Girls who can't take it and the aftermath

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by rowboat15, Nov 25, 2007.

  1. rowboat15

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    So, a couple weeks back the girl I was seeing broke up with me. We had been trying to have sex for about a month and a half. She was never able to get it all the way in without a severe amount of pain (8" l, 6 1/2" around).She did not want to use dildos to loosen herself up more, so we mainly just tried different types of lube. She said she was tired of trying and that the pain wasn't getting better. Apparently, she was looking to gain experience with a fuck friend. I actually wanted a relationship and was willing to have the patience to deal with her lack of experience. I ended up wasting a shitload of time.

    A couple weeks later, I have a one night stand with someone. I talk to her the following week. She says "only stretched out porn stars can take your dick".

    I'm so fucking sick of this.
     
  2. D_Geffarde Phartsmeller

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    Hmmmm maybe bad luck? I'm a bit bigger than you and haven't had many problems. That's not to say it's never happened but usually with patience and foreplay it's solvable. Women are designed to push a kid through that hole haha. Unless you're particularly freakishly big, it's not likely they won't be able to handle it.
     
  3. novice_btm

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    It's not the first time on here that we've heard about size ruining a relationship. However, one thing that always happens in the end, is that if they're not willing to at least TRY to put some effort into making it work, the relationships eventually fail. The tension gets too great, and spills into other areas, and a breakup finally follows. Besides, if one of you wants a relationship, and the other just wants sex, the "relationship" is just one-sided, and again, will fail. You can't "make" someone want to be with you. You've gotta cut your losses and move on, and hopefully to someone who actually enjoys your size.
     
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    Words of wisdom.

    There are plenty of women out there who can take a big cock and who really, really want to. Also, if you find a woman who's a bit too snug for your cock but who's really into you, she will most likely, as Novice says, want to make it work.

    However, making it work involves a lot more than stretching with dildos -- in fact, in my personal experience, stretching is extremely temporary, and doesn't do anything to change the real capacity of a woman's vagina (unless done to extreme excess? -- I don't know).

    I think the real key is arousal (her vagina being fully wet and "tented" to accept you)...if you're having to use tons of artificial lube to squeeze it in, chances are the woman may not be turned on enough to take you in the first place. Some women have trouble getting wet, but most women, by the time they're really turned on, will also be really wet, and that's when you should enter her -- not before.

    However, in my relationship, even though I can get extremely wet, there are still some limitations imposed by my fiancee's size. The reality is, my pussy can only take about one hard fucking from him per day without getting excessively sore. So, we do a lot of oral, S&M activity, etc. and not just fucking.

    If he has fucked me several times on a particular day, he often decides to give my pussy the next one to two days off. We are very fortunate not to have any problems with my jaw, etc. so I can do lots of oral. I understand that can also be an issue for some couples -- if the man has a very thick cock and the woman has jaw problems, there can be limitations there, too.

    Anyway, Artful and I may not be able to fuck as much as we could if he were smaller or my vagina were more accommodating, but we still wouldn't want each other to be any other way. I love the way his thick cock feels inside me, and I'm glad to get that feeling as often as I can, even if it's not for unlimited periods of time.
     
  5. Principessa

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    A few things you need to know, 1) You can't make someone love you. :redface: 2) Invest in some graduated dildos. Should this be an issue again with a girl who likes you enough to try, you don't have to break the mood by waiting for your order to come from amazon.com :smile:

    Here we go again! :rolleyes: The differences between sex with a large penis and childbirth are monumental. For one thing the female body has 9 months to prepare to push out a baby. Some of you men barely give us 10 minutes of fingering and kissing before you want to shove your huge cocks in us. :mad: Foreplay, Patience, Lube, this shall be your mantra. :smile:


    Well said n_b.
     
  6. SpoiledPrincess

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    You don't have to use all of your dick.
     
  7. Guy-jin

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    I think this post is spot-on.

    When you meet someone who you really hit it off with, she will be willing to spend the time with you to help stretch her out, and she will get wet enough and loose enough to accommodate you.

    Make sure to always have some good lube handy, as well. :smile:
     
  8. thugcock05

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    Have had this happen only once to me. In highschool we were 16 and I thought she was soooooooooo hot we were friends. One half day we got high and started fooling around. When we got my cock out Icould tell she wasn't just nervous but flat out scared. I was really worked up and was trying to get it all in there as much and as fast as i could. After about a minute she was shoutng in pain and tearing up a bit and bitched me out bad. I was horny and pissed and tried to talk her back into it but all i got was some hand action. She went home like 10 minutes later never called me back and avoided me in school. But I did learn to take it slower ease into thing communicate a lot and a lil at a time goes a long ways. Plus lots of foreplay and some lube do help.
     
