i'm in the same boat as OB on this one. its actually not a lucky thing to have 7+" girth. intercourse has always been difficult at first with every woman i've been with, but over time she can become use to it and even enjoy it. oral sex is difficult. it can be painful for her... as its obviously difficult to open your mouth that much for long periods of time. she usually has to settle for a combination of using her mouth, tongue and hands. and unfortunately i've never had anal with any of my girlfriends. tried with one who actually liked anal, but it was clear it wasn't going to work. i would never want to do anything that would cause pain or lasting damage to someone i care for... so its actually an easy decision for me. as for the guy that supposely anally raped his wife... you've got issue. if its true she should have pressed charges.