Girls Kiss It's Ok...Guys Kiss Then It's Gay?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Blackthunder, Jun 15, 2006.

  1. Blackthunder

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    I was watching TV and came across a show where two girls were kissing (I mean really going at it, tongue and all) and the guys in the room around them were rooting them on and cheering and obviously overly excited. When they were done, one of the two girls pointed to two guys (I was assuming they were all friends) and said, "now you guys turn." Of course, they said NO vehemently and made every face and gesture of disgust. Another guy behind them made a joke suggesting that if they did it then they were gay. One of the guys got upset and took it as far to even try and punch the guy who made the joke. Now, my question is, why is it okay or not considered a lesbian act when two women are kissing like they're searching for lost treasure in each others throats, but if two guys were to even lightly kiss each other on the cheek, then they're officially gay (not that everyone believes this)?

    Is there a rule with women that doesn't apply to men that keeps their heterosexuality in tact and without scrutiny? I'm not asking because I'm bothered I can't do it. I have absolutely no interest in kissing another man..not that there's anything wrong with it. But I've seen this on TV or in movies so many times I just wanted to ask...why?
     
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    It is not a matter of okay vs not okay kisses. Both are homosexual acts. The difference is that straight men are often (not me) turned on by lesbians, while women find rarely exciting the wiew of two guys kissing.
     
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    I've actually found that to be somewhat untrue. Sure, as a gay man, my female friends are probably of a different cloth than most, but most of them like seeing me kiss and/or make out with another guy. They've confessed to liking watching two men kiss besides just me, and many watch gay porn exclusively for that reason. I've found it to be more 50/50 in what women like in my experience, FWIW

    Cheers!
     
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    I also disagree, it's been commonly stated as a source of pleasure by numerous female posters at LPSG in the past. And last year, following the showing of a gay kiss on a television show, a perfectly non-adult television forum I frequent suddenly had a thread that sprang to over 250 posts in the space of a couple of days, with heterosexual women saying how the sight of two guys kissing turned them on, and with many saying they watched gay porn.
     
  5. Matthew

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    Hello, Gisella? :wink:
     
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    What Matthew ???
     
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    Ok...i can see without problem 2 gays men kissing only if is a gay like Will&Grace... that funny one....I love him & had many friends like him in their expressing of being gay...bcause he is soft i can look...

    But if is 2 gay men muscular and etc...oh man..gay men are gorgeous and they know how to dress and work out (at least in Boston/Copley they are)...of course the lazy ones are different they dont take care of themselves :rolleyes: :tongue: ...well, those muscular kissing i dont want to look bcause i feel its to powerful to me..as i said somewhere to me is just like 2 strong bulls crashing horns fighting...

    About girls kissing is boring to me... maybe 2 real lesbian kissing will be hot...dont know...must see to be sure.
     
  8. Matthew

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    Ha ha, I thought maybe you'd be one of our female members who liked to see two guys kiss ...

    ... but I see I didn't get it quite right! :frown1: :wink:
     
  9. Gisella

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    U got 1/2 right:

    If its 2 gays gay i like to see...

    If is 2 gay machos i dont bcause i want them to kiss me too...:tongue: but they will not pay attention to me...:rolleyes: Can u believe it? They dont want have anything to do with me...:biggrin1:
     
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    I lived on the Island of Crete for two years and the men greated each other with a kiss on the lips. You have not lived until kissed bya full bearded Greek Priest. Ugh.
     
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    You are dealing with a cultural taboo of the U.S.A. and to a certain extent in the U.K. too. In many parts of Europe, North Africa and the Middle East men kissing each other is acceptable. Oddly enough India censors film scenes that depict men and women kissing but male same sex kissing is acceptable. e.g. Brokeback Mountain.

    I have the solution to the problem Matthew.
    We can put Gisella in the middle of our kiss.:3some:


    lol dreamer20
     
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    Clearly there is only one reason. Men are weaker. Guys who freak about this have to be a little bit hysterical. But really going on about a kiss or somebody looking at your dick seems like the male equivalent of a bunch shrieking girls--just in a lower key. Maybe weak guys think being gay could be contagious, and even the sight of a gay kiss could contaminate their sexual orientations.

    Women have more confidence or more brains. They know a kiss is not going to change a damn thing. Not even an orgasm with another girl. Nothing is strong enough to change a real orientation, and most of them know it by instinct.

    I can't imagine some confident straight guy with solid sexual experiences getting very bothered about how other people kiss or who they kiss and why. I can't imagine he would be interested enough to care. There is something bogus about going on and on about what you don't like, instead of simply doing what you do.
     
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    Very well said.
     
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    Not only will guys not kiss, have you ever noticed that when straight men hug each other they turn ever-so-slightly sideways that that their dicks can't rub directly together?
     
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    Yes it's very gay, when guys kiss, and girls kissing is cute. Them's the rules. :rolleyes:
     
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    And here I thought Jesus Christ hadn;t come back yet, to make the absolute rules...:rolleyes:
     
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    It's a double standard and it's total BS, but, that's just the way it is, and for that reason, I hold back sometimes.

    I still hug my best buddy and kiss him on the cheek, but rarely - usually on a birthday or holiday. The guy had a f'ed up relationship with his father, who left him and his mom, when he was barely out of diapers, and it's really screwed him up. To make it worse, he was impatient and overly critical of him, while simultaneously spoiling his second wife's kids right in front of my buddy's face. I feel almost like I've got to make up for some of the affection his father couldn't or wouldn't give him, when he needed it the most - you bet your ass I kiss him.

    And I'm going to keep on hugging and kissing that retard, until he beats me off with a baseball bat. I love him.

    Just the same, I've never kissed him in public and never will, because people are just too damned homophobic. As I've said before, there's a double standard.
     
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    i guess girls seem "innocent" without a dick yet guys a threat in some way eh, just a thought.
     
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    Deliciously descriptive, Gisella. :tongue: That sense of power is what I find so riveting about two men kissing. But I do see your point.
     
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    One of the most intelligent posts i've read on this site, to date. Well done!
     
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