girlfriend whos friends are ALL guys, problem?

[AlteredEgo]

Here's a hint. It's not because all her guy friends want to fuck her (which they do, if she's attractive). As someone noted above, if a woman wants to cheat, she can always find a man to do it with even if she has zero male friends.

It's a red flag for me because a woman who keeps mostly male friends to the exclusion of female friends is telegraphing something about her personality. She's fine for a fling, but I pity the fool who entrusts his heart and his finances (via marriage) to such a woman.

What is she telegraphing? Most of the women I find are two-faced bitches who just want to compete with me for male attention. So fuck 'em. I stick to men.

Men don't want to compete with me. Men just seem to want to have a beer and talk about sci-fi. My male friends are (in only some cases) attracted to me. And in some cases that is mutual. I just told my friend Vin on facebook that I think he's hot. (It's all about context. He is in fact hot, when he is dressed for work, and he needed the validation. My husband approved the comment before I posted it.) But that doesn't mean I want to have sex with them. My husband knows I wouldn't fuck Vin with our dog's pussy if I could borrow it. The thought kind of makes me sick. He's like a brother. By that token, my actual brother is hot too. And I definitely am not looking to cheat on my husband with my brother. Gross.

I suspect this is just your personal hang-up. At least 80% of my friends are men. I make new male friends all the time (four in 2011 alone) but all of my female friends are from jr. high school or earlier. I don't like women. (Except for LPSG women. I don't meet women like them in real life.)

 

[Pendlum]

Even if it is a problem what could you do about it, try to control who she's friends with? Because that would only drive her away.

The reality is it isn't actually a problem, unless it is YOUR problem.

 

[B_Bjen2848]

What is she telegraphing? Most of the women I find are two-faced bitches who just want to compete with me for male attention. So fuck 'em. I stick to men.

Men don't want to compete with me. Men just seem to want to have a beer and talk about sci-fi. My male friends are (in only some cases) attracted to me. And in some cases that is mutual. I just told my friend Vin on facebook that I think he's hot. (It's all about context. He is in fact hot, when he is dressed for work, and he needed the validation. My husband approved the comment before I posted it.) But that doesn't mean I want to have sex with them. My husband knows I wouldn't fuck Vin with our dog's pussy if I could borrow it. The thought kind of makes me sick. He's like a brother. By that token, my actual brother is hot too. And I definitely am not looking to cheat on my husband with my brother. Gross.

I suspect this is just your personal hang-up. At least 80% of my friends are men. I make new male friends all the time (four in 2011 alone) but all of my female friends are from jr. high school or earlier. I don't like women. (Except for LPSG women. I don't meet women like them in real life.)

they don't "compete" with you because they want to fuck you ... its pretty simple


for all ladies out there who are at least a "5", i would say 80% of your male friends want to fuck you ... yes shocking, but true

what about the other 20% you ask? let me break it down

12% are gay
5% are actually your friend because you've known them since 2nd grade and he protected you from the school bully
2% not only want to fuck you, but they are MADLY in LOVE with you ... they are the socially awkward guys who literally sweat when they are around you and almost shit themselves when they say hi to you, they just don't have the stones to "hit it and quit it" so they are in love (lol)

and the funny thing is women KNOW a large majority of their male friends want to fuck them, they just pretend to be naive to this "what?? johnyy?? nooo we don't see each other like that lol, we're friieennddsss :wink::biggrin1::redface:" and "johnny" is sitting their pretending to not want to have sex with her, she knows he wants her ass, he definitly knows he wants her ass, they just keep their guy friends around to validate how hot they are

and women, there is NOTHING wrong with all of this ... just don't bullshit us because we know you're not stupid

 

[B_Bjen2848]

Even if it is a problem what could you do about it, try to control who she's friends with? Because that would only drive her away.

The reality is it isn't actually a problem, unless it is YOUR problem.

which is correct, its not a problem if she knows what the deal is, you definitley can't control who she's friends with, but i would see it as a little red flag when seeing a girl if she has like 50 guy friends she hangs out with and she hasn't known any of them for longer than a year

 

[TroMag]

they don't "compete" with you because they want to fuck you ... its pretty simple


for all ladies out there who are at least a "5", i would say 80% of your male friends want to fuck you ... yes shocking, but true

what about the other 20% you ask? let me break it down

12% are gay
5% are actually your friend because you've known them since 2nd grade and he protected you from the school bully
2% not only want to fuck you, but they are MADLY in LOVE with you ... they are the socially awkward guys who literally sweat when they are around you and almost shit themselves when they say hi to you, they just don't have the stones to "hit it and quit it" so they are in love (lol)

and the funny thing is women KNOW a large majority of their male friends want to fuck them, they just pretend to be naive to this "what?? johnyy?? nooo we don't see each other like that lol, we're friieennddsss :wink::biggrin1::redface:" and "johnny" is sitting their pretending to not want to have sex with her, she knows he wants her ass, he definitly knows he wants her ass, they just keep their guy friends around to validate how hot they are

and women, there is NOTHING wrong with all of this ... just don't bullshit us because we know you're not stupid

Well said.

