Girlfriend's Odd Kink Or Genuine Concern For My Health?

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Five years ago I was faced with the decision of undergoing a circumcision for a chronic autoimmune skin condition called lichen sclerosus. I won't go into details of what that entails (quite a lot of medical terminology which I don't want to waste your time with), but in very short terms it is a skin condition that causes chronic scarring of the foreskin and leads to a 5% lifetime risk of it turning to cancer. You normally get two treatment options: a) either manage it with steroids indefinitely and have regular check-ups to ensure that if it does turn to cancer, you catch it early, or b) get circumcised. Circumcision is permanently curative in over 99% of the cases and it also eliminates the cancer threat.

Anyway, after sticking with option a) for over two years I was getting increasingly nervous about the whole "look out for cancer" bit, plus I was having to go through regular flare-ups as I had to take breaks from using steroids - you cannot apply steroids indefinitely as they thin the skin and may trigger infections if used excessively. Nevertheless, I felt like surgery would have been too radical of a step as the condition was manageable. I was worried about loss of sensitivity, and the fact that circumcision is normally portrayed as mutilation in most online communities wasn't very encouraging either.

After prolonged internal debates I brought the matter up to my girlfriend (we had been dating for a year at that point and we now have been together for over six years and living together for the past three). After explaining my predicament she became very adamant that I needed to be circumcised and was slightly disappointed that I had postponed it for so long. I ended up agreeing with her as I realised I was essentially postponing being permanently cured for fear of some minor loss in penile sensitivity. A couple of weeks later I was booked in for my surgery. My girlfriend was very supportive throughout the process and it all turned out very well - the condition was cured and I did not lose any noticeable amount of sensitivity. Resuming sex was great and we were both satisfied with my "new" penis.

Anyway, a few days ago while drunk my girlfriend admitted she never liked my foreskin ever since we first had sex. She said she still liked me a lot, but the appearance of my penis was just a turn off to her to the point that she would frequently prefer to move straight to penetration once I got hard enough. She found me getting circumcised a massive turn-on and looking back at it now, blowjobs did oddly start to become more frequent once I was snipped, though I initially put that down to us becoming more comfortable in the relationship rather than anything else. Turns out that nope, cut cock is just her kink, and while she wouldn't admit it or ask for anyone to have surgery for her, she does have a strong preference for the foreskin-free variant. She laughed it off that mine's perfect anyway when she saw I was becoming a bit worried. I didn't press the matter and we never brought it up again, but it left me thinking.

Could some of that encouragement for me to seek surgery have been trigger by her sexual preference for circumcised cocks more so than by concern for my well-being? It all worked out fine in the end, but I can't say I don't feel a bit odd about the whole thing when looking at it from this perspective. Does this sort of thing actually matter; do some ladies actually care that much about foreskin, and should I be concerned that my girlfriend might have encouraged me to get circumcised for more selfish motives than her stated reason - my health? In my case circumcision was actually the right choice from a medical standpoint, but I feel she might have encouraged me into it even if I had a less serious condition that would not have necessarily required it and that makes me a bit uneasy.
 
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Checked ya post history.

Ya are really into circ threads. Like, really dialed in.

No body altering without consent. My general rule. You made an educted decision based on a medical condition. Congrats. That same privilege should be applied to all people.

Ya girl's motivations? Not her, can't say.
 
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Good response by a man that will probably get axed. Sigh. It said related the above situation w/ an overweight woman who's partner supported her weight loss only to find out he found her to be unattractive in her old body. The post also said that the relationship has a toxic tone, which I agree that this one post makes it sound this way, but I think it's probably more his insecurities speaking than an actual bad relationship.

OP: I think you're allowing her honesty about preferring circumcised to color your memories and are focusing on the wrong thing. You say
In my case circumcision was actually the right choice from a medical standpoint
That should be the end of it.

IF she is selfish in other areas, you should be concerned about your relationship with her period.

As far as the penis portion of the question, if you read this section of the forum, you will repeatedly hear that women don't care that much about your wang. If we like you, we'll most likely be happy with whatever you've got in your pants. Do we have preferences? Sure. But just because I prefer guys with brown hair doesn't mean I won't date a guy who's blonde, bald, etc.
 
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You made the right choice. I have my own experiences with LS, and there is no surgical options for women. You’re lucky you had an option.

If your girlfriend loves you, your health likely was her priority. It says more about your insecurities that you doubt her.