What made you think I thought you were making such a suggestion? Perhaps you are not reading the whole conversation? I never said or implied that that you suggested "he should broadcast his opinion about his ex's ladybits". I'm not stupid. I understand what you wrote. I can see you were trying to see if I'd feel the same way if the tables were turned. I never addressed that question (the answer is yes). YOU were talking about that. YOU brought that up. I have only ever been talking about the idea that if sexual encounters with the ex-girlfriend's friend would create drama (undue waves) in his social circle since he remains friends with the ex, or if it would be hurtful to his ex to be too close to his future lovers, that it would be wrong. That is what the word escalate means in this context. It means to act in such a way that increases the tension or energy of the situation, taking it to another level, which, depending on the dynamic of the relationships involved, sleeping with that lady might do. YOUR response to that was that the drama began when the ex started talking too much. MY response to that is that two wrongs don't make a right. Are we on the same page now (whether we agree or disagree) or am I not explaining clearly enough?
For extra clarity, we are talking about you disagreeing with the following statement, by agreeing with yodiggity:
alteredego said:
You are responsible for drama around you, even if you ignore it. That's just irresponsible."
You seemingly justify your disagreement with the above idea that it is okay for the OP to take actions which escalate the potential drama, as yopdiggity suggests. THAT is what yodiggity suggests when he says
yodiggity said:
its not irresponsible its just not caring which most people really should learn to do. if it doesnt bother you then fuck everyone else, its their problem then.
He is explicitly saying that it doesn't matter what the socio-emotional repercussions are, he should satisfy his id, no matter what. I continue to assert that THAT is irresponsible. You may continue to disagree. You certainly don't need my permission to do so. I just don't want misunderstanding between us.