I would get her a medium diameter double headed dildo, they are plenty long, get one of the flesh colored rubber ones and stay away from the colored jelly kind. My wife complains the jelly kind cause a burning sensation, and we have had several. The double headed ones provide a good hand hold and will never be too short. We've had ours for years and its with us where ever we go. I would also get her a good vibrator to go with it, like a Hitachi Magic Wand or Wahl two speed with some attachments.