Giving up...need advice

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This is beautiful and honest advice. It is SOOOOO important for you to feel confident about yourself. Vibes are everything. Being positive and smiling is so sexy. Men really don't understand that a beautiful face and/or big dick don't make any difference if someone feels uncomfortable with you because you are uncomfortable with yourself. And I think introverts might make for the very best of lovers. Take care of your mind and body and your special someone will follow. They'll be worth the wait and will treasure you for waiting instead of you being loaded down with a ton of failed relationships and poor sexual experiences. Pay attention to your posture. HOOAH!

Some one eluded to this but I will say it cause it has helped me. I don't know what you do, job wise, but you did mentioned that you had joined the military. Guess from your age, you must have right out of high school? and now is out. Again guessing.
Here what I suggestion based on assumptions.
1) if you are out of the military go back to school with the gi bill. If you are out and working go back to school with the gi bill. Community college is a nice place to meet people.
2) go to or join a gym, you can control what your body look like. By the way you can control what you think you look like. If you think your unattractive, as you stated, well change that perception. Do you want someone to like you because no one else will? Thats a pity party not to many "beautiful" peoe want to go to.
3) stand up tall when you walk, you probably slouch. Be proud of yourself and who you are.
4) read this LPSG members blog name is "comically" excellent stories of his bi life as well as his own past. Found him yesterday and couldn't stop reading
5)please, please, please keep us in touch of your life by starting a blog. Journal what your challenges and victories as you experience them. You will get a ton of support. LPSG seem to be a place where an unlikely number of people exist that you did not think do. Because on the nature of an uninhibited site like this people are straight up.
You are capable, young , and a worth while human being who by the way have some cock, lol. Just threw that in to get a smile or two.

Good luck and remember you are still very young!
 

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I've found that when I'm absolutely over it, done with men, relationships, and people in general.... giving up can be a good thing. When I stop looking, and just let things happen in their own time, I meet the most amazing people.

Amen...same experience here. I think its partly because im not trying to impress anyone with what i want them to think i am vs. how i really am...so you forge new relationships without expectations. The second component is that when you are emotionally alone..you are forced to learn how to love yourself...and people who matter pick up on it.
 

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I would warn however that it can go a bit wrong where you end up being so self-indulgent that you don't give a flying fuck about others. I have gone through that stage and am probably the only straight guy who cusses people by calling them breeders.
 

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This is beautiful and honest advice. It is SOOOOO important for you to feel confident about yourself. Vibes are everything. Being positive and smiling is so sexy. Men really don't understand that a beautiful face and/or big dick don't make any difference if someone feels uncomfortable with you because you are uncomfortable with yourself. And I think introverts might make for the very best of lovers. Take care of your mind and body and your special someone will follow. They'll be worth the wait and will treasure you for waiting instead of you being loaded down with a ton of failed relationships and poor sexual experiences. Pay attention to your posture. HOOAH!

Thanks curious I appreciate that and I know I have a long way to go with being happy with my self.

@biitalianbro I have those same feelings and I thing isolation is slowly working for me in terms of loving myself.@ ORCA i'm never gonna get to the point where i'm conceited or arrogant trust me lol