you will find cocksucking fun. Face it, you know you would suck your own if you could reach it more comfortably... and I have never met a straight guy who tried it who didn't enjoy it.

    But the best parts of MMF sex is the many different ways two men and one woman can plug into each other.

    Taking it in the ass while you're fucking her.... Her getting it it from both ends... you eating her while he's fucking her... you in her pussy and he in her ass.... she riding on top of you while sucking the other guy's cock with his balls in your mouth... Fucking her while sucking him... her sucking you while he's fucking you....

    And all the vice versa's where you and he trade positions.

    Hell, it'll take a week of 3 way sex just to try all the different variations.

    but if you can relax, focus on the sensual pleasure and abandon your preconceptions... you will find that sex with a man and a woman at the same time is amazing.
     
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    I am confused. You say you are straight, yet claim you are 20% gay in your profile. What really confuses me is the requirement in this scenario that the other man be straight. Won't this make this very unlikely to happen? Contrary to so many other posts on this site, straight men usually don't get involved with any situation where they will have to have sex with another man...despite the unbounded hopes and desires of so many posters. And why all the trepidation if you are, in fact, 20% gay?

    Why do I get the feeling that this is merely another hopeful "turn-the-straight-guy" post? I may be wrong...but there is some common thread here, I think.

    Well...good luck, anyway...whatever this is.
     
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    I have to say that I'm in a similar situation as my girlfriend wants me to have a MM experience too. She's not up to telling me much about the person she has in mind so I'm thinking that I know him and would balk at the idea, so I'm not sure what to do myself. In your case Robby, I guess you need to stay open minded and trust her. For me, I'd love nothing more than to please her but I'm just not sure I'm wired to get it up for another guy, if you are great! Best of luck to you and if I decide to have man fun I'll let you know what happens!
     
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    FWIW: IMHO 100% straight guys do not catch or pitch with other men. :cool:


    Why does it matter if you're 100% anything. Sex is sex...if you enjoy it and the other person is enjoying it, then it's all good. Only participate in this experience if YOU really want to have that experience. Otherwise, you won't enjoy it anyway.

    Just my 2cents.
     
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