Girlfriend's First Anal experience

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Hey Ladies (and gentleman)
So here's what i consider a women's issues. My girlfriend who was always not ok with anal sex, said she would be ok to give a chance to make her change her mind, so we're planning to give it a shot very soon.
The thing is she's most afraid that it would hurt like hell (iven if i'm a very patient guy and i always promissed her that i would take all the time it needs to make it feel the best for her more then for me), so i'm her seeking women (and men's why not) help around that issues, any advices about best positions to help prevent the possible pain ? any general advices from our LPSG ladies ?
Thanks a lot in advance

PS : I'm pretty sure that the subject was already discussed, but i've decided to creat a new thread to make things go a bit faster and make it more visible :smile:
 

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Why would you continue to pester her for something she is not interested in, not turned on by and has told you she is afraid of?
 

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Why would you continue to pester her for something she is not interested in, not turned on by and has told you she is afraid of?

Cause i took all my time to know her, to know her way of seeing things :)
So let me explain, she's a very curious girl, and iven if sometimes she would say she's not ok with a thing, as soon as she tastes it, she would get addicted to it
So trust me, i'm not pestering her for something she's not interested in, plus how would we get interested in things if we would've try to discover them at least once in our lives ?
 

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My thumb rules are:

Time: Take your time, make sure she is turned on (extended foreplay, what ever she like and sends her over the top.

Patience: Dont be impatient, (see above). Let her take the lead, let her control how much/how fast

Lube: Use a LOT of lube!

thanks a lot sir, i'm defently planning on using lots a lots of lube and since we love extended foreplay, then i think we would be good for it :)

Use the search function

You don't say :D !
 

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Cause i took all my time to know her, to know her way of seeing things :)
So let me explain, she's a very curious girl, and iven if sometimes she would say she's not ok with a thing, as soon as she tastes it, she would get addicted to it
So trust me, i'm not pestering her for something she's not interested in, plus how would we get interested in things if we would've try to discover them at least once in our lives ?

Puhlease.... She gets "interested" because you keep hinting, asking, pushing. And if I was a betting girl, I would bet this isn't the only thing she didn't want to do but "changed her mind" to please you.
 

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LOL with all due respect but you're being slightly pathetic with your top feminist comments :)
You don't know me, you don't know her, read my first message, if you have nothing to add from what am asking for, then please continue your way
How can you be so sure about what i do and do not ? lol
truely pathetic, but funny to read i got to give you that one
 

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let her strap up and fuck you hard.
when she sees how much you enjoy taking a dick in the ass she'll be super eager to experience the magic of a sex act she's got no current interest in.

troux faques.
 

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No means no. The lady said no. If you can't see that, she can do better than you. Guaranteed.

Helping men manipulate women is not a women's issue, it is your issue, and belongs in Sex With a Large Penis, or Ask a Woman, where this thread would have the company of many others of its ilk.
 

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Wow, you're a real catch! Like ML says you go first, and then you can explain quite vividly what to expect.
 

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The thing is she's most afraid that it would hurt like hell

This is the key,if you think it's going to hurt,it will because you are tense.That's my experience with anal sex and tattoos.The more I relax physicaly and mentaly the better it goes.Side note tatts always hurt but I can take it for about 4 hours!:lmao:My wife however can play all night with my prostate!

Ignore the man haters in this thread who think you coerced your girlfriend.They lack reading skills and don't understand that people can change their mind about trying fearfull things all on their own.:eek:
 

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Hey Ladies (and gentleman)
So here's what i consider a women's issues. My girlfriend who was always not ok with anal sex, said she would be ok to give a chance to make her change her mind, so we're planning to give it a shot very soon.
The thing is she's most afraid that it would hurt like hell (iven if i'm a very patient guy and i always promissed her that i would take all the time it needs to make it feel the best for her more then for me), so i'm her seeking women (and men's why not) help around that issues, any advices about best positions to help prevent the possible pain ? any general advices from our LPSG ladies ?
Thanks a lot in advance

PS : I'm pretty sure that the subject was already discussed, but i've decided to creat a new thread to make things go a bit faster and make it more visible :smile:

It is great to see that she is willing to at least try it even if she is scared. When my hubby and I tried it for the first time we first did some reading about ways to start. First you need to help you relax because if she doesn't relax it will hurt. Start with a nice back massage, slowly rub her butt and just use a little lube to massage the outside of the anus. Just insert one finger and lube, as she relaxes using your finger, then add two fingers. Once she relax with that than slowly introduce an anal probe or your penis. With every step you have to be very slow and she needs to relax or it will hurt and she is not going to want it ever again. Of course she may not like it even after all these step but hey you have to try at least once. I know for myself, I asked for it and do enjoy it.
 

