Girls suck in bed too!

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This is an interesting topic. For one thing it has been my experience that a good lover can make their other half better. Meaning this if she is not "riding correctly" lean up kiss her on the neck softly grab her in the lower back and "help" her find what u are looking for. Keep in mind though what works for u might not do anything for her. Also lots of dirty talk. This does not mean "ride my fucking cock" all the time. Sometimes it is "Mmmm ya baby just like that. Oh ya that's it. Etc." Let her know when she does something right or wrong. I guarntee things I like u might hate. No 2 people are the same so u need to assist your lover to what u want and also listen to her on what she wants.
 

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Thx Dragonfly. I have actually found from different women I have been with that larger guys (8 x 6 myself) tend to be worse lovers than average guys. A lot of well endowed men tend to have a "I'm big that should be enough" idea to sex. I try to please my lover for 1 thing most women I have had problems going all the way into and as such have had to develop other methods of pleasure. Due to the fact that my pelvis is not making contact with hers/ her clit. Wonder if anyone else has found this as well
 

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It all down to chemistry. If there is no chemistry between you and your partner then sex will suck. It doesnt matter if they are female, male or indifferent; or straight or gay sex.

My wife doesnt wank me or suck me but our sex life is fantastic.
 

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For the girls who suck in bed (not with their mouths), I'd say they need a lot of encouragement from their man. I get the hottest when a man wants to know my hottest fantasies and does not make me feel less for them but wants to expand my fantasy to a deeper realm. I'm not saying he is making the fantasy come true, he is just getting turned on by dirty mind. I love lots of imagination and sex talk while I am riding cock.


That's exactly what I like. I love tapping into a girl's mind and bringing forth her deepest, dirtiest taboo fantasies but I realized only some of them are actually down with the idea. I love pushing the envelope. I do it at a different pace with every different girl to not make it too quick and freak them out and with some I've realized that they really just don't like it. These are exactly the girls who are lame in bed. They have sex because they feel they should or need to, not because they really want to get nasty.

The most disappointing thing ever are girls who don't even want to suck dick. If they won't even do that, you can rarely do anything with them.
 

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I can understand where you're coming from about women sucking in bed. A man has to realize, that women are raised by their mothers telling them to abstain..sex is wrong until married, and it's really not discussed. Men on the other hand, have this *male bonding* type of relationship..the teenage girl tells mom about a boy and she hits the roof..same age male tells dad about a girl....dad asks if she's hot..lol Women are raised in this very protected world of sex..(i guess because the guys arent bringing babies home) They have no clue what is within their own sexuality because they never had an open relationship with their mothers. Ladies..ask yourself this question....do you know what makes your mom have orgasms? You've probably never discussed it..which is exactly my point. Alot of women don't feel comfortable within their own sexuality..therefore cannot respond the way they need to..they have no clue. Sex is nothing but an act..a voluntary sequence of actions initiated in obtaining sexual pleasure. What they never realize is..the act in itself is a shell....with nothing in it. Do you know how many women never have an orgasm? Do you know how many of our mothers never did? Can you imagine going your whole life never having achieved sexual satisfaction? Many women have this problem..as do men. It's where the maturity level within the relationship, plays its biggest role..there's good old fashioned fucking..skrumping..whatever you want to call it..then there's LOVE MAKING. To honestly make love to someone is to worship their body..to read thru their eyes what they want and feel from their soul what pleases them most. I have no problems pleasing a man..they usually can't last 2 minutes..lol I've had to teach them a few things about self control!! Next time you're getting intimate with someone think of this while you're doing it.................... is this making love..am i doing this with true depthness and feeling............or is this just skrumping for fun & feelin' good. Also....take mental notes of your partners body..pay close attention to their reactions after performing sexually suggestive acts..read the body language....understand your own sexuality..then utilize those tools in making intimacey pleasurable!! ;)
Very interesting and insightful! Thanks for this.
 

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Yes they do. I've had a few girlfriends who were such prudes about sex. They'd say "I'll do this but I won't do that" which means there are more things they won't do than will. I always felt sorry for their lovers.

I know i'm good. Not because I think so but because of the feedback i've received.

Yeah, it's true.
I understand there's a line between "normal"/"acceptable" sex and "deviant" sex but when girls really limit the things they'd do in sex that would considered "normal" by anyone's standards, it really causes the sex to suffer.
 

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This is an interesting topic. For one thing it has been my experience that a good lover can make their other half better. Meaning this if she is not "riding correctly" lean up kiss her on the neck softly grab her in the lower back and "help" her find what u are looking for. Keep in mind though what works for u might not do anything for her. Also lots of dirty talk. This does not mean "ride my fucking cock" all the time. Sometimes it is "Mmmm ya baby just like that. Oh ya that's it. Etc." Let her know when she does something right or wrong. I guarntee things I like u might hate. No 2 people are the same so u need to assist your lover to what u want and also listen to her on what she wants.
Yeah, definitely. It's all communication. I like talking dirty and being dominant with some girls and I like true passionate love-making with others. It's two individual with different taste (no pun intended) and experiences.
 