 

[helgaleena]

It's a red flag for me because a woman who keeps mostly male friends to the exclusion of female friends is telegraphing something about her personality. She's fine for a fling, but I pity the fool who entrusts his heart and his finances (via marriage) to such a woman.

Such a woman? what does that mean? If she has many friends who are savvy about investing she might be a good one to entrust your money to, rather than an airhead who gets all her stock advice at the beauty parlor. Please elaborate.

 

[helgaleena]

which is correct, its not a problem if she knows what the deal is, you definitley can't control who she's friends with, but i would see it as a little red flag when seeing a girl if she has like 50 guy friends she hangs out with and she hasn't known any of them for longer than a year

That sounds like clients, not friends...:sad:

 

[B_Bjen2848]

That sounds like clients, not friends...:sad:

clients like in business? lol they're even worse .. let me break it down

100% of business men that you meet in your life not only want to fuck you, but they want to fuck your wallet and sell you shit after he cums ...

"wow that was amazing babe ... wanna buy this stereo?"

 

[Gecko4lif]

they don't "compete" with you because they want to fuck you ... its pretty simple


for all ladies out there who are at least a "5", i would say 80% of your male friends want to fuck you ... yes shocking, but true

what about the other 20% you ask? let me break it down

12% are gay
5% are actually your friend because you've known them since 2nd grade and he protected you from the school bully
2% not only want to fuck you, but they are MADLY in LOVE with you ... they are the socially awkward guys who literally sweat when they are around you and almost shit themselves when they say hi to you, they just don't have the stones to "hit it and quit it" so they are in love (lol)

and the funny thing is women KNOW a large majority of their male friends want to fuck them, they just pretend to be naive to this "what?? johnyy?? nooo we don't see each other like that lol, we're friieennddsss :wink::biggrin1::redface:" and "johnny" is sitting their pretending to not want to have sex with her, she knows he wants her ass, he definitly knows he wants her ass, they just keep their guy friends around to validate how hot they are

and women, there is NOTHING wrong with all of this ... just don't bullshit us because we know you're not stupid

My nigga

 

[B_Bjen2848]

My nigga

lol yezzzzirrr

 

[ConstantComment]

Such a woman? what does that mean? If she has many friends who are savvy about investing she might be a good one to entrust your money to, rather than an airhead who gets all her stock advice at the beauty parlor. Please elaborate.

It might be that she goes to a beauty salon the financial district.

 

[helgaleena]

It might be that she goes to a beauty salon the financial district.

In that case she probably works there herself! QFT :wink: Oh what a terrible person to ask for financial tips , NOT

 

[ConstantComment]

Here's a hint. It's not because all her guy friends want to fuck her (which they do, if she's attractive). As someone noted above, if a woman wants to cheat, she can always find a man to do it with even if she has zero male friends.

It's a red flag for me because a woman who keeps mostly male friends to the exclusion of female friends is telegraphing something about her personality. She's fine for a fling, but I pity the fool who entrusts his heart and his finances (via marriage) to such a woman.

But it's easier with male friends. That old, well , he invited me in for drinks just to talk and since I've know him for a long time.........

I'm not saying that women don't cheat, but it's much easier when you have a stable of attractive men already hanging around on your speed dial.

OP, listen to things that she says:
1. Is she disparaging of other women which in her mind prevents her from having women friends.
2. Is she constantly flirtatious with other men. Particularly to the point that men may believe that she is available despite your being a few feet away.
3. Does she construe phantom obligations to other people: ie, that old, I had to be nice to him when it ends up compromising you in any way.
4. When she socialises with male friends, do they bring their girfriends, does she acknowledge them?

 

[Aplus]

Here's a hint. It's not because all her guy friends want to fuck her (which they do, if she's attractive). As someone noted above, if a woman wants to cheat, she can always find a man to do it with even if she has zero male friends.

It's a red flag for me because a woman who keeps mostly male friends to the exclusion of female friends is telegraphing something about her personality. She's fine for a fling, but I pity the fool who entrusts his heart and his finances (via marriage) to such a woman.

