Hi! This I've been reading the forum a while but this is my first post. I'm 22, and while this is my first "serious" relationship, I had dated many girls before her but I always turned them down when it came to the point of sex or oral sex because I wanted to save it for somebody I really liked (I'm not super religous or anything). My girlfriend and I have been together for well over a year now. We've had our ups and downs but for the most part its been wonderful for both of us, we get along great and I've never met anyone that I've had more in common with. She's now talking more and more about marrige and theres only one thing that bothers me. I didnt lose my virginity until I met her and was 20 years old. She on the otherhand lost her virginity to the first guy she dated at 16 (he was 18) and she's been with 9-10 other guys sexually as far as I know. She's only had intercourse with 3 of them but included the others because they had oral sex ect. I've known this for about 8 months now and it still really bothers me. I feel like I dont know if she's the nice, loyal girl who loves me or the one who hooked up with those guys. I think about it daily and its to the point theres got to be some solution for my mental well being, or I break up with her. I dont really know anybody to ask about this sort of thing so I figured I'd try here. I cant talk to her about it because she starts crying and thinks that I think she's a slut, which I hate to say it but I kinda do, which is f'ed up. Yeah so thats about it. I know many girls/guys who have been with wayyyy more people, but it hits alot harder with my girlfriend.