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    Gotta be the girth. He is around the same length as me but almost a full inch thicker. I've never run into a girl who couldn't take mine, but some have needed to take it slow. Before I got with my gf the last girl I was messin' with was sayin how thick I was, and hearing rowboat's story I'm thinking another inch might have been too much for her.

    If it is girth causing that girl so much pain then using only half of it won't work (unless it's much thinner at the top)...
     
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    Become celibate, a porn star, or find a size queen. :yup:
     
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    I Feel Really Sorry For You ...as A Gay Bottom Guy....my Ex Partner Of 14 Years Was Massive But Through Time I Got Him All In And We Often Made Love 3 Times Each Day Or More At Weekends.....if You Truly Love And Want To Be With Someone You Will Persevere And Eventually You Can Become One.......his Problem With Bf's Before Me Was They Wouldnt Even Let Him Attempt Anal And He Was Mega Frustrated By This (hence Why We Had 14 Years Together.....i Was Always Ready For Him 24/7.......would Be Nice To Meet Somone New For Me As Been Alone For Approx 8 Months Now Without Meeting Someone.........im Hoping Good Things Come To Those Who Wait.
     
  12. northwestone

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    holly was soooo right about the being turned on part, and if she wasn't looking for ma relationship she probably would be a bit tense about it.

    there's also this myth that if you get fucked by a really big dick your pussy will become loose and other men will somehow 'know' and won't find you attractive...if this girl thought her pussy would be permanantly disfigured - and somehow the 'you'd have to be a stretched out porn star to take it' comment suggests that she is not alone - she might be less willing to try or able to relax.

    the depth of a woman's vagina is anatomical and as fixed as the length of her arm, the level of dilation is a mix of arousal, experience, relaxation, and willingness to try and everything does go back to it's original size after a wee while unless you do some damage to the tissue by being too rough or forcing yourself...and even then the damage is more likely to be emotional

    our bodies are wonderfully adaptive things capable of many surprising feats, and from which we generally make a full and complete recovery...
     
  13. northwestone

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    although i did watch a video of a man hacking off his own genitals with a machete (yeah thanks for that Italian!) and I'm not quite sure how you'd recover from that....
     
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    I had a girlfriend that I would go clubbing with on occasion. She was a few years older than I was and very attractive. She had some friends that I was interested in dating, so I would go out clubbing with them to get the inside track on a date.

    She found out I was hung above average and she would'nt stop hounding me, she told her friends I had too much excess bagage from some other relationships and they should stay away from me, she wanted me for herself.

    I found out about this and decided to give her what she wanted. One nite after we had been out drinking we went back to her house and I fucked her hard for about a solid hour. She loved it then but the next morning she called and bitched me out. She said her pussy was more sore now than it was when she had her first child, and she had been sitting in a tub of hot water all morning.

    We still speak on occasion but she told me her pussy was off limits to my cock, which was fine by me.

    I guess she got what she wanted, J.
     
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    That's right. It's allways nice to have extra in case you need it.:smile::wink:
     
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    Methinks more was going on with this girl, and maybe she used your penis as an excuse. Time, relaxation and adequate foreplay (become a killer cunni-linguist!) can do wonders. Also, I know women who have had children who would kill for your cock...they can really feel it, opposed to their husband's average or small one. Don't lose heart.
     
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    Plenty of women have found me too big, some found me a challenge, and a few thought i was ideal. Like us men, women are different sizes and enjoy different things. And since we dont wear our respective sizes on tshirts, its alot of trial and error.

    What I try to do is approach it with no expectations. Maybe she'll be happy, maybe she'll tell me "no way". But either way, I'm there to be with her in whatever fashion she would like.

    And yeah, I've had the morning after call. I've also be accused of "ruining" one. But even women dont understand what they want sometimes. It's childish to blame someone for their body part, but its usually out of worry or fear. In the end, just be nice, sweet, and understanding. If nothing else, she'll be using you as a story at a bachelorette party and making the other women jealous or curious.
     
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    I've never even come close to having this problem. but I want to, hehe.

    As with anything, partners have to make an effort to work through issues. If for some reason you were unable to reach a middle ground (you: to make her feel more receptive. her: to relax and prepare her body for the new experience), perhaps she wasn't the one. No doubt one day someone will see your cock and think it's just right.
     
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    I once had a girlfriend years and years ago who had vestibulitis. This is a condition in which the woman has intense pain upon intercourse. Some women are able to get proper treatment, and other always have painful sex......if sex at all. Fortunately, We never did have sex, just some intense kissing and other stuff. So I learned much later that she had this problem. I don't know if your girl could have this, as it is a bit rare. But just throwing it out as a possibility.
     
  20. Mr. Snakey

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    Get a woman with a wooden leg and see if she if she runs away.
     
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