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It all down to chemistry. If there is no chemistry between you and your partner then sex will suck. It doesnt matter if they are female, male or indifferent; or straight or gay sex.

My wife doesnt wank me or suck me but our sex life is fantastic.
Interesting. Like I said, I've had bad experiences with girls who don't do oral but I can definitely believe this
 

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I've never understood the double standard in this area...of course women can be just as lousy, actually, and i know I will probably have some shit thrown at me for this, but I will say it anyway...I think women can be worse and the reason I say that is because some women fake it and I just see no reason for that...it's stupid and defeats the whole purpose of having sex with someone...If you fake it, how are you going to help your man know what really works for you? I don't get it and frankly I am sick of reading about men being lousy in bed...I have never been with one who was anything but great...maybe that is because I let them know what I like. It takes two to make it great.
 

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Sex involves two people. If she is a dead fish you are doing something wrong. Get pleasure out of giving pleasure and see how things change.
 

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Id imagine it would be interesting to know exactly how many women are good in bed compared to how many actually are. None of us like to think or admit we are less then great but fact is, we aren't going to please every man we're with.

I think if im not doing well then the guy has a responsibility to tell me what i could be doing to make it better for the both of us.
 

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i wonder sometimes if i'm any good. I don't try to hide the fact that I don't have a lot of experience. When my bf actually commented on it i think I may have turned a few shades of red. if i don't know what to do, I just ask him, which is a little embarrassing in the middle of giving a guy oral sex, but he's still with me so either he likes me, or i must have did something right.
 

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i wonder sometimes if i'm any good. I don't try to hide the fact that I don't have a lot of experience. When my bf actually commented on it i think I may have turned a few shades of red. if i don't know what to do, I just ask him, which is a little embarrassing in the middle of giving a guy oral sex, but he's still with me so either he likes me, or i must have did something right.
That is how you learn to be good in bed...through communication and caring what your partner likes. Good for you, and I'm sure your boyfriend appreciates it.
 

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I would think a guy would really like it if a girl "sucks" in bed. :biggrin1:

But seriously... I don't think I'm very good, due to being brought up sexually repressed. I am still trying to get over my repulsion at the idea of blowjobs. (It was my upbringing... we were even against French kissing, and that still bothers me too, actually more than blowjobs do). I was also brought up surrounded by the idea of "no sex before marriage and very little after marriage"! :eek: (I kid you not).

However, I must be doing something right, I guess, because I have had an open relationship for 14 years. He has criticized me in the past for being not demonstrative enough, but I've pretty much gotten over that. A lot of that was my upbringing plus shyness.

I feel like my upbringing did me a real disservice. My parents were good to me growing up for the most part, but they did have some really Puritanical views about sex, and my extended family was even worse.
 

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I would think a guy would really like it if a girl "sucks" in bed. :biggrin1:

But seriously... I don't think I'm very good, due to being brought up sexually repressed. I am still trying to get over my repulsion at the idea of blowjobs. (It was my upbringing... we were even against French kissing, and that still bothers me too, actually more than blowjobs do). I was also brought up surrounded by the idea of "no sex before marriage and very little after marriage"! :eek: (I kid you not).

However, I must be doing something right, I guess, because I have had an open relationship for 14 years. He has criticized me in the past for being not demonstrative enough, but I've pretty much gotten over that. A lot of that was my upbringing plus shyness.

I feel like my upbringing did me a real disservice. My parents were good to me growing up for the most part, but they did have some really Puritanical views about sex, and my extended family was even worse.

That is just so wrong and unfair, but often parents from a generation or so past, did pass this on. I blame the "religious" crap...that somehow sex is dirty and shameful...bull shit! If one is to believe in God, then one needs to also believe sex is good and enjoyable...even the bible says that! Maybe the puritanical people need to read Songs of Solomon...that book is very sexual!
 

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I not only suck in bed..I'll suck in the kitchen, I'll suck in the car, I'll suck on my knees with my hands tied behind my back.
It does pay to be versatile when sucking.
And even though it isn't nice to brag..I like to suck and I think I'm good at it!!

lol sound like a lady id like to get to know lol
 

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Just to play devil's advocate ? Even the dead fish are trying the best they can perhaps ? What if she is submitting herself to you totally to do as you will ? Not saying a word and seeing where you take it ? Maybe she's waiting on communication herself ?
 

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Sex involves two people. If she is a dead fish you are doing something wrong. Get pleasure out of giving pleasure and see how things change.



YES!!! I really did start to fall into the dead-fish thing when I began to lose interest. And I'm not proud of it lol but it was boring. I wasn't entertained at all. That statement really is very true, at least for me. I have a hard time lying about something like that, so I really can't act like I'm into it if I'm just not.