I don't necessarily agree with you, although I do share your caution. Some women, for whatever reasons, are simply more comfortable around men than they are around women. I don't think they are generally prone to cheating though. Women, in general. don't tend to sexualize men nearly as much as men generally do. They just don't seem that hard-wired to casual sex with just any guy. Damn them! Guys. IMHO, aren't generally as good at it though. Nor are they as respectful or honorable to others relationships generally. I'm not sure either sex is really. Boundaries or ultimatiums are slippery slopes though. There is a thin-line between being unreasonably cautious or demanding, as there is to being simply stupid. I do think there should be boundaries in relationships with friends, just have never been sure where they stop and end though.

 

[killerb]

Similar to Elaine Benes, my current girlfriend has all guys as friends, should there be concern?

NOPE

I have a married female friend who is the same way...she just doesn't get along with many females outside of her family...she likes the lack of drama & pettiness. (her words, not mine)

 

[fangirl]

if you have to ask, there already is.
the trick is figuring out if its you with the problem or her.

 

[AlteredEgo]

they don't "compete" with you because they want to fuck you ... its pretty simple


for all ladies out there who are at least a "5", i would say 80% of your male friends want to fuck you ... yes shocking, but true

what about the other 20% you ask? let me break it down

12% are gay
5% are actually your friend because you've known them since 2nd grade and he protected you from the school bully
2% not only want to fuck you, but they are MADLY in LOVE with you ... they are the socially awkward guys who literally sweat when they are around you and almost shit themselves when they say hi to you, they just don't have the stones to "hit it and quit it" so they are in love (lol)

and the funny thing is women KNOW a large majority of their male friends want to fuck them, they just pretend to be naive to this "what?? johnyy?? nooo we don't see each other like that lol, we're friieennddsss :wink::biggrin1::redface:" and "johnny" is sitting their pretending to not want to have sex with her, she knows he wants her ass, he definitly knows he wants her ass, they just keep their guy friends around to validate how hot they are

and women, there is NOTHING wrong with all of this ... just don't bullshit us because we know you're not stupid

NONE of my friends are in love with me. And I routinely wingman for about half of them. Three of my friends want to have sex with me; I used to be in relationships with them. The attraction is mutual but I'm not interested. Some of my other friends find me attractive, but if it was going to happen, it would have happened when I was single and promiscuous. There was certainly opportunity, but as I said, it would be weird. We've been friends forever. And then there is the fact that I AM NOT INTERESTED. My new male friends are actually my husband's co-workers. I just like them more than he does. They like him more than he likes them too. He's like me. Not friendly with the same sex.

None of this matters. I am not interested in cheating on my husband. There is no such thing as a man I cannot resist. There is no such thing as an advance I cannot reject. Your whole premise that the men I know want to have sex with me is irrelevant. They can all want in one hand, and shit in the other, and see which one fills up first.

 

[B_Bjen2848]

NONE of my friends are in love with me. And I routinely wingman for about half of them. Three of my friends want to have sex with me; I used to be in relationships with them. The attraction is mutual but I'm not interested. Some of my other friends find me attractive, but if it was going to happen, it would have happened when I was single and promiscuous. There was certainly opportunity, but as I said, it would be weird. We've been friends forever. And then there is the fact that I AM NOT INTERESTED. My new male friends are actually my husband's co-workers. I just like them more than he does. They like him more than he likes them too. He's like me. Not friendly with the same sex.

None of this matters. I am not interested in cheating on my husband. There is no such thing as a man I cannot resist. There is no such thing as an advance I cannot reject. Your whole premise that the men I know want to have sex with me is irrelevant. They can all want in one hand, and shit in the other, and see which one fills up first.

ok ... whats your point? lol, you basically proved me right

no one is claiming you are going to cheat on your husband so cool out, no need to get defensive

all i am saying is that most people are not as strong willed and quick resist sex with someone they are attracted to as you are claiming to be and that a girl with a lot of male friends is a red flag, not because she will be hit on (most women get hit on multiple times a day) but because she will be hit on like normal, times how ever many guy friends she has in her circle so she trusts them more and will be less guarded ... and that is a reasonable concern to have when stepping in a relationship

 

[AlteredEgo]

Nah. I think most women who keep a lot of male friends are able to do so precisely because they have no interest in sleeping with them. Most women who don't keep a lot of girl friends around tend to leave women alone because other women have brought them too much drama and heartache. These women do not then turn around and fill their lives with men who only add drama by occasionally trying to hook up. It just doesn't make sense. Keeping the click all-male is all about being drama free. And if I ever get tired of not knowing anyone who's a pain in my ass, I can always log into Facebook and talk to all the girls I stopped talking to years ago who for some reason thought I might want to be in touch with them again after all this time. Please.

 

[Gecko4lif]

The ladder theory perfectly fills the gap between you and bjen

You should both read it.