Some of the older posters might recognize me - I've not been posting actively lately - but still reading a bit every now and then. I've recently met what could very well turn out to be a potential life-long, primary partner and when we eventually came around to sex I found that I was dealing with something waaay beyond what I've seen before - at least girth wise. We have both had our fair share of sexual partners before we met (and in my case more than one large guy) so have at least some comparison to make as to what is within the boundaries of average size and capacity. From what he says I get the impression he's not had severe trouble with other women he has seen - some intial problems that have disappeared over time. I know I've always been on the tighter side with the guys I've seen. Not hurting very much, but a bit of difficulty getting in intitally. I do have a rare skin condition that affects the genital skin as well - making it tighter and a bit less flexible than normal skin - it's well controlled with medication and has so far never posed any problems for sex. No other gyno issues to speak of and checked regularly so would know from there if something could be potentially affecting it. Length wise we're not talking about any extremes even if he's a big guy there too - about the length of my palm - so roughly around 7" - I've seen and dealt with more there. Now girth... I'm unable to close hand around - which in itself doesn't say much as I have smallish hands. Two pound coins easily lie side to side on top of a rock solid hard on with a bit on the sides to spare. Not perfectly round - more of a flattened cylinder - wider across - but using a cylinder for estimation my guess would be definitely above 6 probably closer to 6.5. From the two times we've been together so far - this does not fit - and it's uncomfortable for me - not pain as such but serious stretching and a bit of burning. I'm wet, aroused, have usually come at least once, have tried using extra lube, different positions to create as little resistance and muscle tension as possible and just about everything that has worked before with big guys. He's puzzled too - but doesn't want to force it any more than necessary (bless him - he's a sweetheart and a keeper). It frustrates me - I want him, I'm turned on by him (and yes, most definitely by the size too - which makes it even more frustrating). Any words of wisdom from the folks here - big guys or women used to them (I'm not unfamiliar either - but stumped here). Just a matter of keeping on trying and letting it take the time it takes - which would be my guess. Or is there something else we could try that we've missed.