Girls, have you ever been with man who had hypospadias?

[rebel92]

hi all,

well i was born with this condittion, i had operated it at young age, it works fine, i am about average. hypospadias is when your pee hole is not at the top of the glans, it is lower. it is common these days...
well google it "hypospadias"

but i am very selfconcious about my dick. i am still a virgin ( soon 24) but i started seeing this girl and i like her a lot. but i am to scared to do anything sexual because i think she will find me disgusting ( although looks preety normal i guess, my dick). so how to explain her that this is not my fault?

well thanks

 

[950483]

hi all,

well i was born with this condittion, i had operated it at young age, it works fine, i am about average. hypospadias is when your pee hole is not at the top of the glans, it is lower. it is common these days...
well google it "hypospadias"

but i am very selfconcious about my dick. i am still a virgin ( soon 24) but i started seeing this girl and i like her a lot. but i am to scared to do anything sexual because i think she will find me disgusting ( although looks preety normal i guess, my dick). so how to explain her that this is not my fault?

well thanks

I've got no idea how common it is, but believe it or not, I do know someone who had this condition! He doesn't seem to have any problems attracting women or sleeping with them. If it works fine, and looks okay, I don't think you have anything to worry about . I would probably say there is no need to warn her beforehand, it just makes it into more of a big deal than it is. Talk about it if it comes up, or she asks, but don't scare her by telling her horror stories about a frankenpenis. I'm sure she has far more important things to worry about anyway, like cellulite or stomach fat or similar girl problems. If you realized how self-conscious most women feel about themselves, then believe me, you wouldn't worry so much.

 

[EllieP]

OK, I'll just state this and leave it at that, but I've never ever once considered the location of a lover's pee hole. It's just not a thing that concerns me.

 

[LaFemme]

No I haven't, but it certainly wouldn't be an issue. If she likes you and you are about to get intimate just explain it. You have a different penis not a weird one, if that makes sense.

 

[Renn]

I was once involved with a guy who only had one testicle, so I don't think a misplaced pee hole would phase me... and honestly, I don't believe the majority of women would have an issue with it, either.

 

[EllieP]

No I haven't, but it certainly wouldn't be an issue. If she likes you and you are about to get intimate just explain it. You have a different penis not a weird one, if that makes sense.

I used to think all penii (penium?) were identical. Same size, same shape, same everything. Seven different lovers, yep, total experience up to the last one, all virtually the same, and zero complaints on my part. On the contrary, I applaud them all! If there were differences they were too minute to notice and did not interfere in the least with the festivities.

Then along comes honey bunny. And frankly, I think the foreskin threw me almost as much as the size. Well, this is almost completely different. I've heard of them before, foreskin and big weenies, but thought they were stuff of legend or folk tales. And here we have Exhibit A in the flesh, and more flesh than expected, in more ways than one.

Didn't matter, had sex.

 

[918177]

Hypospadias doesn't phase me in the slightest BUT insecurity does. The problem isn't in your pants, it's in your head.
People with insecurity are exhausting and really I want someone who isn't hard work. I want to be a partner and not a therapist.
Watch your self talk because that voice in your head that tells you "your deformed" is a liar.
I can recommend therapy from a real therapist.

 

[rebel92]

thank you gals
well i am decent looking man, so it is somewhat natural to be concern about my johnson. glad that i found supportive comunity like this one

 

[918177]

You're welcome.

Just for future reference, addressing us as "girls" isn't endearing.
It is an annoyance because we're WOMEN.

Other than that, thanks.
I wish you luck.

 

[rebel92]

sorry hope i didnt offend someone

 

[918177]

sorry hope i didnt offend someone

I think we can safely say that if the ladies here felt offended, in this instance, they would have had no issues in asserting themselves.
A bunch of shrinking violets, we are not.

Just know that it isn't a prefered form of address.

Just something to remember for future threads.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Nope. Played with lots of ding-a-lings and not a surprisingly located meatus in the bunch. Not that I noticed, anyway. I don't know how common it is, but I'd either not notice, or not care much. I might comment on how different it looked, but to me, something like that would make it exotic and interesting. I do love the differences.

 

[EllieP]

Sorry, I had to delete the above responses because of the rules of this forum. But I hope the poster begins a thread of his own to further the discussion.

 

[DaisyDoesIt]

OK, I'll just state this and leave it at that, but I've never ever once considered the location of a lover's pee hole. It's just not a thing that concerns me.

You're just not good at small talk atall, are you?

 

[EllieP]

You're just not good at small talk atall, are you?

Yep.

 

[1031939]

hi all,

well i was born with this condittion, i had operated it at young age, it works fine, i am about average. hypospadias is when your pee hole is not at the top of the glans, it is lower. it is common these days...
well google it "hypospadias"

but i am very selfconcious about my dick. i am still a virgin ( soon 24) but i started seeing this girl and i like her a lot. but i am to scared to do anything sexual because i think she will find me disgusting ( although looks preety normal i guess, my dick). so how to explain her that this is not my fault?

well thanks

It looks different but me we bad or gross or anything so drastic I would even remotely call it disgusting. You cock looks fine to me. And you have an amazing looking head with a nice flare. That would feel very good. If she treats you badly because of your Penis she isn't worth your time anyway.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Saw hypospadias in person for the first time. Looked different, but not unappealing. Functioned fine. Will try it again, schedules permitting.

 

[CarlaM]

Great answers in this discussion.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Also. The dude either didn't know the meatus didn't belong at the underside, or was determined to feign ignorance. I brought up the hypospadias, and he rolled the word around in his mouth a bit. He didn't know the word meatus, nor the word glans. His glans did not go all the way around the shaft. There was some minor scarring, like maybe there had been surgery when he was very young. It looked quite normal, almost like the meatus had just kind of slipped out of position. I could not find a frenulum scar, and he had been circumcised. He had no extra sensitivity where I would have expected that scar to be. I also noticed his circumcision seemed to have been really tight. I'm guessing some stuff went down when he was born and no one ever talked to him about it. He has a son, proof I'm not his first playmate. He seems super confident. He couldn't wait to show it to me once it was erect. We didn't do much, just a little fooling around, but it was fun.

 

[CurseOfCurves]

I have and fairly recently. I wasn't informed about it beforehand. I think had I been I would've just asked a lot of questions.
I had noticed it looked a bit different, his urethral opening was right under the glans and it made the head flare pretty wide. I thought maybe he'd had a rejected piercing at some point. forgot about it as soon as the condom was on.
I say be honest with her. if she's into you she'll accept it as a part of you.