Here's something to think about. If someone thinks that it is gross to see two black people kissing, or that it is gross to see a black man kiss a white woman, does this make the person racist?
Of course. Yes.
But we digress. I was simply trying, repeatedly, to make a point about the original post. I know there will be several who will crucify me for this, but I still believe that if you allow yourself to enjoy double standards, you are allowing yourself to continue with a dysfunction.
Yes, I actually do know a racist with whom I went to junior high and high school, who doesn't care if a white man dates/kisses/fucks a black woman, but he gets nearly apoplectic over black men dating white women. I find that sort of reasoning distasteful and of questionable normality - and by normality, I don't mean how common it is, I'm just addressing the mechanism by which one would justify saying "it's ok for one group of people, but it's not ok for another group of people."
I actually do work at this sort of thing in myself. If someone points out that I'm expressing two different standards, I examine why I think that way and attempt to resolve it.