Hello all, just wanted to take a second and put up some thoughts on "girls night out" and also "guys night out" weather you are gay or straight im sure you will have something to say about this.
My wife and I have been married about 3 years, and we are not the most social of people, ( we both work a lot ) - I sell meat, - no really, im not kidding.. thats not a dick joke, and she runs a surf shop.
Last nite she and her co-worker, ( a single female ) went out on the town,
after about a hour of " you're sure you are NOT going to be upset if I go out discussions" I managed to get her out the door, wich is fine, I had to go to a recording studio to do some session work, and knew It would be no fun for her to sit at home all nite by herself, so I gave her a kiss on the cheek and pushed her out the door...
She got home I suppose around 3am, and I returned around 4am, wow, what a work day...
anywho.. this morning on waking up, this was the conversation.
" did you have fun last nite?"
and here is what happened.
her and her gal pal went to west hollywood, for thoes of you who dont know, wich im sure are very few of you, that is a gay community in los angeles, they went to the abby, a coffee house, then to mickys, a gay male strip club.
I have no problem with this whatsoever, and I was laughing about her being a woman who LOVES gay men... doesn't everyone?
the point of this post is this:
is it ok for spouses of signifigant others to.
1. go out with single people, to "meet markets"
2. find themselves in a sexually charged atmosphere with out thier spouse/bf/gf
3. be out all nite?
I told her my only concern was that she NOT drink and drive, that is just good policy, and to NOT do anything stupid.
-accept drinks from anyone she doesn't know.
I have been rather paranoid latley, my good friends wife was reciently killed by a drunk driver, and now he is left with a 2 year old and a 5 year old.
I dont think it is a issue of trust, for you NEVER can control anything that anyone does, and once you accept that you are powerless over someone elses actions, it makes life a lot easyer.. no?
chime in please, and let me know some of your experiences.
Danny
My wife and I have been married about 3 years, and we are not the most social of people, ( we both work a lot ) - I sell meat, - no really, im not kidding.. thats not a dick joke, and she runs a surf shop.
Last nite she and her co-worker, ( a single female ) went out on the town,
after about a hour of " you're sure you are NOT going to be upset if I go out discussions" I managed to get her out the door, wich is fine, I had to go to a recording studio to do some session work, and knew It would be no fun for her to sit at home all nite by herself, so I gave her a kiss on the cheek and pushed her out the door...
She got home I suppose around 3am, and I returned around 4am, wow, what a work day...
anywho.. this morning on waking up, this was the conversation.
" did you have fun last nite?"
and here is what happened.
her and her gal pal went to west hollywood, for thoes of you who dont know, wich im sure are very few of you, that is a gay community in los angeles, they went to the abby, a coffee house, then to mickys, a gay male strip club.
I have no problem with this whatsoever, and I was laughing about her being a woman who LOVES gay men... doesn't everyone?
the point of this post is this:
is it ok for spouses of signifigant others to.
1. go out with single people, to "meet markets"
2. find themselves in a sexually charged atmosphere with out thier spouse/bf/gf
3. be out all nite?
I told her my only concern was that she NOT drink and drive, that is just good policy, and to NOT do anything stupid.
-accept drinks from anyone she doesn't know.
I have been rather paranoid latley, my good friends wife was reciently killed by a drunk driver, and now he is left with a 2 year old and a 5 year old.
I dont think it is a issue of trust, for you NEVER can control anything that anyone does, and once you accept that you are powerless over someone elses actions, it makes life a lot easyer.. no?
chime in please, and let me know some of your experiences.
Danny