I have always had comments from F partners that I was really big. Frankly I thought I was normal (you don't get opportunities in my lifestyle to see other guys with a hard on). When I watched porno once and a while those guys pretty much looked like me so I assumed I was normal. When a lady said that I was really big I thanked her for the compliment and told her that she didn't have to say that just to make me feel good. Anyway I generally found with ladies that (for me and the way I like to press in until I can feel my balls pressing on the lady) my 8" L is just fine. There have been more than one occaision where the lady has said afterterwards that it was fun during but now she hurt a bit. Thus I am pretty much satisfied with my length. I am 7" around in the middle and a little more at the base but with a larger knob on the end but it is not bigger than my size in the middle when I measure it. This is a normal erect size for me and not pumped. My wife had a previous partner with a real long one (she won't give size details but she has said it was too long and often painful). With me she always prefers positions that allow her to manage the angle and depth. She also is very sensitive to any stimulation and she orgasms quickly and then goes dry so we always use lots of lube because I need 15 min. or more of thrusting to get over the top. Sometimes she will come again. Up until lately she was not a vocal lady at all. Anyway I wanted to try to make myself a little bigger (it is addictive)! I bought a pump with a 2 1/4 and 2 1/2 diameter X 9" leght. The 2 1/4 didn't work at all. It was like wearing a safe. As soon as I was pumped I filled it and came within a 1/4 inch of the end. I switched to the 2 1/2 dia. tube and that worked better. After about 6 weeks I noticed that she began to become VERY vocal during penetration. Groaning a lot, murmuring more like in average porno. Lately she comes several times during one fuck with a lot of noise. I have notice that I am a little bigger but no huge gains yet. She doesn't know that I have been pumping so I can only attribute the increase in her orgasm intensity and frequency to the girth change. So here is the question. Pumping is sort of addictive and it is probably too late to stop if I attain a girth that is uncomfortable for her. I would be stuck with what I got. How thick is is too thick?? From what I have read I should be able to add an extra inch. Is 8" just great for most ladies or is that getting on the too big size. Too long can be more easily adjusted for but too wide may not be good at all??