This may be aimed more at the bi-sexual folk and isn't just for the female board-members, but I couldn't find anywhere else to place it, so, here goes: I've been told, throughout my life, that very few men can match a girl when it comes to performing cunnilingus (the argument that "a girl knows what is good for another girl" being the almost indefensible argument that these people, who say it, use to back up their claim. Yet, I've enjoyed engaging in oral sex with loads of women and whatever "technique" (if there is even such - which I don't believe there is) that works with one - rarely works with another. If it did, I'd be a millionaire by writing a manual). Likewise, I've experienced many blow-jobs from girls and some are "good", some "bad" and some just so-so. And I've also been repeatedly told that a girl cannot give a guy a blow-job as good as another man can (based on the same "understanding of needs" argument as related above). Most girls (in my experience) like their clit to be actually sucked - gently or harshly, I try to go with the flow - licking is nice, but usually not enough. I always end up sucking it as well as licking it and around it. When you perform a BJ, do you actually suck it or just lick it and enclose it and tease it - or do you actually SUCK it, like an infant sucks a teat? If the answer is "suck it", is it just for him or is it a natural impulse (and are you prepared for the result of your sucking, or do you point it aside as it erupts?). Or do you not actually suck?