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It is great to see that she is willing to at least try it even if she is scared. When my hubby and I tried it for the first time we first did some reading about ways to start. First you need to help you relax because if she doesn't relax it will hurt. Start with a nice back massage, slowly rub her butt and just use a little lube to massage the outside of the anus. Just insert one finger and lube, as she relaxes using your finger, then add two fingers. Once she relax with that than slowly introduce an anal probe or your penis. With every step you have to be very slow and she needs to relax or it will hurt and she is not going to want it ever again. Of course she may not like it even after all these step but hey you have to try at least once. I know for myself, I asked for it and do enjoy it.

Hey Lissa
Thanks a lot for your answear and all these good advices !
People tend to misjudge others and think that i'm forcing her into it, and the thing is that she's the one proposing it :) but like they say, haters gonna hate xD
Thanks for the massage idea, i was seriously thinking about it as a great way to get her to relax all of her body ... i'm currently now looking for a good massage lube (she hates the one we used to usually use cause it used to stick after some time iven if it's water based :/ ). And i'm one hell a patient guy, so i'll take all the time it needs to make it as a great experience as possible
and remember people, sex is a game, so let's play it well

Thanks everyone for the read and for your participations
 

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No means no. The lady said no. If you can't see that, she can do better than you. Guaranteed.

Come on... Of course no means no, but experimenting with sex is all about trust. They are in a relationship. Is it really so unlikely that she's grown comfortable enough with him that she's gotten curious enough to try it?

When I first enquired my girlfriend on the topic of anal sex, she surely wasn't interested. As time went by, her curiosity grew, and certainly not because I was pushing her in that direction, but probably because she heard good things from friends.

Of course people change their mind, and of course people initially say no to lots of things, for some reason or another, even though they might be interested.
 

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Come on... Of course no means no, but experimenting with sex is all about trust. They are in a relationship. Is it really so unlikely that she's grown comfortable enough with him that she's gotten curious enough to try it?

When I first enquired my girlfriend on the topic of anal sex, she surely wasn't interested. As time went by, her curiosity grew, and certainly not because I was pushing her in that direction, but probably because she heard good things from friends.

Of course people change their mind, and of course people initially say no to lots of things, for some reason or another, even though they might be interested.

Well sir, i owe you some beer for such a frank statement !
cheers !!

i have heard that marokkaan women are masters in anal, because thats how they have sex until marriage so that they stay "virgin"

It's quiet a false statement i would say ... But people do it that's for sure, but it doesn't make them masters, but they tend to go for that option to please their boyfriends ... and it doesn't mean it's done the right way ;) and that's why most girls who opte for anal sex to keep their virginity would tell you they hate anal sex
 

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Come on... Of course no means no, but experimenting with sex is all about trust. They are in a relationship. Is it really so unlikely that she's grown comfortable enough with him that she's gotten curious enough to try it?

When I first enquired my girlfriend on the topic of anal sex, she surely wasn't interested. As time went by, her curiosity grew, and certainly not because I was pushing her in that direction, but probably because she heard good things from friends.

Of course people change their mind, and of course people initially say no to lots of things, for some reason or another, even though they might be interested.
Yes, but if you read the OP, she says no, she says she's scared but she is going to give him a chance to change her mind. Change her mind. Did you get that? Change her mind. To me that screams coercion on his part. And keep in mind we have him putting his best case forward to us.

If it was a case of she's been thinking about it and wants to try it, I would expect that conversation to be more like "ok babe, I am curious. I think I want to try this, but I'm still scared. What do we do about the pain and the mess?"

If the girl wanted to do this, it would be done by now.

And it's telling to me that because the OP isn't hearing what he wants from the ladies here, he is belittling and dismissive to us. He came here to get our opinion. But he hasn't given our almost universal reply any thought at all.
 

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She didn't say yes because i was hitting on her, i actually never discussed the subject with her (having anal sex), she just some days ago asked me the question, i said that i would be willing to try it out, then she said she was scared but would defently give me a chance to change her mind ... i think it's called love and trust, thing that not everyone get the chance to experiment ;)
So does it sound like i'm hitting on her for that ?