Over the past several days I've spent my time walking along beach and lounging around in a multi-million dollar beach house with my best friend and 3 attractive girls. Not really a bad way to spend your time!
Now, to setup the back story, I've never really had sex or a real relationship (the reasons for this are not important to this conversation) but I'm a pretty good looking guy and a good person so getting women isn't really a hard thing for me. (Finding the right one is more of a challenge though!)
The first night ended with one of the girls wanting to have sex with me because she "thought we had a thing". (My talkativeness and friendliness is often mistaken for "a thing" with women.) But i turned her down because i wasn't really attracted to her and I'm not going to break a lifetime of abstinence for a girl who wants to do me after knowing me for about 12 hours.
the next day that girl left to visit other friends which ipened up a door for the next one.
That evening, the remaining two girls, my best friend and i had a big "truth or dare" session and and after a long conversation and a few beers, it became apparent that i was again free game and the innuendo started. One of the remaining girls had a thing for me and wanted to have sex.
I know that morals and standards are lacking in todays world but how the hell do you develop a relationship with a woman when all they want to do is have sex with you without establishing any sort of relationship?
Furthermore, how soon in a healthy relationship should you be having sex?
I have my opinions about these questions, but I'd like to get some from all of you.
Now, to setup the back story, I've never really had sex or a real relationship (the reasons for this are not important to this conversation) but I'm a pretty good looking guy and a good person so getting women isn't really a hard thing for me. (Finding the right one is more of a challenge though!)
The first night ended with one of the girls wanting to have sex with me because she "thought we had a thing". (My talkativeness and friendliness is often mistaken for "a thing" with women.) But i turned her down because i wasn't really attracted to her and I'm not going to break a lifetime of abstinence for a girl who wants to do me after knowing me for about 12 hours.
the next day that girl left to visit other friends which ipened up a door for the next one.
That evening, the remaining two girls, my best friend and i had a big "truth or dare" session and and after a long conversation and a few beers, it became apparent that i was again free game and the innuendo started. One of the remaining girls had a thing for me and wanted to have sex.
I know that morals and standards are lacking in todays world but how the hell do you develop a relationship with a woman when all they want to do is have sex with you without establishing any sort of relationship?
Furthermore, how soon in a healthy relationship should you be having sex?
I have my opinions about these questions, but I'd like to get some from all of you.